The straps need to be wide enough to hide my bra. also, it I get the dress over my shoulders, the bottom is like a boat.
Who decided that the bottom is 2-3 inches bigger than the top? I'm 3 inches bigger on the top. I can wear wrap dresses mostly.

To me, spaghetti straps are a young look. I am not offended by the look, just not my thing.

Anonymous wrote:Spaghetti straps at a graduation isn’t appropriate attire for women in their 40s-50s. If you want to wear spaghetti straps, save it for casual, everyday attire, or fancy events.

+1 more for going out or for a wedding if a fancy dress

Anonymous wrote:I wear them, but also have a fairly small chest.

If you need a supportive bra, it's hard to wear anything that has thin straps.

And, even though I wear them elsewhere, I wouldn't wear spaghetti straps to a graduation, probably a more covered sleeveless dress.

I wear them, but also have a fairly small chest.

If you need a supportive bra, it's hard to wear anything that has thin straps.

I remember my mom being embarrassed to show her arms, definitely since her 40s. I also remember the norm that spaghetti straps weren't appropriate for dressy events without a cardigan or something covering your shoulders. Even those tiny short sleeves ones. Showing bra straps was considered "showing your underwear" and very inappropriate ever.

I'm 40 now and I do wear sleeveless and spaghetti strap stuff, but I still wear strapless bras and would probably bring a sweater for a graduation. I think there are different modesty expectations at play across generations.

I wear them. My chest is gorgeous and smooth and unblemished with no wrinkles but I do have batwings. Don't care.

Anonymous wrote:I'm 46 and have great tone and clear skin, but the clothes I buy just don't come with spaghetti straps, OP, apart from a couple of tank tops. I wouldn't mind showing my bra straps, they're not ugly and I don't think bra straps are intrinsically inappropriate. It just doesn't happen very often...

I have a top with an open back, though (and a special lace bra to go with it), and regularly wear short shorts and mini skirts.

Showing bra straps looks cheap and tacky. Now multiply that by many times if you’re in your 40s and 50s.

Spaghetti straps at a graduation isn’t appropriate attire for women in their 40s-50s. If you want to wear spaghetti straps, save it for casual, everyday attire, or fancy events.

I don't wear spaghetti straps because I want to wear a real bra, but I do go sleeveless all the time.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 53 and still wear them if weather appropriate. My arms are fine. The potbelly I’ve acquired with menopause and my sagging jowls are a different problem.

I have a tube top style strapless bra that I got from soma that is sooooo comfortable and stays up really well.

Link to the bra?

https://www.soma.com/store/product/Enbliss-Bandeau-Bra/570319589?color=719&size=M&sem=pla&utm_campaign=Soma_PLA_GG_Enbliss-Priority&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_content=784901673725x189138279819x23282142665&ogmap=MP-SEM%7CMP-PLA%7CGOOG%7CSTANDARD%7CMULTI%7CSITEWIDE%7C%7C%7C%7C23282142665%7C189138279819%7C&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=23282142665&gbraid=0AAAAADqcMZcZOJB2m_kVBfyoDkun1i_Af&gclid=Cj0KCQjwiJvQBhCYARIsAMjts3JJepK_7Cnpk_DztkEexLUMyQPu5IzdNiQz2ZYuhZBipJ3-reMceZ8aAj0kEALw_wcB

It’s really soft fabric and isn’t binding although it sort of looks it in this photo.

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Anonymous wrote:I have great arms and shoulders and look better in a halter dress. Luckily they even make convertible bras that work with a halter, so win win on that front, over the spaghetti straps.

Does everyone remember when it was cool to show bra straps like in the late nineties early aughts? I had special bras with cute straps just for those outfits.

I have nice bra straps and don't care if they show.

Wear whatever you want, but since we’re commenting on a fashion thread, some styles really don’t translate well at different ages. Having your bra straps show in your 40s and 50s reads as tacky and undone.

No, not tacky.
Trashy is more like it.

I have axillary breast tissue under my arms ["tail of Spence,"] and most sleeveless tops or spaghetti straps expose it . Very few manufacturers construct garments with fabric cut to cover this area properly.

It’s the bra issue for me. I have such a problem with strapless bras and going braless is a non-starter.

They’re sort of in the same category as babydoll dresses to me. Something I have outgrown.