Anonymous
Post 04/16/2026 19:49     Subject: Re:Going by a different name in the workplace? (prying co-workers)
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Wait, so you are upset that your coworker found your registry so they could ... get you a gift? You seem unhinged.


It could be that she hadn’t announced her pregnancy to her boss and coworkers yet.

As a teacher, I waited as long as humanly possible to tell admin and my students.


And yet she would have been showing enough for them to make that assumption?
Anonymous
Post 04/16/2026 19:42     Subject: Going by a different name in the workplace? (prying co-workers)
I agree with those who say it would be hard to do. A lot of work places will only use your legal name on documents and email. So, even if you can change your email, your bosses/HR/etc. will know your real name. And, if people figure it out you will now have provided them not only with your first and last name but your middle name as well if they want to do any digging.
Anonymous
Post 04/16/2026 19:31     Subject: Going by a different name in the workplace? (prying co-workers)
You seem to have offended a lot of Nosy Nellys in this thread. Its going to be very off putting to people who like googling everyone.
Anonymous
Post 04/16/2026 19:19     Subject: Going by a different name in the workplace? (prying co-workers)
I have colleagues who share everything and others who share zero. It's impolite to pry. I wonder what industry you were in where all your colleagues were up in your business.
Anonymous
Post 04/16/2026 19:15     Subject: Going by a different name in the workplace? (prying co-workers)
The only way to keep your information off the internet is not to put it on the internet. Even then there will be things you can’t control.
Anonymous
Post 04/16/2026 18:47     Subject: Re:Going by a different name in the workplace? (prying co-workers)
Anonymous wrote:You can do whatever you want, but your threshold for normal human interaction seems very low.


Agreed... I find this really stunted and in ten years, this woman will be DCUM wondering why she has no friends.
Anonymous
Post 04/16/2026 18:37     Subject: Going by a different name in the workplace? (prying co-workers)
Anonymous wrote:Op, this all makes me think of the Barbra Streisand effect.

I’ll have to look that up. I haven’t heard of it.
Anonymous
Post 04/16/2026 18:35     Subject: Going by a different name in the workplace? (prying co-workers)
Anonymous wrote:Are you the poster from a year or two ago who wanted to conceal her pregnancy at work until she had the baby, not from any fear of retaliation, but because she simply didn’t want anyone to know she was pregnant because of privacy concerns?

No
Anonymous
Post 04/16/2026 18:32     Subject: Going by a different name in the workplace? (prying co-workers)
Op, this all makes me think of the Barbra Streisand effect.
Anonymous
Post 04/16/2026 18:24     Subject: Going by a different name in the workplace? (prying co-workers)
Are you the poster from a year or two ago who wanted to conceal her pregnancy at work until she had the baby, not from any fear of retaliation, but because she simply didn’t want anyone to know she was pregnant because of privacy concerns?
Anonymous
Post 04/16/2026 17:13     Subject: Going by a different name in the workplace? (prying co-workers)
I wouldn’t find it weird. I work in an office. Those women talk nonstop and are very catty. I can respect someone who minds their business and is just there to earn a paycheck.
Anonymous
Post 04/16/2026 16:52     Subject: Going by a different name in the workplace? (prying co-workers)
I have had tons of coworkers who go by their middle names or nicknames at work. It isn't remotely a big deal.
Anonymous
Post 04/16/2026 16:50     Subject: Going by a different name in the workplace? (prying co-workers)
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Welcome to the life of an introvert, OP. We’re forced to pretend to be someone we’re not in order to avoid judgment and make the people around us feel comfortable. Society is not built for reserved individuals whatsoever.


I'm an introvert. I'm not on social media at all, and don't care how nosy my coworkers are.

I don't think you understand OP's state of mind here. This is not an introversion problem.



It seems like she doesn’t want to be bothered or associate with people that she only knows through work. That’s her right, and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that.

You don’t care, but that doesn’t mean others don’t. I would also find it odd if colleagues were trying to friend me on social media. Also, who knows what she could be posting online that she might not want colleagues to see. She could have an OF or political posts for all we know.


Sure. But none of these things are directly associated with being introverted, which was your original point that I disputed.

Not being interested in social interaction definitely is associated with being an introvert.
Anonymous
Post 04/16/2026 16:50     Subject: Re:Going by a different name in the workplace? (prying co-workers)
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I dont think you are ready to return to work.


Yes. Definitely sounding paranoid there, OP. Someone looked at your baby registry, the horror!



Anonymous
Post 04/16/2026 16:49     Subject: Going by a different name in the workplace? (prying co-workers)
you are really weird boo