Anonymous
Post 02/26/2026 20:41     Subject: Baby fever hitting hard
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No wonder no one wants to have kids anymore. You are not allowed to have even a shred of biological or selfish motivation anymore; it has to be a perfect, rational calculation with zero of your own interests involved to be considered a morally acceptable decision.

OP, I think it’s fine and normal to want a sort of “do over” when your only experience of having a baby was rough for reasons outside your control. My oldest has a severe sleep disorder that took over our lives and crowded out all other aspects of parenting to the point I truly have no memories of babyhood. This definitely played a part in my wanting a second, and I am not ashamed to say that. I wanted some happy memories of having a baby.

Do not have a baby with another man before being married. Do not marry before being really sure. Protect your existing kids financially and literally. But if you still want another, go for it.

Wow, I feel so bad for your eldest. Imagine your mother hating you because of what you were like from 0-12 mons.


Ha, it didn’t end at 12 months. Sleep disorders don’t resolve like that. I never said I hate my child. What a callous comment. I love them very much or I wouldn’t have given my life to help kid with the sleep issues.
Anonymous
Post 02/26/2026 20:33     Subject: Baby fever hitting hard
You sound so insane.
Anonymous
Post 02/26/2026 20:14     Subject: Baby fever hitting hard
My third and last conceived and born when I was 41/ my attitude was let’s try and see what happens. It did happen quickly 😃
He’s a blessing - as my middle daughter said when he was born “Now we have our whole family!”
She knew.
Anonymous
Post 02/26/2026 20:09     Subject: Baby fever hitting hard
I think you should have a third
Anonymous
Post 02/26/2026 20:04     Subject: Baby fever hitting hard
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm 45, my wife is 44. We have a 4 month old. Love her to bits.

I'll never say it, but I wouldn't do it over again. To quote the great poet Miley Cyrus, "she came in like wrecking ball".

Hormones for my wife were OFF THE HOOK. An extreme experience. Also, she is finding it very difficult to bounce back physically: several times as difficult as the last time, which was 8 years ago.

Also, keep in mind, the good sex you are now having with Mr. Wonderful will be gone and the body that he loves is going to be gone with it. You will not rebound like the 21-year-old soldier's wife you see at the grocery store. Just doesn't work that way.

This is a gross comment. She's created at least two humans from her body. Nothing needs to bounce anywhere. She needs to nourish her baby and focus on that, not the shallow disgusting male trying to degrade her.


This is based on her report, not my editorializing. I don't know how to break it to you, but women care about their postpartum bodies. I don't make the rules.


DP - you did say “the body that he loves is going to be gone.”


touche
Anonymous
Post 02/26/2026 19:57     Subject: Baby fever hitting hard
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm 45, my wife is 44. We have a 4 month old. Love her to bits.

I'll never say it, but I wouldn't do it over again. To quote the great poet Miley Cyrus, "she came in like wrecking ball".

Hormones for my wife were OFF THE HOOK. An extreme experience. Also, she is finding it very difficult to bounce back physically: several times as difficult as the last time, which was 8 years ago.

Also, keep in mind, the good sex you are now having with Mr. Wonderful will be gone and the body that he loves is going to be gone with it. You will not rebound like the 21-year-old soldier's wife you see at the grocery store. Just doesn't work that way.

This is a gross comment. She's created at least two humans from her body. Nothing needs to bounce anywhere. She needs to nourish her baby and focus on that, not the shallow disgusting male trying to degrade her.


This is based on her report, not my editorializing. I don't know how to break it to you, but women care about their postpartum bodies. I don't make the rules.


DP - you did say “the body that he loves is going to be gone.”
Anonymous
Post 02/26/2026 19:39     Subject: Baby fever hitting hard
Anonymous wrote:I'm 45, my wife is 44. We have a 4 month old. Love her to bits.

I'll never say it, but I wouldn't do it over again. To quote the great poet Miley Cyrus, "she came in like wrecking ball".

Hormones for my wife were OFF THE HOOK. An extreme experience. Also, she is finding it very difficult to bounce back physically: several times as difficult as the last time, which was 8 years ago.

Also, keep in mind, the good sex you are now having with Mr. Wonderful will be gone and the body that he loves is going to be gone with it. You will not rebound like the 21-year-old soldier's wife you see at the grocery store. Just doesn't work that way.


OP. I'm not worried about that at all, he's not that type of man. Don't wanna get into specifics, but I know he's very much into the older mom look.
Anonymous
Post 02/26/2026 18:52     Subject: Baby fever hitting hard
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm 45, my wife is 44. We have a 4 month old. Love her to bits.

I'll never say it, but I wouldn't do it over again. To quote the great poet Miley Cyrus, "she came in like wrecking ball".

Hormones for my wife were OFF THE HOOK. An extreme experience. Also, she is finding it very difficult to bounce back physically: several times as difficult as the last time, which was 8 years ago.

Also, keep in mind, the good sex you are now having with Mr. Wonderful will be gone and the body that he loves is going to be gone with it. You will not rebound like the 21-year-old soldier's wife you see at the grocery store. Just doesn't work that way.

This is a gross comment. She's created at least two humans from her body. Nothing needs to bounce anywhere. She needs to nourish her baby and focus on that, not the shallow disgusting male trying to degrade her.


This is based on her report, not my editorializing. I don't know how to break it to you, but women care about their postpartum bodies. I don't make the rules.

When you have a husband talking about how she's not bouncing back, yeah it's probably hard to avoid. Try supporting her and building her up instead of tearing her down.
Anonymous
Post 02/26/2026 18:45     Subject: Baby fever hitting hard
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm 45, my wife is 44. We have a 4 month old. Love her to bits.

I'll never say it, but I wouldn't do it over again. To quote the great poet Miley Cyrus, "she came in like wrecking ball".

Hormones for my wife were OFF THE HOOK. An extreme experience. Also, she is finding it very difficult to bounce back physically: several times as difficult as the last time, which was 8 years ago.

Also, keep in mind, the good sex you are now having with Mr. Wonderful will be gone and the body that he loves is going to be gone with it. You will not rebound like the 21-year-old soldier's wife you see at the grocery store. Just doesn't work that way.

This is a gross comment. She's created at least two humans from her body. Nothing needs to bounce anywhere. She needs to nourish her baby and focus on that, not the shallow disgusting male trying to degrade her.


This is based on her report, not my editorializing. I don't know how to break it to you, but women care about their postpartum bodies. I don't make the rules.
Anonymous
Post 02/26/2026 18:35     Subject: Baby fever hitting hard
Anonymous wrote:I'm 45, my wife is 44. We have a 4 month old. Love her to bits.

I'll never say it, but I wouldn't do it over again. To quote the great poet Miley Cyrus, "she came in like wrecking ball".

Hormones for my wife were OFF THE HOOK. An extreme experience. Also, she is finding it very difficult to bounce back physically: several times as difficult as the last time, which was 8 years ago.

Also, keep in mind, the good sex you are now having with Mr. Wonderful will be gone and the body that he loves is going to be gone with it. You will not rebound like the 21-year-old soldier's wife you see at the grocery store. Just doesn't work that way.

This is a gross comment. She's created at least two humans from her body. Nothing needs to bounce anywhere. She needs to nourish her baby and focus on that, not the shallow disgusting male trying to degrade her.
Anonymous
Post 02/26/2026 18:23     Subject: Baby fever hitting hard
I'm 45, my wife is 44. We have a 4 month old. Love her to bits.

I'll never say it, but I wouldn't do it over again. To quote the great poet Miley Cyrus, "she came in like wrecking ball".

Hormones for my wife were OFF THE HOOK. An extreme experience. Also, she is finding it very difficult to bounce back physically: several times as difficult as the last time, which was 8 years ago.

Also, keep in mind, the good sex you are now having with Mr. Wonderful will be gone and the body that he loves is going to be gone with it. You will not rebound like the 21-year-old soldier's wife you see at the grocery store. Just doesn't work that way.