Anonymous
05/14/2026 13:12
Subject: Teams that are diversity friendly
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:VA:
Volley Viet
But OP is looking for older girls and 5 would like to stay together. This club js known for taking returning players and there will only be a spot of one wants to leave. They are extremely loyal, more than other clubs, which might cut if someone with more skill comes along.
You won’t be able to get 5 girls together at an older age on a VV team.
It is unreasonable to think that 5 girls would manage to stay together unless they are trying out for a less competitive club. Their level of play must be way over the club average to have a chance to displace the returning players. Or a club with poor retention rate (which is a red flag for other reasons). The club will prefer their returning players if the new players trying out are at the same or slightly better level. Some clubs may want to replace some of their own players due to attitude or stagnation (or even height), but you rarely see good clubs replacing 5 players.
I never said that they needed to be on the same team.
Then this is more realistic. Good luck and hope you have a better experience no matter where you end up going!
Anonymous
05/14/2026 10:39
Subject: Teams that are diversity friendly
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:VA:
Volley Viet
But OP is looking for older girls and 5 would like to stay together. This club js known for taking returning players and there will only be a spot of one wants to leave. They are extremely loyal, more than other clubs, which might cut if someone with more skill comes along.
You won’t be able to get 5 girls together at an older age on a VV team.
It is unreasonable to think that 5 girls would manage to stay together unless they are trying out for a less competitive club. Their level of play must be way over the club average to have a chance to displace the returning players. Or a club with poor retention rate (which is a red flag for other reasons). The club will prefer their returning players if the new players trying out are at the same or slightly better level. Some clubs may want to replace some of their own players due to attitude or stagnation (or even height), but you rarely see good clubs replacing 5 players.
I never said that they needed to be on the same team.
Anonymous
05/14/2026 08:44
Subject: Teams that are diversity friendly
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How are you confident that playing time was driven by racism? There are parents and kids of all races who would tell you they believe this is also happening on their team: “some of our best players are on the bench, while others are exhausted from playing too much”.
But, not agreeing with the coaches decision, or believing everyone should have more playing time, that’s not the same thing, and it’s also pretty common depending on which club you are at.
I asked for recommendations and you are giving me a lecture about why it's probably not racism. Why?
NP. Ima guess it's because some white people are tired of all this race talk already.
Tell people to stop being racist. It comes up because some of us deal with racism. We’re pretty tired of dealing with it too. Stop the racism means stopping the race talk.
Anonymous
05/14/2026 07:52
Subject: Teams that are diversity friendly
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:VA:
Volley Viet
But OP is looking for older girls and 5 would like to stay together. This club js known for taking returning players and there will only be a spot of one wants to leave. They are extremely loyal, more than other clubs, which might cut if someone with more skill comes along.
You won’t be able to get 5 girls together at an older age on a VV team.
It is unreasonable to think that 5 girls would manage to stay together unless they are trying out for a less competitive club. Their level of play must be way over the club average to have a chance to displace the returning players. Or a club with poor retention rate (which is a red flag for other reasons). The club will prefer their returning players if the new players trying out are at the same or slightly better level. Some clubs may want to replace some of their own players due to attitude or stagnation (or even height), but you rarely see good clubs replacing 5 players.
Anonymous
05/14/2026 06:01
Subject: Teams that are diversity friendly
Anonymous wrote:VA:
Volley Viet
But OP is looking for older girls and 5 would like to stay together. This club js known for taking returning players and there will only be a spot of one wants to leave. They are extremely loyal, more than other clubs, which might cut if someone with more skill comes along.
You won’t be able to get 5 girls together at an older age on a VV team.
Anonymous
05/13/2026 15:10
Subject: Teams that are diversity friendly
This is super helpful. Thank you!
Anonymous
05/13/2026 14:26
Subject: Teams that are diversity friendly
Sorry got the typos. I submitted too early.
Anonymous
05/13/2026 14:25
Subject: Teams that are diversity friendly
Anonymous wrote:Hi, can you be more specific about your experiences? I don’t need club info but I want to be aware of what might be going on so that asa a parent I don’t find myself in a position to give a silent nod to any type of discriminatory behavior.
Sure,
It's pretty obvious on out team. We have four kids that never leave the court that just aren't good enough to earn that type of privilege. One has only sat out four rotations in five tournaments.
The first red flag is that the team had only three travel players return from 13u. Only one returned because of location. They brought in four additional kids of color and the rest was filled mostly with players from the 13u lower regional team.
We carry 13 players. Eight white and five of color. The statistics show that six of those players play the majority of the minutes. Also two will consistently have more errors than points. One of those has only left the floor four times in five entire tournaments.
Given it's almost impossible to play a volleyball tournament with only eight players, they will sometimes rotate in a kid of color. Although four of the five kids of color have better stats than the white kids, the kids of color hardly see playing time.
The few times we have won we had four kids of color in the rotation. Although they didn't have the same opportunity to make mistakes as the white kids, we played much better. It should be noted that we had a different coach in all those instances.
As I said, it should be pretty obvious about what's going on. Everyone on the team sees it.
The best advice I can give is to any parent is to watch the old games on Hudl, YouTube, and other platforms. You can see the level of play and progress of the players. The body language of the coaches and players is also a great indicator of potential dysfunction. See if they are coaching the kids up on the sidelines.
Anonymous
05/13/2026 12:54
Subject: Teams that are diversity friendly
Hi, can you be more specific about your experiences? I don’t need club info but I want to be aware of what might be going on so that asa a parent I don’t find myself in a position to give a silent nod to any type of discriminatory behavior.
Anonymous
05/13/2026 12:52
Subject: Teams that are diversity friendly
Anonymous wrote:
NP. I would add that most of us probably have such diverse teams that OP's premise doesn't make sense. If the Black/Asian/Indian girls were benched on my DDs team, they wouldn't have enough white girls to field a team.
That sounds like what I am looking for. Can you recommend your team?
Nobody wants your kid top try out for their team. I can smell the drama from here.
Anonymous
05/12/2026 22:52
Subject: Teams that are diversity friendly
Anonymous wrote:This is for the OP- our family has experienced racism this year. It’s really easy for people who don’t have things happen to them / impact them say “no one experiences this ” “it never happens ” “we are tired of race”. Especially in these anonymous forums.
So are we. The difference is that you don’t have to deal with any of the blatant or structural issues of race daily. And we do, everyday.
I say this coming from my family’s experience with a kid who is on the “starting six” on a 1s / national team.
- Just because you have a mix of races on the team doesn’t mean it is inclusive / inclusive welcoming
- Just because you have coaches who are non-white doesn’t mean that your kid will not be singled out
- Just because you have families of color on the team does not mean they will acknowledge the racism - all skin folk ain’t kin folk.
With the rarified air of $10K plus volleyball seasons (fee + all the travel crap) raciam is kind of expected because it is also a class issue (unfortunately) but that does not mean that you can’t look for something that is a better fit for the players.
Here are my recs for teams to consider (culture wise) since they are either led by people of color, have lots of diverse players and/ or have a commitment to diversity. None of these clubs take ranking, coaching or player development into account (so do your due diligence). They are also in the smaller side.
I’ve found that you’ll have really good coaches on poorly ranked teams - and highly ranked teams with pretty crappy coaching. It’s kind of like buying a house - you have to compromise on something….what that something(s) look like will shape how you go into next season.
MD:
All City Volleyball
American Volleyball Club North
Rockville Volleyball Association
MVSA (it’s not a small club by any means but super diverse players)
VA:
Look at your Metro regional teams, PW and FX
Libero
No Panic
X Factor
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Thank you!!! We have a lot of girls who will need new teams. They have all agreed to train together over the summer so hopefully they will be in a good position for club and high school tryouts
I have to disagree with the idea that clinics give kids insight into the culture. We have been to a lot, and the hosts are always at their best behavior. Then, after a few tournaments, the masks came off.
But again, thank you for your help.
Anonymous
05/12/2026 21:22
Subject: Teams that are diversity friendly
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How are you confident that playing time was driven by racism? There are parents and kids of all races who would tell you they believe this is also happening on their team: “some of our best players are on the bench, while others are exhausted from playing too much”.
But, not agreeing with the coaches decision, or believing everyone should have more playing time, that’s not the same thing, and it’s also pretty common depending on which club you are at.
I asked for recommendations and you are giving me a lecture about why it's probably not racism. Why?
NP. Ima guess it's because some white people are tired of all this race talk already.
This is very white of you to say that. Of course white folks are tired of hearing this "race talk" because they don't experience racism. For them, everything is fine because it doesn't happen to them. Unless they feel like "reverse racism" is coming after them as soon as their privilege is threatened. By the way: that's why white folks want to learn the history that makes them feel good inside - learning how others were mistreated is more of that "race talk" that they don't want to hear.
Anonymous
05/12/2026 15:04
Subject: Teams that are diversity friendly
VA:
Volley Viet
Volley Viet
Anonymous
05/12/2026 14:18
Subject: Teams that are diversity friendly
This is for the OP- our family has experienced racism this year. It’s really easy for people who don’t have things happen to them / impact them say “no one experiences this ” “it never happens ” “we are tired of race”. Especially in these anonymous forums.
So are we. The difference is that you don’t have to deal with any of the blatant or structural issues of race daily. And we do, everyday.
I say this coming from my family’s experience with a kid who is on the “starting six” on a 1s / national team.
- Just because you have a mix of races on the team doesn’t mean it is inclusive / inclusive welcoming
- Just because you have coaches who are non-white doesn’t mean that your kid will not be singled out
- Just because you have families of color on the team does not mean they will acknowledge the racism - all skin folk ain’t kin folk.
With the rarified air of $10K plus volleyball seasons (fee + all the travel crap) raciam is kind of expected because it is also a class issue (unfortunately) but that does not mean that you can’t look for something that is a better fit for the players.
Here are my recs for teams to consider (culture wise) since they are either led by people of color, have lots of diverse players and/ or have a commitment to diversity. None of these clubs take ranking, coaching or player development into account (so do your due diligence). They are also in the smaller side.
I’ve found that you’ll have really good coaches on poorly ranked teams - and highly ranked teams with pretty crappy coaching. It’s kind of like buying a house - you have to compromise on something….what that something(s) look like will shape how you go into next season.
MD:
All City Volleyball
American Volleyball Club North
Rockville Volleyball Association
MVSA (it’s not a small club by any means but super diverse players)
VA:
Look at your Metro regional teams, PW and FX
Libero
No Panic
X Factor
So are we. The difference is that you don’t have to deal with any of the blatant or structural issues of race daily. And we do, everyday.
I say this coming from my family’s experience with a kid who is on the “starting six” on a 1s / national team.
- Just because you have a mix of races on the team doesn’t mean it is inclusive / inclusive welcoming
- Just because you have coaches who are non-white doesn’t mean that your kid will not be singled out
- Just because you have families of color on the team does not mean they will acknowledge the racism - all skin folk ain’t kin folk.
With the rarified air of $10K plus volleyball seasons (fee + all the travel crap) raciam is kind of expected because it is also a class issue (unfortunately) but that does not mean that you can’t look for something that is a better fit for the players.
Here are my recs for teams to consider (culture wise) since they are either led by people of color, have lots of diverse players and/ or have a commitment to diversity. None of these clubs take ranking, coaching or player development into account (so do your due diligence). They are also in the smaller side.
I’ve found that you’ll have really good coaches on poorly ranked teams - and highly ranked teams with pretty crappy coaching. It’s kind of like buying a house - you have to compromise on something….what that something(s) look like will shape how you go into next season.
MD:
All City Volleyball
American Volleyball Club North
Rockville Volleyball Association
MVSA (it’s not a small club by any means but super diverse players)
VA:
Look at your Metro regional teams, PW and FX
Libero
No Panic
X Factor
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How are you confident that playing time was driven by racism? There are parents and kids of all races who would tell you they believe this is also happening on their team: “some of our best players are on the bench, while others are exhausted from playing too much”.
But, not agreeing with the coaches decision, or believing everyone should have more playing time, that’s not the same thing, and it’s also pretty common depending on which club you are at.
I asked for recommendations and you are giving me a lecture about why it's probably not racism. Why?
NP. Ima guess it's because some white people are tired of all this race talk already.
This!
Plus no one else has experienced any racism on any volleyball team so we can't help you. VB is by far one of the most diverse sports out there besides mens basketball.
Anonymous
05/12/2026 06:51
Subject: Teams that are diversity friendly
I got it y'all.
Thanks.
Thanks.