I am the gray divorce in my early 60s and subsequent gray remarriage in my late 60s.

I'm the active adult step-down community that costs $294898098 per year.

i am the 29,000 dollars that the estate sale folks sold the contents of my parents house for, including the nearly new car. I am the badly written will that gave all the decision making authority to a really old attorney who went to college with my father that stipulated that all the house contents including the car be sold, even though there are eight teenaged grandchildren who would have liked the car.

Anonymous wrote:I will pitch in. I am a 63 year old boomer currently working full time, dealing with my silent gen parents with rapidly advancing dementia, paying for one DC's divorce lawyer, and will likely have said DC and child moving in soon. Being a sandwich boomer is fun!

Wow, that really is coming at you from both sides. Hugs.

PP also:

We didn’t waste our money like your generation-we worked hard and saved.

Yes! Saved every damn thing they’ve ever owned, inherited and purchased. My ILs have 3 cars (!), one driver and use their 2 car garage for storage! Need canceled checks from 1989? All are stuffed in file cabinets in a spare bedroom. How about cans of paint from the renovation in 2002? Baby equipment purchased for grandchildren now in college?

DH in complete denial about what a mess he will have to deal with and how long it will take to ready this house for sale.

I will pitch in. I am a 63 year old boomer currently working full time, dealing with my silent gen parents with rapidly advancing dementia, paying for one DC's divorce lawyer, and will likely have said DC and child moving in soon. Being a sandwich boomer is fun!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My 80'year old aunt just died and left me with a mortgage on a house that is an 8 hour drive away and a shit ton of useless China. I'm paying all the bills in the house until I can clean it up enough to sell it

And I miss her, cause she was awesome.

So I win.

ESTATE SALE. AS IS.

AND THEN SELL THE HOUSE AT AUCTION. All contents.

- did this for my late grandparents (as a 20something) when my own mom decided she absolutely couldn’t deal with the travel and overall headache that was the estate she inherited.

I’m my FIL’s 10th-annual pronouncement that this, [birthday, holiday, special occasion] is likely MIL’s very last, so let’s make you feel extra guilty and demand 100 percent family attendance.

Anonymous wrote:My 80'year old aunt just died and left me with a mortgage on a house that is an 8 hour drive away and a shit ton of useless China. I'm paying all the bills in the house until I can clean it up enough to sell it

And I miss her, cause she was awesome.

So I win.

ESTATE SALE. AS IS.

I am the ice on the driveway

I am the wood-burning stove

I am the local volunteer EMT service and I am their one ambulance

I am the mountain road to the hospital, 45 minutes away

I am the skis, the boots, the poles, and the wool socks.

I am the new partner who is broke and depends on my mother to support him and basically parent him because his ADHD is so bad he cannot survive in the wild.

I am the new stepmother who wants the wife privileges but not the wife responsibilities.

I'm the enormous remote control.

I'm the stench of despair in your childhood bedroom which has now become a repository for gadgets, chargers, old clothes, boxes, and dusty china!

I am the bickering between parents who were emotionally immature to begin with, and am now gaining momentum thanks to increased limitations due to aging along with less filter.

What happened to polite and respectful interactions?

This is a fun thread, OP. Thanks!

I have a lifetime of trauma, but I'm stronger than all of you, and I'm the only one who doesn't need therapy. Because "why would I need a therapist when I have my kids."

Also, I've been estranged from most of my family since the 90s, but don't understand why my kids won't drop everything to go on the out-of-state funeral circuit with me.