Anonymous wrote:So in sum:

You've been talking for 2 years and have never met
He moved states so he can marry you, even though you've never met
He has anxious attachment issues
He's immature
He gets mad at you for not initiating video sex

The LEAST of your issues is the concealed carry

Please work on your obvious self esteem issues.

+1000

Anonymous wrote:So I've been talking to a guy I met online and I don't like online dating in general because I'm always afraid that they won't think I look as hot as my pictures or of the awkwardness etc. but I've been talking to this guy for almost 2 years. It's been long distance but he had moved to my state on a whim. So he conceals carry and I like him, but there are things about him that are very impulsive. And I think he has anxious attachment style too. So I'm a little nervous about meeting him because we also exchanged a lot of sexual stuff and I'm pretty shy in person and reserved. But I'm pretty let loose after you get to know me with friends. So I guess I'm just treading with caution and it's funny because I asked AI where we should meet and it immediately suggested police station or a very crowded place. So I don't know. I don't like online dating but it's the only way to meet people now especially being a shy girl like me. And I can't always tell when that guy likes me.

Do you have a question.

Girl, you in danger

100%, I would not date a person who did concealed carry or kept weapons in the house.

There is no reason to carry a weapon in this country. Whatever you may think about how it's going to protect you, the odds are you will be wrong. Weapons take a situation and make it move at warp speed. As soon as someone sees a weapon in a situation, they think they only have seconds to make a choice about whether they kill you or not.

I say this as a person who has lived and worked in a country which had a lot of criminality and also worked in a war zone, both of which only reinforced that carrying a gun makes a situation unpredictable.

Also, I had a lived with a fiancé who started to talk about buying a guy for "self-defense" in case we were robbed. I felt uncomfortable with a gun in the house. His whole crowd was preppy adults who were lawyers and entrepreneurs, married and responsible, but heavy drinkers. 25 years later the husband killed the wife in a murder-suicide that absolutely would not have happened if there hadn't been weapons in the home for "defense".


Yes, there is a second amendment and people have a right to carry a weapon and keep one in the home, but the risk of death by gun - suicide, murder, accident - far outweigh the minuscule possibility that one has to defend oneself in a robbery.

People have a second amendment right. They don't have a right to socialize with me while they're exercising their second amendment right .

Also, OP, haven't you ever heard of "Burn the Haystack" dating method? If there's the slightest red flag, toss him and move on. You don't need that in your life. If you don't have enough confidence to do so, then get in therapy and fix yourself before dating.

Anonymous wrote:Just keep posted on when you are planning to have this in-person meet. I'll be sure to watch the TV news next day.

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Anonymous wrote:So I've been talking to a guy I met online and I don't like online dating in general because I'm always afraid that they won't think I look as hot as my pictures or of the awkwardness etc. but I've been talking to this guy for almost 2 years. It's been long distance but he had moved to my state on a whim. So he conceals carry and I like him, but there are things about him that are very impulsive. And I think he has anxious attachment style too. So I'm a little nervous about meeting him because we also exchanged a lot of sexual stuff and I'm pretty shy in person and reserved. But I'm pretty let loose after you get to know me with friends. So I guess I'm just treading with caution and it's funny because I asked AI where we should meet and it immediately suggested police station or a very crowded place. So I don't know. I don't like online dating but it's the only way to meet people now especially being a shy girl like me. And I can't always tell when that guy likes me.

Bad idea to start out a relationship like this. He won't want a relationship, just a hook up.

Look up the burned haystack method before you head any further.

Then I must be the hottest 40-year-old because he moved here and got a job here in Virginia and his plan is to marry me. Yes, without meeting yet. I delayed it because I am a nervous anxious person too. And I'm shy. That's why I'm not married.

That’s an even bigger red flag. Get a grip.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So I've been talking to a guy I met online and I don't like online dating in general because I'm always afraid that they won't think I look as hot as my pictures or of the awkwardness etc. but I've been talking to this guy for almost 2 years. It's been long distance but he had moved to my state on a whim. So he conceals carry and I like him, but there are things about him that are very impulsive. And I think he has anxious attachment style too. So I'm a little nervous about meeting him because we also exchanged a lot of sexual stuff and I'm pretty shy in person and reserved. But I'm pretty let loose after you get to know me with friends. So I guess I'm just treading with caution and it's funny because I asked AI where we should meet and it immediately suggested police station or a very crowded place. So I don't know. I don't like online dating but it's the only way to meet people now especially being a shy girl like me. And I can't always tell when that guy likes me.

Bad idea to start out a relationship like this. He won't want a relationship, just a hook up.

Look up the burned haystack method before you head any further.

Then I must be the hottest 40-year-old because he moved here and got a job here in Virginia and his plan is to marry me. Yes, without meeting yet. I delayed it because I am a nervous anxious person too. And I'm shy. That's why I'm not married.

This was written by a man.

How come you've never tried to meet each other in two years? That seems very strange.

I am creeped out by this entire post.

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Anonymous wrote:So in sum:

You've been talking for 2 years and have never met
He moved states so he can marry you, even though you've never met
He has anxious attachment issues
He's immature
He gets mad at you for not initiating video sex

The LEAST of your issues is the concealed carry

Please work on your obvious self esteem issues.

I think OP should marry him. Get this loser off the market so he doesn't start targeting other women.

Honestly get them both off the market. They are both complete losers.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So in sum:

You've been talking for 2 years and have never met
He moved states so he can marry you, even though you've never met
He has anxious attachment issues
He's immature
He gets mad at you for not initiating video sex

The LEAST of your issues is the concealed carry

Please work on your obvious self esteem issues.

I think OP should marry him. Get this loser off the market so he doesn't start targeting other women.

I didn't say this. He's immature
He gets mad at you for not initiating video sex

Oh so sorry. Because there is such a distinction between complaining and getting mad. And if you can't tell he's immature, I'm not sure what to tell you. It's obvious you're not going to listen to anyone. Which is fine. But I hope you know what you're getting yourself into.

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Anonymous wrote:As someone who did military service in my country guns scare the hell out of me. I always find it weird the fascination of Americans men with trying to appear so masculine and often gun ownership is associated with masculinity. It's really weird. And a lot of them never serve in the military either.

If I were woman personally I'll ask myself why a man feels so unsafe that he needs to walk around with a gun.

Anyways I am not American so my opinion doesn't matter. But I did a 1 year military service which included being stationed for 3 months in a conflict zone with constant artillery fire. Guns are scary folks.

I'm a woman and own a gun. Guns are scary indeed, especially if someone is trying to break into my house has one.

Yes women should definitely not be afraid to carry their own gun.

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Anonymous wrote:So in sum:

You've been talking for 2 years and have never met
He moved states so he can marry you, even though you've never met
He has anxious attachment issues
He's immature
He gets mad at you for not initiating video sex

The LEAST of your issues is the concealed carry

Please work on your obvious self esteem issues.

I think OP should marry him. Get this loser off the market so he doesn't start targeting other women.

I didn't say this. He's immature
He gets mad at you for not initiating video sex

Anonymous wrote:So in sum:

You've been talking for 2 years and have never met
He moved states so he can marry you, even though you've never met
He has anxious attachment issues
He's immature
He gets mad at you for not initiating video sex

The LEAST of your issues is the concealed carry

Please work on your obvious self esteem issues.

I think OP should marry him. Get this loser off the market so he doesn't start targeting other women.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So I've been talking to a guy I met online and I don't like online dating in general because I'm always afraid that they won't think I look as hot as my pictures or of the awkwardness etc. but I've been talking to this guy for almost 2 years. It's been long distance but he had moved to my state on a whim. So he conceals carry and I like him, but there are things about him that are very impulsive. And I think he has anxious attachment style too. So I'm a little nervous about meeting him because we also exchanged a lot of sexual stuff and I'm pretty shy in person and reserved. But I'm pretty let loose after you get to know me with friends. So I guess I'm just treading with caution and it's funny because I asked AI where we should meet and it immediately suggested police station or a very crowded place. So I don't know. I don't like online dating but it's the only way to meet people now especially being a shy girl like me. And I can't always tell when that guy likes me.

Bad idea to start out a relationship like this. He won't want a relationship, just a hook up.

Look up the burned haystack method before you head any further.

Then I must be the hottest 40-year-old because he moved here and got a job here in Virginia and his plan is to marry me. Yes, without meeting yet. I delayed it because I am a nervous anxious person too. And I'm shy. That's why I'm not married.

Err are you sure this isn't a scam? You sound really naive and gullible.