A good rule with kids is to focus on what you have and not what you wished for, dreamed of, or expected.

Anonymous wrote:Wow. Her anxiety makes her perseverate on topics that are really not that important. You might have to manage her obsessive personality all your married life. Brace yourself. If it gets too bad, remember there's therapy and medication.

Here's the secret to birthdays, OP: you can have the party with the child guests whenever you want! Kids with summer birthdays or Christmas break birthday have them at other times of the year. You celebrate the actual day just with close family, and then if you don't think it's convenient to hold a large party at that time, just pick another date. NO ONE CARES.

Yeah…but OP is also obsessing about his wife obsessing about this and came here to type this all out. Sounds like they are perfect match. Normal men would be glad to be having sex whenever and wouldn’t give wife’s crazy birth month obsession any thought at all

I think her thoughts (and worries) reflect the conversations I see on boards like this one. I don't think it is crazy or that she needs counseling. The truth is, your child will arrive with his own personality and set of issues that could affect his ability to learn, irrespective of school cut offs or good weather months. I do know some teachers try to plan birth during summer months, for obvious reasons. I'm sure some other professions do the same..

I like how you listened to her.

Oof good luck to you in the post partum period.

Just remember, fertility fades fast. Unless you are 22 you most likely won't get the kids you want.

She sounds like a control freak. She needs therapy.

All my siblings and I were born on the same day of the month but all different months (one parent is a doctor)....

I like my March/April babies. Good for school. No newborns during flu season. Good weather for walks when babies are tiny and you feel cooped. They are a bit hardier by the first winter.

No complaints!

Haha this post made me laugh. OP, just smile nod and agree. And say you’re up for sex any time she thinks is best.

-a woman

It sounds like she just has anxiety. I have kids born in February , March, July, and September. I wouldn’t say it matters much. It was cold to have newborns in February and March but we didn’t go out all that much during the newborn days except for doctor’s appointments. With my July baby, he was the youngest, so it was hard the summer he was born to do any summer activities with my older kids. As an older kid, it was a harder transition to school being so close to the cut off and it is harder to plan birthday parties with school or sports friends. I actually liked that my September baby was born right after the school cut off as she got to spend more time at home but still went to school on time. Of all my kids birthdays, I probably like September the most but if I had planned any of their birth months , I would’ve probably tried for April or May.

Anonymous wrote:I cannot believe you listened, absorbed, and then typed all this out. Or that I sat here and scanned through it. This is mental illness that should be treated. Also she might learn real fast that a healthy pregnancy is a gift not a guarantee and sometimes you just have to take the month that it happens. Wow.

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OP you sound like you have little perspective or backbone to see how strange and unimportant this is. Your wife sounds mentally ill or at best just not very intelligent

Anonymous wrote:The school birthday issue is real.

Summer birthdays help avoid lots of school year birthday.drama.

The school birthday issue is real.

I was like this. It was anxiety. But very happy with my kids birth month!

Wow. Her anxiety makes her perseverate on topics that are really not that important. You might have to manage her obsessive personality all your married life. Brace yourself. If it gets too bad, remember there's therapy and medication.

Here's the secret to birthdays, OP: you can have the party with the child guests whenever you want! Kids with summer birthdays or Christmas break birthday have them at other times of the year. You celebrate the actual day just with close family, and then if you don't think it's convenient to hold a large party at that time, just pick another date. NO ONE CARES.

Anonymous wrote:October is the best birthday month. No question of which grade you are in. All of the advantages of being the oldest, without any stigma from red shirting.

This. Early October best so that kid is at least a couple months old before flu etc season kicks in

Jan, Feb, March babies... great for pregnancy, awful for newborns (cold season, way too cold out for walks outside).