Anonymous
Post 05/11/2026 10:05     Subject: Current club ghosting us. What do I do next?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:At U10, no kid should be in goal the entire game. Half at most.

It sounds like he is ALWAYS in goal? Is that the case?


He's in goal about 75% of the time. It is his best position and his preferred position


Is he getting goalie specific training during practice? At this age coaches/teams value kids who want to play goalie because most kids don’t. You really need to find another team. As others mentioned at this age he should be doing half game as goalie and some time in the game.


He isn't getting GK specific training from the club during regular team practice, but they have an additional session once a week just for GKers that he attends. He also does 1 on 1 training with a goalie coach that we pay for.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2026 09:44     Subject: Current club ghosting us. What do I do next?

I know exactly what is happening.

They are trying to make sure all 6 teams have a kid willing to play GK and are waiting to put him on a team until they hear back from other kids.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2026 09:38     Subject: Current club ghosting us. What do I do next?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:At U10, no kid should be in goal the entire game. Half at most.

It sounds like he is ALWAYS in goal? Is that the case?


He's in goal about 75% of the time. It is his best position and his preferred position


Is he getting goalie specific training during practice? At this age coaches/teams value kids who want to play goalie because most kids don’t. You really need to find another team. As others mentioned at this age he should be doing half game as goalie and some time in the game.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2026 08:48     Subject: Current club ghosting us. What do I do next?

I need to hear more about this sketchy coach.

"Being without his phone since last night" is no reason to miss a soccer game. Unless he was in jail. Or passed out drunk as a skunk.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2026 08:01     Subject: Current club ghosting us. What do I do next?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:At U10, no kid should be in goal the entire game. Half at most.

It sounds like he is ALWAYS in goal? Is that the case?


He's in goal about 75% of the time. It is his best position and his preferred position


He should NOT be, even if he loves it. He needs to improve his field skills in game situations.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2026 08:00     Subject: Current club ghosting us. What do I do next?

Anonymous wrote:At U10, no kid should be in goal the entire game. Half at most.

It sounds like he is ALWAYS in goal? Is that the case?


He's in goal about 75% of the time. It is his best position and his preferred position
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2026 07:46     Subject: Current club ghosting us. What do I do next?

At U10, no kid should be in goal the entire game. Half at most.

It sounds like he is ALWAYS in goal? Is that the case?
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2026 07:08     Subject: Current club ghosting us. What do I do next?

Sounds like another fake fable to me. Fodder for the gullible.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2026 07:04     Subject: Re:Current club ghosting us. What do I do next?

There are great smaller clubs out there. Search this board for other clubs or think about clubs your DC has played against that you liked the coaching style and attend tryouts for those teams. I’m sure you can find a better team.

If your kid is playing goalie and just being put in that position because they don’t have anyone else to play then he is not going to improve his soccer skills with current club.
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2026 16:02     Subject: Current club ghosting us. What do I do next?

He "didn't have access to his cell phone" and also, couldn't show up for a morning game? He was arrested or passed out completely drunk.
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2026 16:00     Subject: Current club ghosting us. What do I do next?

If there are 6 teams, I can't imagine a club would piss a family off by moving a kid down to the 5th team. No one cares who is on the 3rd-6th teams at these huge clubs, and the people who run the clubs basically consider kids on team 3-team 6 to be interchangeable credit cards.

Also, i think your coach was arrested last night.

Anonymous
Post 05/10/2026 15:36     Subject: Current club ghosting us. What do I do next?

These stories make me so angry.
Kids learn a lot of lessons through sports, good and bad. About winning and losing about hard work that pays off and doesn't, about team work and it's joys and pitfalls, And while it sucks to see your kid learn the hard lessons, I think most of us would say it's a big part of the reason we are happy our kids play sports.
Already just due to necessity I think most would agree that tryouts are an imperfect process, but we live with that because there are restrictions on time and space and we hope and see that over time things normally even out.
But this is preventable. I don't think it's too much to ask a Club or a coach to remember the youth in youth sports. These are kids. And being fair and honest with kids seems like the minimum we should expect for the money we pay.
So yes, you should run from this Club, especially after this coach thing today, but I think we should all want better from the adults that run these Clubs.
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2026 15:34     Subject: Current club ghosting us. What do I do next?

He lost his phone so he couldn't show up for a game?

That story doesn't add up.

Anonymous
Post 05/10/2026 15:24     Subject: Current club ghosting us. What do I do next?

Your money and your, ask all the questions you want.
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2026 14:20     Subject: Current club ghosting us. What do I do next?

Anonymous wrote:OP here to report back after today’s game and answer some questions.

DS is not first team. He’s been on the third team (of six teams at his age group) for the last two years. He’s also a July birthday so the new age groupings have made him one of the youngest in U11. Moving down a team wouldn’t be unexpected because of these things. Moving down two teams (which is what the coach heard his offer was going to be, was a bit unexpected.

As for the game today, we went as usual. DS was in goal the entire game (which is pretty typical). Planned to chat with coach after the game. However, the coach didn’t show up!!!! Our team manager called, texted and got no response. So the kids played with no coach 🤦🏼‍♀️🤬. Coach sent a message after the game was over saying that he’d been without his phone since last night and just got it back and he apologizes for not being there.


This club/coach sound horrible. I know it puts you in a bad position this year, but I’d find another club ASAP.

I do not think you are unreasonable for asking ?s/following up when everyone else had an offer already.