Anonymous wrote:Very weird...on your end.

They asked what I wanted and I said I'd love for them to clean their rooms and act really nice towards each other the whole day. They hated that answer.

Anonymous wrote:Oh, he gets it. He just doesn’t want to have to deal with 3 kids on his own for a night.

Anonymous wrote:He’s bummed that he has to put in actual effort to give you something you want.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH asked what I wanted for Mother’s Day. I told him I’d like to go to a local hotel by myself the night before Mother’s Day to get some spa treatments, order room service for dinner, relax, and catch up on sleep. For Mother’s Day itself, I said I wanted to go to brunch with the whole family (DH and our 3 kids) the next morning and spend the rest of the day together, maybe doing something outside if the weather is nice. I told DH that is all I wanted, no need to buy a gift.

DH did NOT seem excited about this plan. He said something like “that’s fine, but I can’t believe you don’t want to spend the day with the family.” This despite the fact that I DO want to spend the day with our family. I just also asked to do my own thing the night before. Also, I’m a SAHM to young kids. I’m spending time with the family all day every day.

Just venting I guess. I’m just disappointed that when I finally asked for what I really wanted (the solo hotel stay instead of gifts), DH was judgmental. He finally agreed to it but insisted on hiring a babysitter for the night that I’m gone - which I am fine with! But there was no need to make me feel bad for asking for what I want.

Some of you don’t seem to get that Mother’s Day isn’t something your spouse does for you, it’s when he helps the kids figure out something to do for you. You know, teach them how to give gifts and be grateful for what you do for them. Getting away from them isn’t what they want to give you for Mother’s Day.

Anonymous wrote:How often does he care for your 3 small children solo, OP? How often does he take them out of the house alone?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH asked what I wanted for Mother’s Day. I told him I’d like to go to a local hotel by myself the night before Mother’s Day to get some spa treatments, order room service for dinner, relax, and catch up on sleep. For Mother’s Day itself, I said I wanted to go to brunch with the whole family (DH and our 3 kids) the next morning and spend the rest of the day together, maybe doing something outside if the weather is nice. I told DH that is all I wanted, no need to buy a gift.

DH did NOT seem excited about this plan. He said something like “that’s fine, but I can’t believe you don’t want to spend the day with the family.” This despite the fact that I DO want to spend the day with our family. I just also asked to do my own thing the night before. Also, I’m a SAHM to young kids. I’m spending time with the family all day every day.

Just venting I guess. I’m just disappointed that when I finally asked for what I really wanted (the solo hotel stay instead of gifts), DH was judgmental. He finally agreed to it but insisted on hiring a babysitter for the night that I’m gone - which I am fine with! But there was no need to make me feel bad for asking for what I want.

Some of you don’t seem to get that Mother’s Day isn’t something your spouse does for you, it’s when he helps the kids figure out something to do for you. You know, teach them how to give gifts and be grateful for what you do for them. Getting away from them isn’t what they want to give you for Mother’s Day.

Hmm…we should tell this to the men who want to have sex on Father’s Day.

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Anonymous wrote:Its so lame he had to hire a sitter. That tells me everything I need to know about why YOU need and deserve a break.

+1000

Nothing more cringe than someone who can't take care of their own kids for a night.

Anonymous wrote:How often does he care for your 3 small children solo, OP? How often does he take them out of the house alone?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH asked what I wanted for Mother’s Day. I told him I’d like to go to a local hotel by myself the night before Mother’s Day to get some spa treatments, order room service for dinner, relax, and catch up on sleep. For Mother’s Day itself, I said I wanted to go to brunch with the whole family (DH and our 3 kids) the next morning and spend the rest of the day together, maybe doing something outside if the weather is nice. I told DH that is all I wanted, no need to buy a gift.

DH did NOT seem excited about this plan. He said something like “that’s fine, but I can’t believe you don’t want to spend the day with the family.” This despite the fact that I DO want to spend the day with our family. I just also asked to do my own thing the night before. Also, I’m a SAHM to young kids. I’m spending time with the family all day every day.

Just venting I guess. I’m just disappointed that when I finally asked for what I really wanted (the solo hotel stay instead of gifts), DH was judgmental. He finally agreed to it but insisted on hiring a babysitter for the night that I’m gone - which I am fine with! But there was no need to make me feel bad for asking for what I want.

Just to be clear, your husband isn't judgment, he's a loser who can't take care of your children. Tread carefully - it sounds like he uses you. I hope you're financially set up.

Anonymous wrote:Its so lame he had to hire a sitter. That tells me everything I need to know about why YOU need and deserve a break.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH asked what I wanted for Mother’s Day. I told him I’d like to go to a local hotel by myself the night before Mother’s Day to get some spa treatments, order room service for dinner, relax, and catch up on sleep. For Mother’s Day itself, I said I wanted to go to brunch with the whole family (DH and our 3 kids) the next morning and spend the rest of the day together, maybe doing something outside if the weather is nice. I told DH that is all I wanted, no need to buy a gift.

DH did NOT seem excited about this plan. He said something like “that’s fine, but I can’t believe you don’t want to spend the day with the family.” This despite the fact that I DO want to spend the day with our family. I just also asked to do my own thing the night before. Also, I’m a SAHM to young kids. I’m spending time with the family all day every day.

Just venting I guess. I’m just disappointed that when I finally asked for what I really wanted (the solo hotel stay instead of gifts), DH was judgmental. He finally agreed to it but insisted on hiring a babysitter for the night that I’m gone - which I am fine with! But there was no need to make me feel bad for asking for what I want.

Some of you don’t seem to get that Mother’s Day isn’t something your spouse does for you, it’s when he helps the kids figure out something to do for you. You know, teach them how to give gifts and be grateful for what you do for them. Getting away from them isn’t what they want to give you for Mother’s Day.