If I so much as have a headache my kids are checking in with hugs and offers to help.

I can’t imagine paying for a phone for a kid who doesn’t check in on my chemo even if it’s for some early stage totally recoverable illness

I bet she was checking in with all her little friends school or no

She’s not checking in on you now she won’t do it when you’re 80. It’s ok to recognize that you have a cordial relationship and be cordial with your money. Focus on the rest of your kids and raise decent human beings

Being a kid is not some excuse not to be a decent person. And she isn’t a kid anyway.

I feel for you, op. Your kid sounds spoiled, which is your fault. But also, some people are more selfish than others as a personality trait. I see it with my own kids. I wouldn't disown her, I would still try to guide her, but also you don't need to give extras to someone who insults you.

Op here.

Diagnoses from posts?

Right. Internet therapists with zero background or training.

Sad people in a sad place beat up on sad people.

Some people grow up to be terrible. And their parents aren't always to blame. Why is that surprising to any of you.

Guess this isn't the right forum for venting about adult children who are mean. But it's why I stay quiet. Someone is reading this and can relate, but sees all the mosquitos sucking blood with their comments and their fears are confirmed.

There are no safe spaces for the parents that aren't monsters but also have children who became them by choice. Maybe your kid latched onto vile ideas on the internet and you didn't know what to do. Maybe that parent is you.

If you are reading this and did everything you could to make a good life and your kids don't appreciate it, you are not alone. Do not take your own life. Call 988. Don't listen to these internet trolls diagnosing without ever meeting you. Without seeing the hell you've lived and had to survive.

You can still live and love and be happy.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel pretty comfortable saying OP has some kind of personality disorder.

A cluster b personality disorder, likely narcissistic.

FOR SURE

Anonymous wrote:I feel pretty comfortable saying OP has some kind of personality disorder.

A cluster b personality disorder, likely narcissistic.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here.

I'm not a narcissist. Too many people jump to that word and have no idea what it means.

I was an overproducing mom. She owns bags of makeup when I barely have a chapstick. She asked, I did it. The fundraisers, the activities, the clothes, the trips, anything she asked for she got. Moment I got sick and couldn't be her slave she became resentful. Almost abusive at times. Days where the chemo made me think I was never going to make it. The moment I stopped overproducing she'd tell people I was faking it or say things like "You stink". Never helped with anything.

I hate her for what she's done and she can stay as far away from me as she'd like. I hate our country right now. Can't get sick or the world looks down on you. People are always so quick to blame the mom. You have no idea and hell I've had to live. But jump to your own conclusions about it all. Some of these Kidd are demonic.

You failed as a parent.

Dp. I was thinking of how to respond to ops update when I saw your post. Op failed. Well said!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here

The only trolls are you who project your own stuff onto other moms that struggle with adult children who abuse them, kids that might be on drugs, and have turned on their parents.

I wouldn't wish this on anyone.

Some of these kids are actually flat out mean and choose to be that way.

And no one taught them to be that way.

all of you who feel great beating up on me in the comments... just wait till your kids turn on you. And the world blames you for their decisions. When you have everything you had.

That's all I have.

NP. Where's her dad in all this? Does he think you did/are doing too much? Raising a daughter does not just fall to her mother.

I don’t think OP has a daughter.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel pretty comfortable saying OP has some kind of personality disorder.

Co-sign. Extremely toxic.

+2

My mother suffers from dementia and paranoia (everyone is out to get her, including me) and you sound like her. I help out but really find it stressful to spend time with her, so keep it to a minimum.

My mother cut me off at one point because of an imagined transgression. I went away to grad school (which I paid for) and didn’t see her for 2 years. It was 40 years ago and we will never recover from that period. So be careful what you wish for here

Anonymous wrote:Op here.

I'm not a narcissist. Too many people jump to that word and have no idea what it means.

I was an overproducing mom. She owns bags of makeup when I barely have a chapstick. She asked, I did it. The fundraisers, the activities, the clothes, the trips, anything she asked for she got. Moment I got sick and couldn't be her slave she became resentful. Almost abusive at times. Days where the chemo made me think I was never going to make it. The moment I stopped overproducing she'd tell people I was faking it or say things like "You stink". Never helped with anything.

I hate her for what she's done and she can stay as far away from me as she'd like. I hate our country right now. Can't get sick or the world looks down on you. People are always so quick to blame the mom. You have no idea and hell I've had to live. But jump to your own conclusions about it all. Some of these Kidd are demonic.

Maybe therapy.
Also, where’s this child’s other parent?

Anonymous wrote:Op here

The only trolls are you who project your own stuff onto other moms that struggle with adult children who abuse them, kids that might be on drugs, and have turned on their parents.

I wouldn't wish this on anyone.

Some of these kids are actually flat out mean and choose to be that way.

And no one taught them to be that way.

all of you who feel great beating up on me in the comments... just wait till your kids turn on you. And the world blames you for their decisions. When you have everything you had.

That's all I have.

NP. Where's her dad in all this? Does he think you did/are doing too much? Raising a daughter does not just fall to her mother.

Anonymous wrote:Op here.

I'm not a narcissist. Too many people jump to that word and have no idea what it means.

I was an overproducing mom. She owns bags of makeup when I barely have a chapstick. She asked, I did it. The fundraisers, the activities, the clothes, the trips, anything she asked for she got. Moment I got sick and couldn't be her slave she became resentful. Almost abusive at times. Days where the chemo made me think I was never going to make it. The moment I stopped overproducing she'd tell people I was faking it or say things like "You stink". Never helped with anything.

I hate her for what she's done and she can stay as far away from me as she'd like. I hate our country right now. Can't get sick or the world looks down on you. People are always so quick to blame the mom. You have no idea and hell I've had to live. But jump to your own conclusions about it all. Some of these Kidd are demonic.

Hahahah you sound like you were faking the "terminal" aspect, at least. You sound extremely narcissistic and your story makes no sense -- if your daughter never helped with anything when she was in high school why would you expect her to "check on her siblings" when you were in the hospital?

"You stink" = I am coming to terms with the fact I don't have a daughter anymore, I just can't. This is hilarious. I hope your daughter doesn't come groveling like you so obvioulsy want her to do.

Anonymous wrote:I feel pretty comfortable saying OP has some kind of personality disorder.

Co-sign. Extremely toxic.

I feel pretty comfortable saying OP has some kind of personality disorder.

OP is looking to create drama.