Anonymous
05/15/2026 18:04
Subject: Am I going out too much?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It doesn’t seem like a lot to me. You don’t mention if you work. If you are a SAHM, you could probably find a gym with childcare and take classes there during the day.
OP wrote that they both work full time.
Both husband and wife working full time, husband working overtime, and one or both having multiple solo outside-family obligations with small children is objectively being stretched thin on time.
OP might be minimizing the state of things too because the way the story is told comes off is, she’s totally reasonable and right and it’s such a small tiny thing obviously, and her husband is obviously irrational, unreasonable, lazy, evil, and wrong.
If her H feels stretched thin on time, he can set some boundaries with work and not work in the evenings. His work hours are his choice.
OP should not give up what makes her happy because her H lacks the spine to say no to work.
What a ball buster, jeez. Let me guess, you’re divorced?
Of course PP is divorced. Seriously though, I don't know how OP's marriage will last. One of these days she will be back here as a divorcee too
Anonymous
05/15/2026 17:54
Subject: Am I going out too much?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:No, it's not excessive. What sort of louse of a husband cannot watch their own child for those periods of time? Shame on him.
Ah the man haters have arrived.
Its so ironic how the man haters all look like dumpy men who no man wants anyways.
Anonymous
05/15/2026 17:53
Subject: Am I going out too much?
I go to a gym that has childcare for younger children. Seems something like that would help in your scenario.
Anonymous
05/15/2026 17:51
Subject: Am I going out too much?
Hire a babysitter.
Anonymous
05/15/2026 17:36
Subject: Am I going out too much?
That’s over 20% out in a month.
What are you - 16?
What are you - 16?
Anonymous
05/15/2026 14:39
Subject: Re:Am I going out too much?
I attend a fitness class once a week and go out with a social organization twice a month.
That's really not that much, but he should also have that time free.
our kids are older so it doesn't matter so much but my spouse is very dedicated to a class that runs 5:30-7 tu and thur, as well as saturday morning. I do whatever I can do accomodate. I travel a lot for work and he doesn't so it evens out.
Anonymous
05/15/2026 10:21
Subject: Am I going out too much?
It’s not too much.
Anonymous
05/15/2026 10:12
Subject: Am I going out too much?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It doesn’t seem like a lot to me. You don’t mention if you work. If you are a SAHM, you could probably find a gym with childcare and take classes there during the day.
OP wrote that they both work full time.
Both husband and wife working full time, husband working overtime, and one or both having multiple solo outside-family obligations with small children is objectively being stretched thin on time.
OP might be minimizing the state of things too because the way the story is told comes off is, she’s totally reasonable and right and it’s such a small tiny thing obviously, and her husband is obviously irrational, unreasonable, lazy, evil, and wrong.
If her H feels stretched thin on time, he can set some boundaries with work and not work in the evenings. His work hours are his choice.
OP should not give up what makes her happy because her H lacks the spine to say no to work.
What a ball buster, jeez. Let me guess, you’re divorced?
Why don’t you want to hold men accountable for their choices? He chose his job, he chose to take on extra work. That’s fine, but his choices don’t mean he gets to dictate what everybody else does with their time.
If he’s feeling stretched too thin, he needs to cut back on work. Not demand everyone cater to him.
So that’s a yes, divorced then. Sure, a conversation about both parties prioritizing time can and should be had. But without the whole hostile, nasty and contemptuous tone and assuming the worst thing you’re doing. Speaking like that leads to divorce, as I am sure you know. Let’s operate under the assumption that DH and OP are capable enough to love and respect each other since they managed to have 3 kids together!