Anonymous
02/26/2026 11:21
Subject: Would you move to a nicer place if you can afford it?
I think both your perspectives are valid, but it's clear she won't move in/come over much due to the roach issue so that won't change.
My perspective as someone who was pretty complacent for a long time about renting what was objectively a sub-par place: You think you have a good deal but might change your mind if you look around, expand a bit geographically and see what's out there. Maybe this relationship was the little push you needed to get the ball rolling on looking into owning a home/apartment or getting a better rental. And no harm done if it turns out you'd rather stay put after seriously looking.
My perspective as someone who was pretty complacent for a long time about renting what was objectively a sub-par place: You think you have a good deal but might change your mind if you look around, expand a bit geographically and see what's out there. Maybe this relationship was the little push you needed to get the ball rolling on looking into owning a home/apartment or getting a better rental. And no harm done if it turns out you'd rather stay put after seriously looking.
Anonymous
02/26/2026 11:12
Subject: Would you move to a nicer place if you can afford it?
No girlfriend will want to come over if you have roaches. Yuck. Moving now would be a long term plan.
Anonymous
02/26/2026 09:36
Subject: Would you move to a nicer place if you can afford it?
If you are in the dmv 2200 is not that great of a rent
Anonymous
02/25/2026 20:31
Subject: Would you move to a nicer place if you can afford it?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I take home $11200/month and my rent is $2200 per month. I don't line in a nice building and apartment but the area is very safe and near Costco, restaurants, etc...
There is a 2 years wait list to live here. Despite the roaches and perhaps the ethnic/demographic background of most tenants that some may have an issue with the place is a steal.
So I don't want to leave. Now recently I started recently and she hates coming to my place. She doesn't like the building, she doesn't like that from time to time it needs to be treated for roaches and I feel like at some point she may suggest we move in together or I find a better place.
Folks only paying $2200 rent on a take home pay of $11200 I won't move. And I am not even thinking about buying a house unless I get expelled from this place lol.
Would you move to a "nicer" place if your rent was this low.
I pay roughly what you're paying and I own a townhouse with no roaches. Doesn't seem ideal.
But I would like to move to a single family home since we have young kids now. However that would mean either tripling my mortgage or liquidating almost all investments to buy in cash. I'm hoping that within a few years I'll be in a better position to move up in houses before our oldest is 5.
Good for you for not overextending yourself. I just have a bad feeling...We bought in August 2020 a $1600 sqft split level for 460k and we just sold it (moving to a different state) for 765k this past January 20206.. We did not do a single renovation and or improvement. I don't know I'll just caution people buying today. If you can't afford cash or 40% down just wait.
Anonymous
02/25/2026 17:34
Subject: Would you move to a nicer place if you can afford it?
Anonymous wrote:I think this is a bigger question than just this apartment. It's possible that you and what I am taking is a new dating person (sentence was unclear) you might not be on the same page in terms of lifestyle. Some people just need/want a more gracious living situation than one that has noticeable roaches. I understand they are pretty much unavoidable entirely, but the question is realistically how often do you see them?
+1
Anyone over 30 needs to be well on their way to home ownership. And I would never date someone that lived in an apartment like OP described unless they were a student. Period.
When I got married DH moved us into a small townhouse and that caused many arguments. I don’t want to live attached to others - I need a house in a city.
Anonymous
02/25/2026 17:21
Subject: Would you move to a nicer place if you can afford it?
I was all ready to tell you that I wouldn’t leave - even as my HHI climbed to seven figures I have stuck with the house we paid $380k for a decade ago. It’s nice enough, our neighbors are wonderful and it’s great to have housing expenses so much lower than our income.
But roaches? Gross. Get out of there!
But roaches? Gross. Get out of there!
Anonymous
02/25/2026 00:38
Subject: Would you move to a nicer place if you can afford it?
Anonymous wrote:I take home $11200/month and my rent is $2200 per month. I don't line in a nice building and apartment but the area is very safe and near Costco, restaurants, etc...
There is a 2 years wait list to live here. Despite the roaches and perhaps the ethnic/demographic background of most tenants that some may have an issue with the place is a steal.
So I don't want to leave. Now recently I started recently and she hates coming to my place. She doesn't like the building, she doesn't like that from time to time it needs to be treated for roaches and I feel like at some point she may suggest we move in together or I find a better place.
Folks only paying $2200 rent on a take home pay of $11200 I won't move. And I am not even thinking about buying a house unless I get expelled from this place lol.
Would you move to a "nicer" place if your rent was this low.
I pay roughly what you're paying and I own a townhouse with no roaches. Doesn't seem ideal.
But I would like to move to a single family home since we have young kids now. However that would mean either tripling my mortgage or liquidating almost all investments to buy in cash. I'm hoping that within a few years I'll be in a better position to move up in houses before our oldest is 5.
Anonymous
02/24/2026 20:31
Subject: Would you move to a nicer place if you can afford it?
Anonymous wrote:Don’t move. Keep building your wealth. If your GF really love you, she will support your choice. If she doesn’t support your choice, she doesn’t really love you and you should let her go.
Op is choosing roaches.
Anonymous
02/24/2026 19:56
Subject: Would you move to a nicer place if you can afford it?
Don’t move. Keep building your wealth. If your GF really love you, she will support your choice. If she doesn’t support your choice, she doesn’t really love you and you should let her go.
Anonymous
02/23/2026 21:21
Subject: Would you move to a nicer place if you can afford it?
Anonymous wrote:Dude. Do you want a girlfriend or not?
You can have your roaches, or you can have a girlfriend. Roaches are cheaper than a girlfriend, but most people prefer the girlfriend to roaches. That's what I'd pick at least.
But it's up to you. You pick roaches, well, enjoy your roaches.
+1 million
Roaches are gross. And it sounds like a complete infestation. What woman wants to have s*x knowing a roach could crawl onto the bed or crunch under her foot or crawl into her sexy lingerie.
GROSS.
And sorry OP, I highly doubt you live in some exclusive building with a wait list with such a low rent and an extreme vermin problem. Your lack of standards is quite telling.
Anonymous
02/23/2026 21:08
Subject: Would you move to a nicer place if you can afford it?
Can you spend nights at her place instead until you have more of a history together? She is being reasonable. Roaches are gross. If you end up sharing a place, you could spend the same money to split a better place with her.
My last BF was a slob. His place gave me anxiety. So he usually stayed at my place unless we wanted to go drinking near his place. If we'd gone the distance, we would have bought a new place together and gotten a maid.
My last BF was a slob. His place gave me anxiety. So he usually stayed at my place unless we wanted to go drinking near his place. If we'd gone the distance, we would have bought a new place together and gotten a maid.
Anonymous
02/23/2026 20:00
Subject: Would you move to a nicer place if you can afford it?
Dump the girlfriend. She'll leave you broke.
The key to getting rich is to spend less. You're headed in the right direction. Don't let that girlfriend distract you.
The key to getting rich is to spend less. You're headed in the right direction. Don't let that girlfriend distract you.
Anonymous
02/23/2026 18:30
Subject: Would you move to a nicer place if you can afford it?
Where is it? My DC was in a brand new apartment for the price - near Udvar Hazy.
Anonymous
02/23/2026 17:46
Subject: Re:Would you move to a nicer place if you can afford it?
AbsoLUTELY! I live in a crappy shoebox of an apartment with barely any kitchen counter space, and oven that only partially works, no dishwasher, no bathtub, no vanity space in the bathroom, no natural light. Living here makes me feel poor. I have rent control, so I'm stuck.
Anonymous
02/23/2026 17:35
Subject: Would you move to a nicer place if you can afford it?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'd move no matter what if there were that level of a roach problem.
+1. Live within your means but find a decent place if you can afford it. Roaches ain’t it.
I’ve lived in NYC and the occasional roach happens even in a fairly nice apartment (they can come in through plumbing.) but if you’re getting regular roaches because the place is a dump, move.
OP is a miser with low standards. Life with such a person is going to suck no matter what, red flag. I know women who are miserable living with men like this, and they aren't poor, it's just their men don't care about QOL of their families and don't mind exposing them to the hardships that people work hard to overcome to not have to deal with for the sake of penny pinching. OP's future is either finding a person on the same page (dump this GF, because you won't be happy with her and will make her life miserable) or to stay single forever.
+1 OP is not compatible with the GF who is looking for normal living conditions.