Anonymous
03/25/2026 20:57
Subject: Rejected from Virginia publics—am I out of line?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:4.1 weighted (school does not do UW), maxed out rigor, and involved in activities. Applied as an IR/gov/polisci major to UVA, William and Mary, and Virginia tech and was outright denied by UVA and W&M. VT waitlisted but as far as I know they have no ‘spring waitlist’ program or separate campus like UVA wise you can go to for a year instead.
The only thing I can think of that could be the cause of this is my daughter’s name, which sounds Asian American despite her being Caucasian. Her first name is a name that some people have said is a stereotypical Asian name (think Alice or Christina), and our last name is Lee, which could be either white or Asian Korean.
In our case, it’s white, but people have said in the past when they have seen my daughter’s name but not my daughter (at first meetings, summer camp, etc) that they were expecting an Asian girl based on her name.
My husband thinks I sound like I need to be medicated, but I floated the idea of taking a gap year and changing either my daughter’s first or last name to be more explicitly Caucasian. She was open to it and is very young for her cohort anyway so it wouldn’t make her feel out of place later.
Am I out of line here? I’m not saying that it’s right that there may be a disadvantage for Asian Americans, but I don’t want my daughter to be harmed by any sort of biases.
Did she at least get in some good privates? JHU? Rice? Emory? Vandy? and top liberal arts colleges?
With a 4.1W? No way. Scores are most likely 1150-1350 with that GPA, depending on the high school
OP here.
To answer many questions:
- She did not apply to Case Western.
- The reason I expected better results is because her older brothers had similar stats (and one slightly lower stats) and they both got into their colleges of choice.
- Her SAT score was 710 Verbal, 730 Math, which I thought was right at the median for UVA and William and Mary and above the average for Virginia Tech.
So you know it’s not the name, then. He must have the same last name.
OP here.
They both have very explicitly white names and middle names. Think Tanner for first name Bradley for second name. My daughter not only has the stereotypical first name but no middle name.
OP, she was BORDERLINE at best. A 4.1 does not cut it.
OP here.
It cut it for my sons and for at least one of her friends, so I don’t think that’s entirely true (friend was white but has minority last name).
Anonymous
03/25/2026 20:57
Subject: Rejected from Virginia publics—am I out of line?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:4.1 weighted (school does not do UW), maxed out rigor, and involved in activities. Applied as an IR/gov/polisci major to UVA, William and Mary, and Virginia tech and was outright denied by UVA and W&M. VT waitlisted but as far as I know they have no ‘spring waitlist’ program or separate campus like UVA wise you can go to for a year instead.
The only thing I can think of that could be the cause of this is my daughter’s name, which sounds Asian American despite her being Caucasian. Her first name is a name that some people have said is a stereotypical Asian name (think Alice or Christina), and our last name is Lee, which could be either white or Asian Korean.
In our case, it’s white, but people have said in the past when they have seen my daughter’s name but not my daughter (at first meetings, summer camp, etc) that they were expecting an Asian girl based on her name.
My husband thinks I sound like I need to be medicated, but I floated the idea of taking a gap year and changing either my daughter’s first or last name to be more explicitly Caucasian. She was open to it and is very young for her cohort anyway so it wouldn’t make her feel out of place later.
Am I out of line here? I’m not saying that it’s right that there may be a disadvantage for Asian Americans, but I don’t want my daughter to be harmed by any sort of biases.
Did she at least get in some good privates? JHU? Rice? Emory? Vandy? and top liberal arts colleges?
With a 4.1W? No way. Scores are most likely 1150-1350 with that GPA, depending on the high school
OP here.
To answer many questions:
- She did not apply to Case Western.
- The reason I expected better results is because her older brothers had similar stats (and one slightly lower stats) and they both got into their colleges of choice.
- Her SAT score was 710 Verbal, 730 Math, which I thought was right at the median for UVA and William and Mary and above the average for Virginia Tech.
AND DID HER SIBLINGS HAVE THE SAME LAST NAME???
Your logic leaves much to be desired.
To your question, maybe her brothers had better essays or other things in their application.
Boys get penis points.
Schools want to have gender balance as much as possible, and at most schools about 2/3 of the applicants are girls. Boys get a boost.
That is not wrong, especially in Humanities, but the point is that should never have thought her child was a shoe-in at these schools.
Also, OP's entire premise was her kid was rejected because considered Asian, and then she comes back and says her other siblings got in!!!
OP has gone round the bend. Her husband is correct that she's batshit crazy right now. I wouldn't want to be him. He needs to invent himself a work trip
Anonymous
03/25/2026 20:57
Subject: Rejected from Virginia publics—am I out of line?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:4.1 weighted (school does not do UW), maxed out rigor, and involved in activities. Applied as an IR/gov/polisci major to UVA, William and Mary, and Virginia tech and was outright denied by UVA and W&M. VT waitlisted but as far as I know they have no ‘spring waitlist’ program or separate campus like UVA wise you can go to for a year instead.
The only thing I can think of that could be the cause of this is my daughter’s name, which sounds Asian American despite her being Caucasian. Her first name is a name that some people have said is a stereotypical Asian name (think Alice or Christina), and our last name is Lee, which could be either white or Asian Korean.
In our case, it’s white, but people have said in the past when they have seen my daughter’s name but not my daughter (at first meetings, summer camp, etc) that they were expecting an Asian girl based on her name.
My husband thinks I sound like I need to be medicated, but I floated the idea of taking a gap year and changing either my daughter’s first or last name to be more explicitly Caucasian. She was open to it and is very young for her cohort anyway so it wouldn’t make her feel out of place later.
Am I out of line here? I’m not saying that it’s right that there may be a disadvantage for Asian Americans, but I don’t want my daughter to be harmed by any sort of biases.
Did she at least get in some good privates? JHU? Rice? Emory? Vandy? and top liberal arts colleges?
With a 4.1W? No way. Scores are most likely 1150-1350 with that GPA, depending on the high school
OP here.
To answer many questions:
- She did not apply to Case Western.
- The reason I expected better results is because her older brothers had similar stats (and one slightly lower stats) and they both got into their colleges of choice.
- Her SAT score was 710 Verbal, 730 Math, which I thought was right at the median for UVA and William and Mary and above the average for Virginia Tech.
AND DID HER SIBLINGS HAVE THE SAME LAST NAME???
Your logic leaves much to be desired.
To your question, maybe her brothers had better essays or other things in their application.
Boys get penis points.
Schools want to have gender balance as much as possible, and at most schools about 2/3 of the applicants are girls. Boys get a boost.
Not in state schools for undergraduates. It's a violation of Title 9.
Seems like the letter letting UVA and W&M know they aren’t allowed to do this was lost in the mail around 2019.
Look at UVA's numbers. There's no evidence this is happening.
The girl didn't have the grades. End of story.
Anonymous
03/25/2026 20:55
Subject: Rejected from Virginia publics—am I out of line?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:4.1 weighted (school does not do UW), maxed out rigor, and involved in activities. Applied as an IR/gov/polisci major to UVA, William and Mary, and Virginia tech and was outright denied by UVA and W&M. VT waitlisted but as far as I know they have no ‘spring waitlist’ program or separate campus like UVA wise you can go to for a year instead.
The only thing I can think of that could be the cause of this is my daughter’s name, which sounds Asian American despite her being Caucasian. Her first name is a name that some people have said is a stereotypical Asian name (think Alice or Christina), and our last name is Lee, which could be either white or Asian Korean.
In our case, it’s white, but people have said in the past when they have seen my daughter’s name but not my daughter (at first meetings, summer camp, etc) that they were expecting an Asian girl based on her name.
My husband thinks I sound like I need to be medicated, but I floated the idea of taking a gap year and changing either my daughter’s first or last name to be more explicitly Caucasian. She was open to it and is very young for her cohort anyway so it wouldn’t make her feel out of place later.
Am I out of line here? I’m not saying that it’s right that there may be a disadvantage for Asian Americans, but I don’t want my daughter to be harmed by any sort of biases.
Did she at least get in some good privates? JHU? Rice? Emory? Vandy? and top liberal arts colleges?
With a 4.1W? No way. Scores are most likely 1150-1350 with that GPA, depending on the high school
OP here.
To answer many questions:
- She did not apply to Case Western.
- The reason I expected better results is because her older brothers had similar stats (and one slightly lower stats) and they both got into their colleges of choice.
- Her SAT score was 710 Verbal, 730 Math, which I thought was right at the median for UVA and William and Mary and above the average for Virginia Tech.
So you know it’s not the name, then. He must have the same last name.
OP here.
They both have very explicitly white names and middle names. Think Tanner for first name Bradley for second name. My daughter not only has the stereotypical first name but no middle name.
OP, she was BORDERLINE at best. A 4.1 does not cut it.
Anonymous
03/25/2026 20:55
Subject: Rejected from Virginia publics—am I out of line?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:4.1 weighted (school does not do UW), maxed out rigor, and involved in activities. Applied as an IR/gov/polisci major to UVA, William and Mary, and Virginia tech and was outright denied by UVA and W&M. VT waitlisted but as far as I know they have no ‘spring waitlist’ program or separate campus like UVA wise you can go to for a year instead.
The only thing I can think of that could be the cause of this is my daughter’s name, which sounds Asian American despite her being Caucasian. Her first name is a name that some people have said is a stereotypical Asian name (think Alice or Christina), and our last name is Lee, which could be either white or Asian Korean.
In our case, it’s white, but people have said in the past when they have seen my daughter’s name but not my daughter (at first meetings, summer camp, etc) that they were expecting an Asian girl based on her name.
My husband thinks I sound like I need to be medicated, but I floated the idea of taking a gap year and changing either my daughter’s first or last name to be more explicitly Caucasian. She was open to it and is very young for her cohort anyway so it wouldn’t make her feel out of place later.
Am I out of line here? I’m not saying that it’s right that there may be a disadvantage for Asian Americans, but I don’t want my daughter to be harmed by any sort of biases.
Did she at least get in some good privates? JHU? Rice? Emory? Vandy? and top liberal arts colleges?
With a 4.1W? No way. Scores are most likely 1150-1350 with that GPA, depending on the high school
OP here.
To answer many questions:
- She did not apply to Case Western.
- The reason I expected better results is because her older brothers had similar stats (and one slightly lower stats) and they both got into their colleges of choice.
- Her SAT score was 710 Verbal, 730 Math, which I thought was right at the median for UVA and William and Mary and above the average for Virginia Tech.
AND DID HER SIBLINGS HAVE THE SAME LAST NAME???
Your logic leaves much to be desired.
To your question, maybe her brothers had better essays or other things in their application.
Boys get penis points.
Schools want to have gender balance as much as possible, and at most schools about 2/3 of the applicants are girls. Boys get a boost.
Not in state schools for undergraduates. It's a violation of Title 9.
Seems like the letter letting UVA and W&M know they aren’t allowed to do this was lost in the mail around 2019.
Anonymous
03/25/2026 20:54
Subject: Rejected from Virginia publics—am I out of line?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:4.1 weighted (school does not do UW), maxed out rigor, and involved in activities. Applied as an IR/gov/polisci major to UVA, William and Mary, and Virginia tech and was outright denied by UVA and W&M. VT waitlisted but as far as I know they have no ‘spring waitlist’ program or separate campus like UVA wise you can go to for a year instead.
The only thing I can think of that could be the cause of this is my daughter’s name, which sounds Asian American despite her being Caucasian. Her first name is a name that some people have said is a stereotypical Asian name (think Alice or Christina), and our last name is Lee, which could be either white or Asian Korean.
In our case, it’s white, but people have said in the past when they have seen my daughter’s name but not my daughter (at first meetings, summer camp, etc) that they were expecting an Asian girl based on her name.
My husband thinks I sound like I need to be medicated, but I floated the idea of taking a gap year and changing either my daughter’s first or last name to be more explicitly Caucasian. She was open to it and is very young for her cohort anyway so it wouldn’t make her feel out of place later.
Am I out of line here? I’m not saying that it’s right that there may be a disadvantage for Asian Americans, but I don’t want my daughter to be harmed by any sort of biases.
Did she at least get in some good privates? JHU? Rice? Emory? Vandy? and top liberal arts colleges?
With a 4.1W? No way. Scores are most likely 1150-1350 with that GPA, depending on the high school
OP here.
To answer many questions:
- She did not apply to Case Western.
- The reason I expected better results is because her older brothers had similar stats (and one slightly lower stats) and they both got into their colleges of choice.
- Her SAT score was 710 Verbal, 730 Math, which I thought was right at the median for UVA and William and Mary and above the average for Virginia Tech.
AND DID HER SIBLINGS HAVE THE SAME LAST NAME???
Your logic leaves much to be desired.
To your question, maybe her brothers had better essays or other things in their application.
Boys get penis points.
Schools want to have gender balance as much as possible, and at most schools about 2/3 of the applicants are girls. Boys get a boost.
Not in state schools for undergraduates. It's a violation of Title 9.
Anonymous
03/25/2026 20:53
Subject: Rejected from Virginia publics—am I out of line?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:4.1 weighted (school does not do UW), maxed out rigor, and involved in activities. Applied as an IR/gov/polisci major to UVA, William and Mary, and Virginia tech and was outright denied by UVA and W&M. VT waitlisted but as far as I know they have no ‘spring waitlist’ program or separate campus like UVA wise you can go to for a year instead.
The only thing I can think of that could be the cause of this is my daughter’s name, which sounds Asian American despite her being Caucasian. Her first name is a name that some people have said is a stereotypical Asian name (think Alice or Christina), and our last name is Lee, which could be either white or Asian Korean.
In our case, it’s white, but people have said in the past when they have seen my daughter’s name but not my daughter (at first meetings, summer camp, etc) that they were expecting an Asian girl based on her name.
My husband thinks I sound like I need to be medicated, but I floated the idea of taking a gap year and changing either my daughter’s first or last name to be more explicitly Caucasian. She was open to it and is very young for her cohort anyway so it wouldn’t make her feel out of place later.
Am I out of line here? I’m not saying that it’s right that there may be a disadvantage for Asian Americans, but I don’t want my daughter to be harmed by any sort of biases.
Did she at least get in some good privates? JHU? Rice? Emory? Vandy? and top liberal arts colleges?
With a 4.1W? No way. Scores are most likely 1150-1350 with that GPA, depending on the high school
OP here.
To answer many questions:
- She did not apply to Case Western.
- The reason I expected better results is because her older brothers had similar stats (and one slightly lower stats) and they both got into their colleges of choice.
- Her SAT score was 710 Verbal, 730 Math, which I thought was right at the median for UVA and William and Mary and above the average for Virginia Tech.
So you know it’s not the name, then. He must have the same last name.
OP here.
They both have very explicitly white names and middle names. Think Tanner for first name Bradley for second name. My daughter not only has the stereotypical first name but no middle name.
Anonymous
03/25/2026 20:53
Subject: Rejected from Virginia publics—am I out of line?
Anonymous wrote:4.1 weighted (school does not do UW), maxed out rigor, and involved in activities. Applied as an IR/gov/polisci major to UVA, William and Mary, and Virginia tech and was outright denied by UVA and W&M. VT waitlisted but as far as I know they have no ‘spring waitlist’ program or separate campus like UVA wise you can go to for a year instead.
The only thing I can think of that could be the cause of this is my daughter’s name, which sounds Asian American despite her being Caucasian. Her first name is a name that some people have said is a stereotypical Asian name (think Alice or Christina), and our last name is Lee, which could be either white or Asian Korean.
In our case, it’s white, but people have said in the past when they have seen my daughter’s name but not my daughter (at first meetings, summer camp, etc) that they were expecting an Asian girl based on her name.
My husband thinks I sound like I need to be medicated, but I floated the idea of taking a gap year and changing either my daughter’s first or last name to be more explicitly Caucasian. She was open to it and is very young for her cohort anyway so it wouldn’t make her feel out of place later.
Am I out of line here? I’m not saying that it’s right that there may be a disadvantage for Asian Americans, but I don’t want my daughter to be harmed by any sort of biases.
OP, I am sorry about Tech. Last year, I think she would have been accepted to Political Science at Tech with those stats. But the GPA is low for W&M and UVA. Did she apply test optional?
I honestly do not think this has anything to do with being Asian or White. Really. I think that happens at some private schools but I don't think it happens at Tech. I think they look at GPA, scores, the major/school, and the VT specific essays.
Anonymous
03/25/2026 20:52
Subject: Rejected from Virginia publics—am I out of line?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:4.1 weighted (school does not do UW), maxed out rigor, and involved in activities. Applied as an IR/gov/polisci major to UVA, William and Mary, and Virginia tech and was outright denied by UVA and W&M. VT waitlisted but as far as I know they have no ‘spring waitlist’ program or separate campus like UVA wise you can go to for a year instead.
The only thing I can think of that could be the cause of this is my daughter’s name, which sounds Asian American despite her being Caucasian. Her first name is a name that some people have said is a stereotypical Asian name (think Alice or Christina), and our last name is Lee, which could be either white or Asian Korean.
In our case, it’s white, but people have said in the past when they have seen my daughter’s name but not my daughter (at first meetings, summer camp, etc) that they were expecting an Asian girl based on her name.
My husband thinks I sound like I need to be medicated, but I floated the idea of taking a gap year and changing either my daughter’s first or last name to be more explicitly Caucasian. She was open to it and is very young for her cohort anyway so it wouldn’t make her feel out of place later.
Am I out of line here? I’m not saying that it’s right that there may be a disadvantage for Asian Americans, but I don’t want my daughter to be harmed by any sort of biases.
Did she at least get in some good privates? JHU? Rice? Emory? Vandy? and top liberal arts colleges?
With a 4.1W? No way. Scores are most likely 1150-1350 with that GPA, depending on the high school
OP here.
To answer many questions:
- She did not apply to Case Western.
- The reason I expected better results is because her older brothers had similar stats (and one slightly lower stats) and they both got into their colleges of choice.
- Her SAT score was 710 Verbal, 730 Math, which I thought was right at the median for UVA and William and Mary and above the average for Virginia Tech.
AND DID HER SIBLINGS HAVE THE SAME LAST NAME???
Your logic leaves much to be desired.
To your question, maybe her brothers had better essays or other things in their application.
Boys get penis points.
Schools want to have gender balance as much as possible, and at most schools about 2/3 of the applicants are girls. Boys get a boost.
Anonymous
03/25/2026 20:49
Subject: Rejected from Virginia publics—am I out of line?
I sincerely doubt her name had anything to do with it. My DD is Caucasian with similar stats/ECs/rigor to OPs DD, and she was rejected (as expected) by UVA and waitlisted by VT. She did not apply to W&M but outside of ED (and maybe even then) I’d have considered that a reach. Those outcomes aren’t a disadvantage or a bias…they’re reasonable college admissions results given the student profile in question.
DD is attending an OOS private that gave her $30k/year in merit. Still more than in state, but not by so much that we can’t make it work. And if we hadn’t been able to, she’d have gotten an excellent education at either VCU or GMU, both of which also offered her merit.
DD is attending an OOS private that gave her $30k/year in merit. Still more than in state, but not by so much that we can’t make it work. And if we hadn’t been able to, she’d have gotten an excellent education at either VCU or GMU, both of which also offered her merit.
Anonymous
03/25/2026 20:48
Subject: Rejected from Virginia publics—am I out of line?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:4.1 weighted (school does not do UW), maxed out rigor, and involved in activities. Applied as an IR/gov/polisci major to UVA, William and Mary, and Virginia tech and was outright denied by UVA and W&M. VT waitlisted but as far as I know they have no ‘spring waitlist’ program or separate campus like UVA wise you can go to for a year instead.
The only thing I can think of that could be the cause of this is my daughter’s name, which sounds Asian American despite her being Caucasian. Her first name is a name that some people have said is a stereotypical Asian name (think Alice or Christina), and our last name is Lee, which could be either white or Asian Korean.
In our case, it’s white, but people have said in the past when they have seen my daughter’s name but not my daughter (at first meetings, summer camp, etc) that they were expecting an Asian girl based on her name.
My husband thinks I sound like I need to be medicated, but I floated the idea of taking a gap year and changing either my daughter’s first or last name to be more explicitly Caucasian. She was open to it and is very young for her cohort anyway so it wouldn’t make her feel out of place later.
Am I out of line here? I’m not saying that it’s right that there may be a disadvantage for Asian Americans, but I don’t want my daughter to be harmed by any sort of biases.
Did she at least get in some good privates? JHU? Rice? Emory? Vandy? and top liberal arts colleges?
With a 4.1W? No way. Scores are most likely 1150-1350 with that GPA, depending on the high school
OP here.
To answer many questions:
- She did not apply to Case Western.
- The reason I expected better results is because her older brothers had similar stats (and one slightly lower stats) and they both got into their colleges of choice.
- Her SAT score was 710 Verbal, 730 Math, which I thought was right at the median for UVA and William and Mary and above the average for Virginia Tech.
AND DID HER SIBLINGS HAVE THE SAME LAST NAME???
Your logic leaves much to be desired.
To your question, maybe her brothers had better essays or other things in their application.
Anonymous
03/25/2026 20:48
Subject: Rejected from Virginia publics—am I out of line?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:4.1 weighted (school does not do UW), maxed out rigor, and involved in activities. Applied as an IR/gov/polisci major to UVA, William and Mary, and Virginia tech and was outright denied by UVA and W&M. VT waitlisted but as far as I know they have no ‘spring waitlist’ program or separate campus like UVA wise you can go to for a year instead.
The only thing I can think of that could be the cause of this is my daughter’s name, which sounds Asian American despite her being Caucasian. Her first name is a name that some people have said is a stereotypical Asian name (think Alice or Christina), and our last name is Lee, which could be either white or Asian Korean.
In our case, it’s white, but people have said in the past when they have seen my daughter’s name but not my daughter (at first meetings, summer camp, etc) that they were expecting an Asian girl based on her name.
My husband thinks I sound like I need to be medicated, but I floated the idea of taking a gap year and changing either my daughter’s first or last name to be more explicitly Caucasian. She was open to it and is very young for her cohort anyway so it wouldn’t make her feel out of place later.
Am I out of line here? I’m not saying that it’s right that there may be a disadvantage for Asian Americans, but I don’t want my daughter to be harmed by any sort of biases.
Did she at least get in some good privates? JHU? Rice? Emory? Vandy? and top liberal arts colleges?
With a 4.1W? No way. Scores are most likely 1150-1350 with that GPA, depending on the high school
OP here.
To answer many questions:
- She did not apply to Case Western.
- The reason I expected better results is because her older brothers had similar stats (and one slightly lower stats) and they both got into their colleges of choice.
- Her SAT score was 710 Verbal, 730 Math, which I thought was right at the median for UVA and William and Mary and above the average for Virginia Tech.
So you know it’s not the name, then. He must have the same last name.
Anonymous
03/25/2026 20:41
Subject: Rejected from Virginia publics—am I out of line?
Anonymous wrote:Agree Asians are held to a higher standard. Many anglicize their last names to sound white.
…how? Radhakrishnan or Hyeongsuk to Johnson or Smith isn’t what I would call anglicizing. ATP it’s fraud.
Anonymous
03/25/2026 20:40
Subject: Rejected from Virginia publics—am I out of line?
Wasian with Asian last name got into Harvard REA.
Anonymous
03/25/2026 20:40
Subject: Rejected from Virginia publics—am I out of line?
Anonymous wrote:4.1 weighted (school does not do UW), maxed out rigor, and involved in activities. Applied as an IR/gov/polisci major to UVA, William and Mary, and Virginia tech and was outright denied by UVA and W&M. VT waitlisted but as far as I know they have no ‘spring waitlist’ program or separate campus like UVA wise you can go to for a year instead.
The only thing I can think of that could be the cause of this is my daughter’s name, which sounds Asian American despite her being Caucasian. Her first name is a name that some people have said is a stereotypical Asian name (think Alice or Christina), and our last name is Lee, which could be either white or Asian Korean.
In our case, it’s white, but people have said in the past when they have seen my daughter’s name but not my daughter (at first meetings, summer camp, etc) that they were expecting an Asian girl based on her name.
My husband thinks I sound like I need to be medicated, but I floated the idea of taking a gap year and changing either my daughter’s first or last name to be more explicitly Caucasian. She was open to it and is very young for her cohort anyway so it wouldn’t make her feel out of place later.
Am I out of line here? I’m not saying that it’s right that there may be a disadvantage for Asian Americans, but I don’t want my daughter to be harmed by any sort of biases.
You describe a very middling applicant to the top three VA publics. Your daughter always had only the possibility of acceptance.
You overshot without a backup like GMU, JMU, or UMW.