Anonymous
Post 05/11/2026 16:58     Subject: How concerned should I be?
During 4 years of college, she'll grow not only her frontal cortex but her perspective on life and other things, hopefully on touching up her roots as well.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2026 16:50     Subject: Re:How concerned should I be?
Anonymous wrote:Does she plan to marry her BF?


She is only 18!

This is not 1957!
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2026 16:48     Subject: How concerned should I be?
Anonymous wrote:she needs to excercise and stay in shape if she wants to marjor in M.R.S.


Such an offensive, dated view of half the humans on our planet.

Please tell me that you are not raising children.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2026 16:46     Subject: How concerned should I be?
Anonymous wrote:I dunno I might look at one of those depression screening questionaires/checklists. Wanting to sleep instead of living life seems like it could be a warning sign. Does she get regular exercise?



The not wanting to live past 60 is not concerning (at her age), but preferring to sleep rather than live is potentially.

I would see if you can get the pediatrician to do depression screen or just see if she would talk to a therapist a time or two.

You never know what is below the surface, that she is not saying.

Good you are paying attention. 🤗
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2026 16:18     Subject: How concerned should I be?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I shocked one of mother's friends when I told her, as a young adult, that I did not expect to live past 40. She was past 40.

It's one of those things that immature youngsters say, OP. Don't read too much into it. It's not that I didn't enjoy my life. At that age, it just seemed like the years stretched ahead of me endlessly.

Now I'm 46 and I feel that the years fly by. I tell this to my kids: soon enough, the passage of time will accelerate.





Np, and agreed. I distinctively remember thinking 40 was the start of old age when I was 12. Perspectives shift as you age. The only thing that jumped out as unusual in op's post is a 17 year old who needs her roots retouched.

My 19yr regularly gets her hair highlighted at the salon. Makes more sense for young girls to do it than older women. They’re young and want to show off their looks.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2026 16:14     Subject: How concerned should I be?
Anonymous wrote:For a teenager who get her roots touched up, sounds like a case of affluenza.


+1. Also, a rather soulless existence.
dony898
Post 05/11/2026 16:09     Subject: How concerned should I be?
Teenagers often lack the perspective to see the value in long-term stability because their brains are wired for immediate, high-stakes rewards. As long as she is still meeting her goals and staying social, this is usually just existential boredom rather than a clinical issue. It is worth keeping an eye on her energy levels, but a fear of a repetitive future is a standard part of growing up.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2026 15:25     Subject: How concerned should I be?
Anonymous wrote:Do you think she didn’t like her hair color?

She does but she dyes it a little darker. She likes it that way.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2026 15:20     Subject: How concerned should I be?
Do you think she didn’t like her hair color?
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2026 10:38     Subject: How concerned should I be?
she needs to excercise and stay in shape if she wants to marjor in M.R.S.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2026 10:36     Subject: How concerned should I be?
Anonymous wrote:For a teenager who get her roots touched up, sounds like a case of affluenza.


This^.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2026 10:34     Subject: Re:How concerned should I be?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Does she plan to marry her BF?


Why? Her sexual needs are being fulfilled already (she is active with her boyfriend!).


Marriage isn't just about sex.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2026 08:45     Subject: Re:How concerned should I be?
Anonymous wrote:Does she plan to marry her BF?


Why? Her sexual needs are being fulfilled already (she is active with her boyfriend!).
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2026 08:44     Subject: Re:How concerned should I be?
Anonymous wrote:I was worried because I didn’t know whether her behavior and thinking were normal at her age, especially the sleeping part, but I guess it can be normal. She doesn’t exercise, no. And she didn’t say it in a vocal fry either, just her normal voice. She dyes her hair because she’s 18 and like a lot of young women her age she cares about her appearance, so I don’t really see how that’s unusual. We do not live in DC, we live in Utah, my husband is from DC, and lives and works in DC most of the year. She does have a boyfriend of two years, and is active with him, yes, which also seems pretty normal for an 18 year old. Academically she’s doing well, and taking calc in 12th grade, she’s just not very interested in activities. By repetitive, she doesn’t really mean her daily schedule in HS, just life in general, including adult life, (waking up, eating, etc). Her dad passed away when she was 5, so blended family.

I’m not sure why some she doesn’t sound like a normal teenager, but I’ll keep an eye on it. It seems like this kind of thinking can be normal at her age.


OK.