Anonymous wrote:I am very surprised by this thread, you act as if what he said was not creepy. She has maybe had a few conversations with him maybe about the shopping or whatever. He ran into each other ass out of the store, so then you say, are you hungry? Do you wanna grab some coffee or something?

You don’t say: I’ve been thinking about you a lot. Maybe you say I was just thinking about you but even then they don’t have a friendship so that’s kind of weird.

That implies obsession, maybe even imagining inappropriate thoughts. I can imagine that OP was very flustered by his admonition and approach.

And now he’s staring at her? The appropriate thing would be to just pretend she’s not there like any other customer

Do not report him, do not engage, do not escalate you need to find a new fing store.

Anonymous wrote:Op here. My interactions with the employee at the store were brief and friendly. Being stopped at wegmans and being told “I think about you a lot” is what scared me. If he had just asked me on a date it would have been less awkward. I had a stalker in the past which resulted in a restraining order when I was in college. Costco self checkout tells you not to put carts of waters on their check out machines due to their weight. An employee is supposed to come by and scan them for you because they no longer let you use the hand scanner yourself due to theft concerns.

Anonymous wrote:I had a similar experience with a grocery store employee. I would use the self checkout, he would see me and follow me to my car to ask if I needed help or would collect carts close to my car. Eventually he followed me out and gave me his phone number.

I ended up avoiding the store for about a year, then when I went back, I made sure to avoid whatever checkout aisle he was in.

I didn’t say anything to a manager because he obviously would know it was me and I was worried about retaliation.

Eventually I got a much bigger boyfriend and started bringing him with me. Do you have a husband/Bf/male friend you could bring with you a couple times?

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Anonymous wrote:Over the previous few months I’ve needed to go to a large club warehouse weekly sometimes 2-3x a week to buy things for a charitable organization. This meant I saw many of the employees over and over again and would say hi, ask how they were etc. About a week before Christmas I was leaving wegmans and ran into one of the warehouse employees who recognized me and approached me saying it was funny to see me there as I’m always at the other store. He then confided in me he thinks about me a lot. This was awkward and I basically said okay and left as fast as I could. I’ve had to go to that store much less post holiday. Today I needed to go in and I had heavy items at self checkout where he happened to be working. I was offered no help with scanning the items and they’ve removed the hand scanners so I was forced to lift heavy cases of water. He did see me and gave me an uncomfortable look. I’m wondering if I should say something or not as everyone else was offered help.

Say what? It sounds like he was kind to you and you responded with rudeness.

Are you so helpless that you can’t lift water? You chose the self checkout!

I second that. Self-checkout? Lift your own water. Need help? Go to a register.

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Anonymous wrote:Over the previous few months I’ve needed to go to a large club warehouse weekly sometimes 2-3x a week to buy things for a charitable organization. This meant I saw many of the employees over and over again and would say hi, ask how they were etc. About a week before Christmas I was leaving wegmans and ran into one of the warehouse employees who recognized me and approached me saying it was funny to see me there as I’m always at the other store. He then confided in me he thinks about me a lot. This was awkward and I basically said okay and left as fast as I could. I’ve had to go to that store much less post holiday. Today I needed to go in and I had heavy items at self checkout where he happened to be working. I was offered no help with scanning the items and they’ve removed the hand scanners so I was forced to lift heavy cases of water. He did see me and gave me an uncomfortable look. I’m wondering if I should say something or not as everyone else was offered help.

Say what? It sounds like he was kind to you and you responded with rudeness.

Are you so helpless that you can’t lift water? You chose the self checkout!

Anonymous wrote:This post has me wondering if in fact it’s not me after all and 90% (maybe more) of the population is completely nuts. It is so difficult to go out in public any more, every interaction with a stranger is bizarre you can’t be polite without getting nasty looks, dont say anything get nasty looks, like what on earth has happened to us, it’s scary how weird everyone is.

Anonymous wrote:Op here. My interactions with the employee at the store were brief and friendly. Being stopped at wegmans and being told “I think about you a lot” is what scared me. If he had just asked me on a date it would have been less awkward. I had a stalker in the past which resulted in a restraining order when I was in college. Costco self checkout tells you not to put carts of waters on their check out machines due to their weight. An employee is supposed to come by and scan them for you because they no longer let you use the hand scanner yourself due to theft concerns.