Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My colleagues have my personal cell phone number. They have abused it since day one 6 years ago when I started. They routinely text me about non-critical work issues after hours and expect responses whether it be 5 am on a Sunday or 10 pm on a Tuesday.

This weekend one of our temamtes was admitted to Georgetown Hospital with severe chest pain. There were, I sh*t you not, 37 texts between 8 people expressing immediate concern and offers to help with their kids, dogs, meals etc.

Early this morning the 'patient' revealed that it was a ...... kidney stone.

Not even 15 minutes later, my manager (who is in the work group text) sent me a side text expressing 'dissapointment' that I had yet to chime in.

My wife and I had actaully taken a rare weekend away in a cabin by Charlottesville. My tean not only knew this, but I warned them that I might be unreachable as cell service is spotty down there.

Point being- they don't know whether I received these texts or not. So my manager's text is so out of line I'm having trouble containing my anger

I'm torn between playing dumb and texting back this afternoon "Hey, just back to reality and I got all these texts. Happy to hear Bill's issue wasnt serious!"

or

Texting my manager back alone and demanding a meeting with her boss first thing as this is clear cut harassment and invasion of privacy.

Your vote?

But no one knew it was a kidney stone initially, right? Seems like a normal caring person thing to discuss that with colleagues over the weekend. You should have chimed in early and then just been done with it. Not saying they should use your personal cell all the time, but in this case, it seems reasonable. You should just say you had your notifications silenced and just now seeing this. Deal with the inappropriate work texts another time when it's about something else.

Anonymous wrote:My colleagues have my personal cell phone number. They have abused it since day one 6 years ago when I started. They routinely text me about non-critical work issues after hours and expect responses whether it be 5 am on a Sunday or 10 pm on a Tuesday.

This weekend one of our temamtes was admitted to Georgetown Hospital with severe chest pain. There were, I sh*t you not, 37 texts between 8 people expressing immediate concern and offers to help with their kids, dogs, meals etc.

Early this morning the 'patient' revealed that it was a ...... kidney stone.

Not even 15 minutes later, my manager (who is in the work group text) sent me a side text expressing 'dissapointment' that I had yet to chime in.

My wife and I had actaully taken a rare weekend away in a cabin by Charlottesville. My tean not only knew this, but I warned them that I might be unreachable as cell service is spotty down there.

Point being- they don't know whether I received these texts or not. So my manager's text is so out of line I'm having trouble containing my anger

I'm torn between playing dumb and texting back this afternoon "Hey, just back to reality and I got all these texts. Happy to hear Bill's issue wasnt serious!"

or

Texting my manager back alone and demanding a meeting with her boss first thing as this is clear cut harassment and invasion of privacy.

Your vote?

Anonymous wrote:Respond Monday morning to your manager , “I was on vacation with my husband and had my phone muted. I assumed anything that needed my urgent attention , I would get a phone call. I sent Kevin an individual text this morning wishing him a speedy recovery. For future, I want to let you be aware that when I am off on the weekends, unless there is an urgent matter, I won’t be available to my coworkers. If I’m expected to take call on the weekends and be available , let’s have a sit down with HR and detail what is expected of me on the weekends so there can be clear expectations on both ends”

Anonymous wrote:You're having trouble showing compassion, either because you're naturally cold-hearted, or because you cannot deal with that much communication with colleagues.

You *should* have sent 1 text of support/commiseration about the medical issue. That's what a normal human being does.

But you didn't, because you're just so done with these people.

Your manager chided you because I'm guessing you never show compassion and never answer. So the one time you actually have a good excuse for not replying... happens to be the time your manager has had it up to there with your lack of social skills.

You're part of a chummy workforce, and honestly, you need to deal with it by giving them a modicum of chumminess back. Otherwise you're so obviously going to look like a weirdo!

No, don't report to HR. Try to send ONE text whenever there's a thread.

You are free to change jobs and try to find a workplace where they're all distant and uncaring like you.