This is my post from another thread:

I worked with someone who was at a sightly lower position than me, who outwardly appeared to be my BFF but behind my back was trash taking me, especially when I received a competitive industry award and a separate coveted Board position. I cut back my hours to deal with a critically ill spouse who eventually died fairly suddenly and she was promoted. I was just told, by her recently, that I am being terminated. Flimsy reasoning; wants me to tell my long term clients that I am retiring; I am only 50, as to not upset these clients who frequently tell me how much they appreciate me, and have the company look bad. Really struggling tonight after 15 years with what I thought was a successful career and still trying to process my spouse’s death, support my kids and now have to find a new job.

Any advice on how to frame this in interviews? I was told I am being terminated but have 6 months to wrap current projects and then leave. Am I eligible for unemployment even if I get severance?

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Anonymous wrote:Every person over 50 who has been laid off or fired at my company (not is not lot number wise, but it has been EVERY person) tries to claim ageism. It's never been ageism. We have documented the reasons, and employ people well into their 70s in some cases.

We've also fired off plenty of young people. We follow the same procedure no matter the age, and comply with all laws.

Unless you literally work in HR, you are full of crap and just being nasty. As someone who actually knows what happens in RIF, I can say that layoffs of older workers are justified because they often garner higher salaries but if you think that is the end of it, you are ignorant. The unemployment stats cited above do not include the many older workers who were not able to find other jobs once laid off and so are ‘retired’ or remain underemployed. Educate yourself. And btw you will be there soon enough.

I’m a hiring mgr, age 60. I don’t like to hire anyone above 48. It’s smart business.

Anonymous wrote:I think older workers need to consider moving to easier jobs and lower salaries. It’s not always a continuous upward path of improvement for a worker. Sometimes you’re not as good as you were twenty years ago.

Also your health costs rise sharply as you get older. A lot.

Are you also one of the people that thinks older people should sell their homes since you’ve decided they don’t need them anymore?

This post proves the OP’s point that ageism is real.

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Anonymous wrote:
It is. I am very sorry, OP. My husband and my best friend have both gone through this. They did not find equivalent positions.

why would you lead with this? way to make op feel worse

No equivalent position doesn’t mean no position.

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Anonymous wrote:This is why federal government is great, especially if you have relevant industry experience. I work with a lot of smart, experienced older folks who still managed to survive DOGE. They make SES level money and that has compounded for 30+ years.

The Fed’s are starting to hire again. It still has a lot more protections than the private sector.

Pay is too low.

Disagree

Anonymous wrote:It took my 63 year old husband 7 months to find another job. It was stressful but worked out, a lateral move in terms of pay at least.

This is not typical at all. What field and level?

Anonymous wrote:This is why federal government is great, especially if you have relevant industry experience. I work with a lot of smart, experienced older folks who still managed to survive DOGE. They make SES level money and that has compounded for 30+ years.

The Fed’s are starting to hire again. It still has a lot more protections than the private sector.

Pay is too low.

This is why federal government is great, especially if you have relevant industry experience. I work with a lot of smart, experienced older folks who still managed to survive DOGE. They make SES level money and that has compounded for 30+ years.

The Fed’s are starting to hire again. It still has a lot more protections than the private sector.

Anonymous wrote:It took my 63 year old husband 7 months to find another job. It was stressful but worked out, a lateral move in terms of pay at least.

Was he an executive level. That’s the only path for that age group.

Anonymous wrote:My 50-something partner just applied to apprentice as an electrician. He left his ivy-league graduate degree off his application and only listed his BS, without the year.

I don't believe you.

It took my 63 year old husband 7 months to find another job. It was stressful but worked out, a lateral move in terms of pay at least.

Spouse laid off at 60, from a well paying job. Took 9 months, but was hired for a better job. Network, network, network.

The economy was better then (2018 maybe 2019), but my office has made 2 hires recently that we didn't even advertise. Because when you do post a job, you get over a thousand of candidates who don't come close to your qualifications, have no experience, and based on their resumes, didn't even look at the job, just clicked and submitted.

So my suggestion, based on spouses experience, is to tell everyone you know that you are looking. The parents on your kids sport team, at church, wherever you volunteer or are part of some group, because today, that is how you get a job

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think older workers need to consider moving to easier jobs and lower salaries. It’s not always a continuous upward path of improvement for a worker. Sometimes you’re not as good as you were twenty years ago.

Also your health costs rise sharply as you get older. A lot.

Exactly this, and what I am preparing for. I am 47 and assuming at some point I will have to downshift. Holding on as long as I can, but at least debt free and on track to be mortgage-free (or able to be if I need to) within 5 years. Hopefully can hold out for 6-7 more years to get my kids all the way through college debt-free.
I actually love doing work like building, repairs, and carpentry. Maybe I’ll become a low-cost handyman.

Stop responding to yourself.

???

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think older workers need to consider moving to easier jobs and lower salaries. It’s not always a continuous upward path of improvement for a worker. Sometimes you’re not as good as you were twenty years ago.

Also your health costs rise sharply as you get older. A lot.

Exactly this, and what I am preparing for. I am 47 and assuming at some point I will have to downshift. Holding on as long as I can, but at least debt free and on track to be mortgage-free (or able to be if I need to) within 5 years. Hopefully can hold out for 6-7 more years to get my kids all the way through college debt-free.
I actually love doing work like building, repairs, and carpentry. Maybe I’ll become a low-cost handyman.

Stop responding to yourself.

Anonymous wrote:I think older workers need to consider moving to easier jobs and lower salaries. It’s not always a continuous upward path of improvement for a worker. Sometimes you’re not as good as you were twenty years ago.

Also your health costs rise sharply as you get older. A lot.

Exactly this, and what I am preparing for. I am 47 and assuming at some point I will have to downshift. Holding on as long as I can, but at least debt free and on track to be mortgage-free (or able to be if I need to) within 5 years. Hopefully can hold out for 6-7 more years to get my kids all the way through college debt-free.
I actually love doing work like building, repairs, and carpentry. Maybe I’ll become a low-cost handyman.