I really hate the whole "welcoming a baby" language. Can't you just say they are expecting a baby or had a baby? I blame celebrity media--they always use this stupid phrase. Also "sharing a child" with their spouse.

The chance that these four will still be in this arrangement as the child hits preschool is low, this is likely to bring a host of adults in and out of the kid's life. But all sorts of unstable arrangements produce kids and it's not the kid's fault. Nothing you can do about this one.

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Anonymous wrote:A friend just post that 4 people (2 men, 2 women) are welcoming a baby. One of women is carrying the baby and the babies last name is man1-man2.

I'm like...what? I don't understand...

A few years ago she posted that her and the two guys bought a house together but no mention of the other girl.

Any thoughts on what that's all about?

Unconventional and unhealthy dynamics but whatever people need to survive. There is undoubtedly a leader in this small cult and rest are lost souls.

+100. My bet is the non-carrier woman will be the first one to snap out of it and escape the Manson family.

NP. Agreed.

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Anonymous wrote:A friend just post that 4 people (2 men, 2 women) are welcoming a baby. One of women is carrying the baby and the babies last name is man1-man2.

I'm like...what? I don't understand...

A few years ago she posted that her and the two guys bought a house together but no mention of the other girl.

Any thoughts on what that's all about?

Unconventional and unhealthy dynamics but whatever people need to survive. There is undoubtedly a leader in this small cult and rest are lost souls.

+100. My bet is the non-carrier woman will be the first one to snap out of it and escape the Manson family.

That poor child

Anonymous wrote:The more people welcome a baby, the better, OP. Who cares about who loves who? They support each other, that's clear. It's heart-warming to see. Your job is to express congratulations, wish the birthing mother a swift recovery, and send a baby gift if you're close to these 4 people.

NP.

It is YOUR JOB to answer OP’s question, PP.

You failed to do your job.

Anonymous wrote:I think the part that seems hard to understand is at least 2 people have no genetic or legal ties to the child. So is it fair to have everyone pitching in? Is it truly equal?

If the men are married to each other, and they used one woman's egg and the other is the surrogate, then they'd all have legal or biological ties to the child. Now who is on the birth certificate, and who claims the child on their taxes, and who gets to make decisions when they disagree on stuff, are all separate and complicated questions. Which are not OP's business, but I can understand why she's interested. Luckily she can observe over time or ask her friend!

Anonymous wrote:A friend just post that 4 people (2 men, 2 women) are welcoming a baby. One of women is carrying the baby and the babies last name is man1-man2.

I'm like...what? I don't understand...

A few years ago she posted that her and the two guys bought a house together but no mention of the other girl.

Any thoughts on what that's all about?

Any thoughts on asking your friend?