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Anonymous wrote:I can't believe the college counselor for the school wouldn't notice that there were no requests from any college for a transcript or reco.

I think this is fake.

If your kid attends some of the larger good/very good DMV public schools, anywhere from 10% to 30% of the class doesn't attend college.

Each college counselor is dealing with hundreds of kids. They don't really pay attention to who doesn't apply because they are all-consumed getting together the materials for the hundreds who do apply.

it's the parents' job, these parents didn't do theirs

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe the college counselor for the school wouldn't notice that there were no requests from any college for a transcript or reco.

I think this is fake.

If your kid attends some of the larger good/very good DMV public schools, anywhere from 10% to 30% of the class doesn't attend college.

Each college counselor is dealing with hundreds of kids. They don't really pay attention to who doesn't apply because they are all-consumed getting together the materials for the hundreds who do apply.

And parents never were asked for their cc to pay the app fees and didn’t even think about that when they already knew she had a lazy problem until April?

Sure, Jan

Yes, there are a number of schools. Google. Temple in Philadelphia, Hendrix in Arkansas, University of Arizona, many in between.

Step one is to reach out to her HS college counselor and explain the situation. Identify potential schools based on budget, availability, and interest. This can all be done very quickly.

If you know the parents, you might tell them to knock off the "lazy" talk immediately -- it's unkind and unhelpful. Not to mention that they dropped the ball, too -- so the parents can set an example by taking responsibility and owning their part in the story.

I hope this kid finds some wise, supportive guidance. If there is a reasonable budget and some willingness and ability to work together, there's no reason they can't be enrolled at a decent college this coming fall. But it's going to take work and cooperation.

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe the college counselor for the school wouldn't notice that there were no requests from any college for a transcript or reco.

I think this is fake.

No idea what the friend's kid's high school is like but our counselors were only concerned with graduation requirements. They certainly weren't monitoring whether you had been applying to college or not.

Mary Wash

TCU would take a student with those stats still, depending on major.

The bigger issue is housings/dorms. She may get into some still good schools but less than optimal housing arrangements.

maybe kid needs to start at a CC.

i wouldn't help with this. if kid wants to go then kid needs to figure it out.

this needs to be kid led.

Anonymous wrote:Lazy as a term used by emotionally immature parents. A child with that high GPA and SAT is anything but lazy. They likely are either experiencing ADHD/AUD burnout, anxiety, depression, or a combination of all.

This. A “very, very lazy” person does not earn the grades and test scores this student has. Whether it was overwhelm, burnout, an undiagnosed issue, immaturity resulting in not knowing when to ask for help and a parent completely washing their hands of any oversight to realize the problem before it was too late — there are a LOT of possibilities, but “lazy” isn’t one of them.

I’d strongly recommend a structured gap year program related to an area they demonstrate passion, coupled with counseling.

There is no race to start college and now is a great time to mature and address underlying issues. Those stats are going to offer tons of options when she’s ready.

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe the college counselor for the school wouldn't notice that there were no requests from any college for a transcript or reco.

I think this is fake.

I certainly hope so, otherwise her parents are responsible for ruining this part of her life.

I just can't believe that this kid's parent(s) waited this long to figure out their kid didn't apply. Were they not talking to the kid? I understand hands-off parenting but this sounds like they just ignored her all this time. Yuck.

I can't believe the college counselor for the school wouldn't notice that there were no requests from any college for a transcript or reco.

I think this is fake.

Anonymous wrote:Bullshit it’s a “friend’s kid.” In any event, try Google. It’s not that hard.

Why are people such dickheads on here? Does it make you feel better about your sad little life to be catty on the interwebs?