Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He’s just not that into you.

I have dated busy men who find time for you. It is so easy to blow you off. My now husband used to want to see me (have sex) everyday. None of this slow fade talking and texting.

I think the problem with dating these days is that people are always still on the dating apps. It is so easy to become interested in someone else.

I’d been reading DCUM for years while I was married and believed when people said that everybody is dating multiple partners, at least for the first several months. After I separated and created a dating profile, I assumed that every man I meet isn’t serious about me yet and is dating others. Therefore I didn’t consider having a committed relationship with anyone from the start, and I wasn’t even emotionally available at that time. I ended up hurting several men because of that. They were so excited to meet me, and some of them made it clear right away that they want to date me exclusively and got very upset and disappointed when I told them that it wouldn’t be possible.

I ended up dating one man casually, and when I became ready for a real relationship, I created a new profile and decided that I’m not going to meet with a man unless he is a good candidate for a long-term relationship with me. When I met my boyfriend for the first time, at the end of the first date he made it clear that he wants an exclusive relationship with me, and in 4 days he asked me to become his girlfriend. We deleted our dating profiles and are now sharing locations - have nothing to hide. So no, not everyone is always on the dating apps.

Congratulations? You have a boyfriend after getting divorced.

OP’s man’s attention is elsewhere. Maybe dating apps. Maybe coworker. Maybe he just doesn’t like OP.

Anonymous wrote:Well considering that you two are currently exclusive, I wouldn’t assume things are over until he tells you they are.

Maybe he met someone else?
Do you know if he is still active on the apps??

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He’s just not that into you.

I have dated busy men who find time for you. It is so easy to blow you off. My now husband used to want to see me (have sex) everyday. None of this slow fade talking and texting.

I think the problem with dating these days is that people are always still on the dating apps. It is so easy to become interested in someone else.

I’d been reading DCUM for years while I was married and believed when people said that everybody is dating multiple partners, at least for the first several months. After I separated and created a dating profile, I assumed that every man I meet isn’t serious about me yet and is dating others. Therefore I didn’t consider having a committed relationship with anyone from the start, and I wasn’t even emotionally available at that time. I ended up hurting several men because of that. They were so excited to meet me, and some of them made it clear right away that they want to date me exclusively and got very upset and disappointed when I told them that it wouldn’t be possible.

I ended up dating one man casually, and when I became ready for a real relationship, I created a new profile and decided that I’m not going to meet with a man unless he is a good candidate for a long-term relationship with me. When I met my boyfriend for the first time, at the end of the first date he made it clear that he wants an exclusive relationship with me, and in 4 days he asked me to become his girlfriend. We deleted our dating profiles and are now sharing locations - have nothing to hide. So no, not everyone is always on the dating apps.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would not try to ask what happened. It’s not just the calls but him no longer flirting, complimenting you that’s problematic.
In such cases I mirror the man’s behavior and resume actively dating others. Men always sense your shifted focus. He will disappear completely or actively come back to get you back

OP here. Yes it is the complete lack of flirting and compliments. Its like I am being friend zoned. No " I miss you" or "can;t wait to see you"

So odd...complete shift from how he was talking 2 weeks ago.

Anonymous wrote:I would not try to ask what happened. It’s not just the calls but him no longer flirting, complimenting you that’s problematic.
In such cases I mirror the man’s behavior and resume actively dating others. Men always sense your shifted focus. He will disappear completely or actively come back to get you back

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would not try to ask what happened. It’s not just the calls but him no longer flirting, complimenting you that’s problematic.
In such cases I mirror the man’s behavior and resume actively dating others. Men always sense your shifted focus. He will disappear completely or actively come back to get you back

OP here. Yes it is the complete lack of flirting and compliments. Its like I am being friend zoned. No " I miss you" or "can;t wait to see you"

So odd...complete shift from how he was talking 2 weeks ago.

Anonymous wrote:I would not try to ask what happened. It’s not just the calls but him no longer flirting, complimenting you that’s problematic.
In such cases I mirror the man’s behavior and resume actively dating others. Men always sense your shifted focus. He will disappear completely or actively come back to get you back