Anonymous
Post 04/14/2026 14:41     Subject: Wearing clothes with pineapples- swinger message?
Anonymous wrote:Most people don't know about this, but I have to admit I've stopped wearing anything with a pineapple on it outside of my house. I have a couple of tee shirts I bought on sale and now I understand why they were on sale.


It's actually pretty widely known. Hence the lack of a market for the items you found on sale.
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2026 14:37     Subject: Re:Wearing clothes with pineapples- swinger message?
I saw someone on a TV show the other day that had a shirt that said Plays Well With Others and it made me laugh and I thought it would be a funny gag gift for a friend so I searched for one and almost all of them had upside down pineapples on them and I was like NOPE, not what I was looking for! Which is too bad because I do think it was a funny shirt.
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2026 13:34     Subject: Wearing clothes with pineapples- swinger message?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:But why pineapples?


Lifestyle’r here-

It’s an old throwback to the Victorian-era, when pineapples were a symbol of “welcome” among the wealthy class. You could see them rendered in wrought iron fencing, stained glass, frescos, floor tiling, etc.



And it’s not really “swingers”, to us as a community, it’s “lifestyle couples”. Swinging is more of a verb, not a noun for us. We are a lifestyle couple, and we swing with other couples/groups.


I think you are a troll, but if you're not, this is stupid. A pineapple is just a pineapple. Get over yourself.



I think you don’t understand what “troll” means.

But you do you.


Or maybe you don't, sweetheart? Trolling is when someone posts or comments online to ‘bait’ people. That person was clearly trying to bait people into engaging with them.



Then I think it’s fair to say that the OP of the thread is a troll. Because her whole point was to bait people into engaging in the thread.

So OP is the troll here, obviously.


Anonymous
Post 04/14/2026 13:07     Subject: Wearing clothes with pineapples- swinger message?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:But why pineapples?


Lifestyle’r here-

It’s an old throwback to the Victorian-era, when pineapples were a symbol of “welcome” among the wealthy class. You could see them rendered in wrought iron fencing, stained glass, frescos, floor tiling, etc.



And it’s not really “swingers”, to us as a community, it’s “lifestyle couples”. Swinging is more of a verb, not a noun for us. We are a lifestyle couple, and we swing with other couples/groups.


I think you are a troll, but if you're not, this is stupid. A pineapple is just a pineapple. Get over yourself.



I think you don’t understand what “troll” means.

But you do you.


Or maybe you don't, sweetheart? Trolling is when someone posts or comments online to ‘bait’ people. That person was clearly trying to bait people into engaging with them.


DP

Swingers (or whatever they call themselves) exist. And I’m sure there are more than a handful here. There was nothing in that (her?) post that was trolling. She answered the OP’s question about the history of the pineapple symbolism, and provided some further context. She didn’t insult anyone, or bait anyone, and she wasn’t mean to anybody. Certainly nicer than the PP’s who called her “troll” and “sweetheart”.
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2026 12:49     Subject: Wearing clothes with pineapples- swinger message?
Yes. It is a tacky fruit anyway.
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2026 12:33     Subject: Wearing clothes with pineapples- swinger message?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:“Swingers” is a 1950s term. Hot mom” is current.

Yeah, there are tattoo signals.


It's "hotwife," not "hot mom."


You know this how, exactly? Provide details in your answer.


It's an extremely common subgroup of the larger lifestyle.



Extremely common. Hundreds of thousands of people/couples.

The ALA has chapters in every large city. There are meet-ups and annual retreats. It’s been a thing for decades. It predates the internet.


Good of you, normal people can still wear pineapples though.
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2026 12:32     Subject: Wearing clothes with pineapples- swinger message?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:But why pineapples?


Lifestyle’r here-

It’s an old throwback to the Victorian-era, when pineapples were a symbol of “welcome” among the wealthy class. You could see them rendered in wrought iron fencing, stained glass, frescos, floor tiling, etc.



And it’s not really “swingers”, to us as a community, it’s “lifestyle couples”. Swinging is more of a verb, not a noun for us. We are a lifestyle couple, and we swing with other couples/groups.


I think you are a troll, but if you're not, this is stupid. A pineapple is just a pineapple. Get over yourself.



I think you don’t understand what “troll” means.

But you do you.


Or maybe you don't, sweetheart? Trolling is when someone posts or comments online to ‘bait’ people. That person was clearly trying to bait people into engaging with them.
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2026 12:24     Subject: Wearing clothes with pineapples- swinger message?
I think its a bit silly to avoid them but I admit I do it too. I like Tommy Bahama (yes I'm painfully middle aged) but if a pineapple is prominent i avoid it. I was told about this years ago and have been approached though that was completely unrelated to any symbols, it did give me a complex about wanting to avoid that happening ever again
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2026 12:20     Subject: Wearing clothes with pineapples- swinger message?
Anonymous wrote:1. Are there enough swingers in your community that being mistaken for one could truly be problematic?

2. Even if someone misinterpreted your dress somehow, is there any reason you couldn't just say "oh no thank you, I just liked the pattern"?

Btw I think it's dumb when subcultures decided to appropriate common symbols as their own. Pineapples have long had a social meaning of warmth and home -- it used to be a common gift at a housewarming party and pineapple imagery in door decor was a way of conveying welcome to guests. If swingers want upside pineapples to mean something different, okay, but you can't expect it to also *stop* meaning what it has always meant.

So I think it would be dumb for you to stop wearing your dress over this.


Normal people don't put pineapples upside down.
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2026 12:15     Subject: Wearing clothes with pineapples- swinger message?
I have a shirt with small pineapples on it. Not a swinger and never been approached.
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2026 12:03     Subject: Wearing clothes with pineapples- swinger message?
I would definitely wear that dress to see if anyone invites you into their group...you don't have to say yes, but then YOU would know who the local swingers are. Like a pineapple detective.
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2026 11:39     Subject: Wearing clothes with pineapples- swinger message?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:“Swingers” is a 1950s term. Hot mom” is current.

Yeah, there are tattoo signals.


It's "hotwife," not "hot mom."


You know this how, exactly? Provide details in your answer.


It's an extremely common subgroup of the larger lifestyle.



Extremely common. Hundreds of thousands of people/couples.

The ALA has chapters in every large city. There are meet-ups and annual retreats. It’s been a thing for decades. It predates the internet.
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2026 11:08     Subject: Wearing clothes with pineapples- swinger message?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:“Swingers” is a 1950s term. Hot mom” is current.

Yeah, there are tattoo signals.


It's "hotwife," not "hot mom."


You know this how, exactly? Provide details in your answer.


It's an extremely common subgroup of the larger lifestyle.
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2026 10:56     Subject: Wearing clothes with pineapples- swinger message?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why would you care?


+1, what is the scenario here? Are you worried someone will approach you because of the pattern on your dress? Unlikely but if they do, you can just decline.


If the OP is really that terrified someone might actually pay any attention to her, she should just buy an oversized Mumu with cats printed on her. That should keep any/all men away.
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2026 10:48     Subject: Wearing clothes with pineapples- swinger message?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:But why pineapples?


Lifestyle’r here-

It’s an old throwback to the Victorian-era, when pineapples were a symbol of “welcome” among the wealthy class. You could see them rendered in wrought iron fencing, stained glass, frescos, floor tiling, etc.



And it’s not really “swingers”, to us as a community, it’s “lifestyle couples”. Swinging is more of a verb, not a noun for us. We are a lifestyle couple, and we swing with other couples/groups.


I think you are a troll, but if you're not, this is stupid. A pineapple is just a pineapple. Get over yourself.



I think you don’t understand what “troll” means.

But you do you.