Anonymous
Post 06/18/2026 23:34     Subject: How much time with boy/girlfriend
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Anonymous wrote:I'm clearly in the minority here. My 15-year-old and his GF hang out like four times a week, with and without their friends. It works really well (maybe because we live in New York and don't have to drive them around).

They do homework together. They go to the movies. They chat with her mother's cool friends. They spend some Sundays making soup. His grades are great and he meets his responsibilities. And if I know he's at her place (somewhat supervised), I know he's not running around getting into Who Knows What. No complaints.


That sounds wonderful and very healthy.


And if they break up, do either of them have any friends? It sounds like they're each other's main person and playing adult.


Of course they maintain a lot of other friendships, not playing adult.


And you think they're not sexually active? Are you naive?


Different poster, I think my 17 year old is sexually active with her boyfriend. She also has lots of other friends, strong grades, and other interests. All of these things are possible


Good luck when the inevitable break up happens.
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2026 22:26     Subject: How much time with boy/girlfriend
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Anonymous wrote:I'm clearly in the minority here. My 15-year-old and his GF hang out like four times a week, with and without their friends. It works really well (maybe because we live in New York and don't have to drive them around).

They do homework together. They go to the movies. They chat with her mother's cool friends. They spend some Sundays making soup. His grades are great and he meets his responsibilities. And if I know he's at her place (somewhat supervised), I know he's not running around getting into Who Knows What. No complaints.


That sounds wonderful and very healthy.


And if they break up, do either of them have any friends? It sounds like they're each other's main person and playing adult.


Of course they maintain a lot of other friendships, not playing adult.


And you think they're not sexually active? Are you naive?


Different poster, I think my 17 year old is sexually active with her boyfriend. She also has lots of other friends, strong grades, and other interests. All of these things are possible
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2026 21:22     Subject: How much time with boy/girlfriend
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm clearly in the minority here. My 15-year-old and his GF hang out like four times a week, with and without their friends. It works really well (maybe because we live in New York and don't have to drive them around).

They do homework together. They go to the movies. They chat with her mother's cool friends. They spend some Sundays making soup. His grades are great and he meets his responsibilities. And if I know he's at her place (somewhat supervised), I know he's not running around getting into Who Knows What. No complaints.


That sounds wonderful and very healthy.


And if they break up, do either of them have any friends? It sounds like they're each other's main person and playing adult.


Of course they maintain a lot of other friendships, not playing adult.


And you think they're not sexually active? Are you naive?
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2026 18:02     Subject: How much time with boy/girlfriend
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm clearly in the minority here. My 15-year-old and his GF hang out like four times a week, with and without their friends. It works really well (maybe because we live in New York and don't have to drive them around).

They do homework together. They go to the movies. They chat with her mother's cool friends. They spend some Sundays making soup. His grades are great and he meets his responsibilities. And if I know he's at her place (somewhat supervised), I know he's not running around getting into Who Knows What. No complaints.


That sounds wonderful and very healthy.


And if they break up, do either of them have any friends? It sounds like they're each other's main person and playing adult.


Of course they maintain a lot of other friendships, not playing adult.
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2026 16:59     Subject: How much time with boy/girlfriend
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm clearly in the minority here. My 15-year-old and his GF hang out like four times a week, with and without their friends. It works really well (maybe because we live in New York and don't have to drive them around).

They do homework together. They go to the movies. They chat with her mother's cool friends. They spend some Sundays making soup. His grades are great and he meets his responsibilities. And if I know he's at her place (somewhat supervised), I know he's not running around getting into Who Knows What. No complaints.


That sounds wonderful and very healthy.


And if they break up, do either of them have any friends? It sounds like they're each other's main person and playing adult.
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2026 12:59     Subject: How much time with boy/girlfriend
Anonymous wrote:I'm clearly in the minority here. My 15-year-old and his GF hang out like four times a week, with and without their friends. It works really well (maybe because we live in New York and don't have to drive them around).

They do homework together. They go to the movies. They chat with her mother's cool friends. They spend some Sundays making soup. His grades are great and he meets his responsibilities. And if I know he's at her place (somewhat supervised), I know he's not running around getting into Who Knows What. No complaints.


+1 for my 17 yo DD and her boyfriend
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2026 11:34     Subject: How much time with boy/girlfriend
Anonymous wrote:I'm clearly in the minority here. My 15-year-old and his GF hang out like four times a week, with and without their friends. It works really well (maybe because we live in New York and don't have to drive them around).

They do homework together. They go to the movies. They chat with her mother's cool friends. They spend some Sundays making soup. His grades are great and he meets his responsibilities. And if I know he's at her place (somewhat supervised), I know he's not running around getting into Who Knows What. No complaints.


Similar with my 15 year old.
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2026 09:31     Subject: How much time with boy/girlfriend
Anonymous wrote:I'm clearly in the minority here. My 15-year-old and his GF hang out like four times a week, with and without their friends. It works really well (maybe because we live in New York and don't have to drive them around).

They do homework together. They go to the movies. They chat with her mother's cool friends. They spend some Sundays making soup. His grades are great and he meets his responsibilities. And if I know he's at her place (somewhat supervised), I know he's not running around getting into Who Knows What. No complaints.


He’s probably getting into her though.
Anonymous
Post 06/17/2026 19:28     Subject: How much time with boy/girlfriend
Anonymous wrote:I'm clearly in the minority here. My 15-year-old and his GF hang out like four times a week, with and without their friends. It works really well (maybe because we live in New York and don't have to drive them around).

They do homework together. They go to the movies. They chat with her mother's cool friends. They spend some Sundays making soup. His grades are great and he meets his responsibilities. And if I know he's at her place (somewhat supervised), I know he's not running around getting into Who Knows What. No complaints.


Thank you for being sane. Dating is an age appropriate normal teenage activity. Some reasonable boundaries about it are good but some of these are too controlling
Anonymous
Post 06/17/2026 17:04     Subject: How much time with boy/girlfriend
Anonymous wrote:I'm clearly in the minority here. My 15-year-old and his GF hang out like four times a week, with and without their friends. It works really well (maybe because we live in New York and don't have to drive them around).

They do homework together. They go to the movies. They chat with her mother's cool friends. They spend some Sundays making soup. His grades are great and he meets his responsibilities. And if I know he's at her place (somewhat supervised), I know he's not running around getting into Who Knows What. No complaints.


That sounds wonderful and very healthy.
Anonymous
Post 06/17/2026 17:00     Subject: How much time with boy/girlfriend
I'm clearly in the minority here. My 15-year-old and his GF hang out like four times a week, with and without their friends. It works really well (maybe because we live in New York and don't have to drive them around).

They do homework together. They go to the movies. They chat with her mother's cool friends. They spend some Sundays making soup. His grades are great and he meets his responsibilities. And if I know he's at her place (somewhat supervised), I know he's not running around getting into Who Knows What. No complaints.
Anonymous
Post 06/17/2026 16:49     Subject: How much time with boy/girlfriend
Anonymous wrote:Waste of time and unnecessary drama


Teenagers need to learn how to form lots of healthy relationships, including romantic ones. I worry a lot more about the boys alone on their gaming systems in all of their free time than those who are learning how to have relationships.
Anonymous
Post 06/17/2026 16:31     Subject: How much time with boy/girlfriend
Anonymous wrote:^ odd. useless. and harmful


How so?
Anonymous
Post 06/17/2026 16:25     Subject: How much time with boy/girlfriend
We have our daughters in an all-girls school, they see boyfriends once or twice a week if all schoolwork is done and they have no other plans. I appreciate watching their healthy relationships develop and they have continued to do very well in other aspects of their lives.
Anonymous
Post 06/17/2026 16:03     Subject: How much time with boy/girlfriend
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Anonymous wrote:We don’t allow dating in high school, so none.


Either your kid doesn’t attract attention from the opposite sex or same sex which is half the school, or they are low key dating by eating lunch and hanging out whenever possible with that special person.


DP, but, I mean no? How the heck would you know? Plenty of kids don’t date in high school for all sorts of reasons besides “not attracting attention.”