Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Decrease the hounding and negotiation at home. She gets a warning, a command, and a reminder - that’s it. Or that should be the goal you’re working towards.


It sounds like you’re letting transitions drag forever at home.

This. Parents often don’t even realize the they say things like “do you want to take a bath now?” Instead of “it’s bath time” and kids think it’s up for negotiation. Then if the kid keeps playing and you let them keep playing 5 minutes Monday and 3 minutes Tuesday and 10 minutes Wednesday, you are setting your kid up to know you’ll break if they push you. Inconsistency is the worst for strong willed kids.

Be clear with your communication and expectations and follow through.

Do this before blaming the teacher and pursuing diagnoses. Look for a parent coach or watch super nanny to get ideas. Also, be on the same page with your spouse, use the same language and have the same expectations.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your child clearly has ADHD and needs to be evaluated.

Although it’s a possibility, children don’t “clearly” have adhd at 4.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a special educator with experience in inclusive play based programs, and I am curious about people saying that transitions on average every 45 minutes is a lot. Here is the schedule for the last preschool I taught, on days we didn’t have music class.

9:00 Car to playing on the playground
9:30 playground to bathroom to wash hands
9:35 bathroom to snack table
9:45 snack to circle time (song, finger play, story time)
10:00 circle to free play in the classroom
10:55 free play to clean up
11:05 clean up to outside play
11:55 outside play to waiting for carpool
12:00 waiting to going home

So, a simple day with lots of free play and still 9 transitions in a 3 hour day, and an average of a transition every 20 minutes.

45 minute average between transition is longer than I have ever seen. Maybe a Montessori classroom, but even then I think there are going to be more than people think yes, you might have one long work block, but kids are transitioning from working by themselves to being asked to do a group with a teacher etc . . .

i agree- my kid is at a reggio preschool that we LOVE but there's similar amount of transitions-- play in room 30 min, snack, bathroom break, go outside, play more, lunch, bathroom break. montessori sounds like a horrible fit for a kid that has potential adhd/asd

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a special educator with experience in inclusive play based programs, and I am curious about people saying that transitions on average every 45 minutes is a lot. Here is the schedule for the last preschool I taught, on days we didn’t have music class.

9:00 Car to playing on the playground
9:30 playground to bathroom to wash hands
9:35 bathroom to snack table
9:45 snack to circle time (song, finger play, story time)
10:00 circle to free play in the classroom
10:55 free play to clean up
11:05 clean up to outside play
11:55 outside play to waiting for carpool
12:00 waiting to going home

So, a simple day with lots of free play and still 9 transitions in a 3 hour day, and an average of a transition every 20 minutes.

45 minute average between transition is longer than I have ever seen. Maybe a Montessori classroom, but even then I think there are going to be more than people think yes, you might have one long work block, but kids are transitioning from working by themselves to being asked to do a group with a teacher etc . . .

i agree- my kid is at a reggio preschool that we LOVE but there's similar amount of transitions-- play in room 30 min, snack, bathroom break, go outside, play more, lunch, bathroom break. montessori sounds like a horrible fit for a kid that has potential adhd/asd

OP here. Perhaps transitions was the wrong term?

They change classrooms every 45 minutes. For example:

9:00am - Homeroom/Circle Time (30 mins)
9:45am - Science Room
10:30am - Art Room
11:15am - Playground

Etc. until pick up 5:30pm. Clean up/Bathroom/Wash Hands I did not include, but it's all in there as well. I had a good talk with her teachers and they're determined to work with her and try different tools to help support her and was told she had a really good day yesterday.

I'm looking into getting further evaluation and researching play-based programs in the area.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a special educator with experience in inclusive play based programs, and I am curious about people saying that transitions on average every 45 minutes is a lot. Here is the schedule for the last preschool I taught, on days we didn’t have music class.

9:00 Car to playing on the playground
9:30 playground to bathroom to wash hands
9:35 bathroom to snack table
9:45 snack to circle time (song, finger play, story time)
10:00 circle to free play in the classroom
10:55 free play to clean up
11:05 clean up to outside play
11:55 outside play to waiting for carpool
12:00 waiting to going home

So, a simple day with lots of free play and still 9 transitions in a 3 hour day, and an average of a transition every 20 minutes.

45 minute average between transition is longer than I have ever seen. Maybe a Montessori classroom, but even then I think there are going to be more than people think yes, you might have one long work block, but kids are transitioning from working by themselves to being asked to do a group with a teacher etc . . .

i agree- my kid is at a reggio preschool that we LOVE but there's similar amount of transitions-- play in room 30 min, snack, bathroom break, go outside, play more, lunch, bathroom break. montessori sounds like a horrible fit for a kid that has potential adhd/asd

Anonymous wrote:I am a special educator with experience in inclusive play based programs, and I am curious about people saying that transitions on average every 45 minutes is a lot. Here is the schedule for the last preschool I taught, on days we didn’t have music class.

9:00 Car to playing on the playground
9:30 playground to bathroom to wash hands
9:35 bathroom to snack table
9:45 snack to circle time (song, finger play, story time)
10:00 circle to free play in the classroom
10:55 free play to clean up
11:05 clean up to outside play
11:55 outside play to waiting for carpool
12:00 waiting to going home

So, a simple day with lots of free play and still 9 transitions in a 3 hour day, and an average of a transition every 20 minutes.

45 minute average between transition is longer than I have ever seen. Maybe a Montessori classroom, but even then I think there are going to be more than people think yes, you might have one long work block, but kids are transitioning from working by themselves to being asked to do a group with a teacher etc . . .

Anonymous wrote:Decrease the hounding and negotiation at home. She gets a warning, a command, and a reminder - that’s it. Or that should be the goal you’re working towards.


It sounds like you’re letting transitions drag forever at home.

Anonymous wrote:Your child clearly has ADHD and needs to be evaluated.

Anonymous wrote:I am a special educator with experience in inclusive play based programs, and I am curious about people saying that transitions on average every 45 minutes is a lot. Here is the schedule for the last preschool I taught, on days we didn’t have music class.

9:00 Car to playing on the playground
9:30 playground to bathroom to wash hands
9:35 bathroom to snack table
9:45 snack to circle time (song, finger play, story time)
10:00 circle to free play in the classroom
10:55 free play to clean up
11:05 clean up to outside play
11:55 outside play to waiting for carpool
12:00 waiting to going home

So, a simple day with lots of free play and still 9 transitions in a 3 hour day, and an average of a transition every 20 minutes.

45 minute average between transition is longer than I have ever seen. Maybe a Montessori classroom, but even then I think there are going to be more than people think yes, you might have one long work block, but kids are transitioning from working by themselves to being asked to do a group with a teacher etc . . .

Anonymous wrote:I am a special educator with experience in inclusive play based programs, and I am curious about people saying that transitions on average every 45 minutes is a lot. Here is the schedule for the last preschool I taught, on days we didn’t have music class.

9:00 Car to playing on the playground
9:30 playground to bathroom to wash hands
9:35 bathroom to snack table
9:45 snack to circle time (song, finger play, story time)
10:00 circle to free play in the classroom
10:55 free play to clean up
11:05 clean up to outside play
11:55 outside play to waiting for carpool
12:00 waiting to going home

So, a simple day with lots of free play and still 9 transitions in a 3 hour day, and an average of a transition every 20 minutes.

45 minute average between transition is longer than I have ever seen. Maybe a Montessori classroom, but even then I think there are going to be more than people think yes, you might have one long work block, but kids are transitioning from working by themselves to being asked to do a group with a teacher etc . . .

Anonymous wrote:Your Preschool is trying to let you know what is going on with your kid is beyond the scope of "normal" for a child her age... think of this as a gift to get her screened so you can find the best way to help her no matter what is going on.