Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t worry too much about succeeding.

I don't know if you're joking or not but I think most people understand what's happening with women in their 40s and 50s and give them grace or I hope so.

?? I don’t think a single person in the workplace would give grace or knows what’s going on. Maybe another woman the same age? It absolutely wouldn’t have occurred to me when I was younger that menopause caused anything.

+1 when I was younger it never crossed my mind! Of course I would have been understanding if someone said- oouf, I'm witchy today and here's why! Avoid me! I'm gonna go take a break in my car! Same as I would have understood anyone going through anything! But I had no. idea.

For sleep issues in my 40s I used boring Books on Tape. The stories were just interesting enough to keep me engaged and not worry and I would be lulled to sleep.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know so many women who took the VERA primarily as a result of peri symptoms making it impossible to continue working.

Ffs. Please stop with this pernicious myth that “peri” is a disability. You are not doing anyone any favors. Women can work through pregnancy, breastfeeding, caring for an infant … we can work through a decrease in estrogen.

Speak for yourself. Instead of telling women to just suck it up, maybe advocate for more treatment options. Imagine if men had to go through any of the above things. They would be whining and crying all the time.

No, there would be better solutions. If men had to deal with perimenopause, it would actually be taken seriously and we’d have better options in place for dealing with it.

I am 40 with family history of menopause around 45 and have been dealing with sleep issues for a while now. I believe I have been in peri for years, but nobody will do HRT at my age so..

It's hit or miss, but I found a good exercise routine and magnesium before bed helps. Also strangely, spironolactone helped a lot for the year I was on it, but I had to quit because it totally killed my libido.

Anonymous wrote:I’m in survival mode. I work 7am-6pm most days. I’m exhausted and I spend too much time finding the will to keep going. I take crying breaks. Regularly. Usually in the bathroom at work.

I plan my life around weekends away, which happen about every 3 months. They are the light at the end of this miserable tunnel.

A 25 year old athlete will also feel exhausted with this schedule. I am all for supporting peri but this is not it.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know so many women who took the VERA primarily as a result of peri symptoms making it impossible to continue working.

I had to leave a pretty promising job bc of symptoms, in my 30s. The symptoms started around 38. Needless to say I will never return to a competitive high potential role.

The sh*** part is that my career barely had some improvements around 36 😂

Just stop. Something else was going on with you psychologically.

Or you never made to a competitive career track to understand what it takes.

I work PT and I take naps. Without a nap I don’t really function very well, unless it’s a weekend, but even then I always want to nap

Anonymous wrote:I have the same issue – my doctor put me on a continuous birth control pill (I’m still having a fairly regular period) which will hopefully even out my estrogen and progesterone levels and allow me to sleep through the night again.

My NP Tried to do the same but apparently it’s now ok to start HRT even with a regular period and BC patches might have the wrong hormone dosages for the purpose.
Dont take me at my word but something like that

Quit that shit. Work sucks.

Anonymous wrote:I dont know - I just cried and swore in a conversation with my boss yesterday, and announced that I'm taking a mental health day. I sleep deeply but am wide awake fr long parts of the night. Coffee is essential. I can't do HRT because I'm high risk of BC.

+1

I will just say that symptoms hit me hard right around 45 1/2. The combination of returned to work post Covid and debilitating insomnia was not great, particularly in the two weeks before my period, and I had awful brain fog. Hormonal continuous birth control has helped tremendously.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t worry too much about succeeding.

I don't know if you're joking or not but I think most people understand what's happening with women in their 40s and 50s and give them grace or I hope so.

?? I don’t think a single person in the workplace would give grace or knows what’s going on. Maybe another woman the same age? It absolutely wouldn’t have occurred to me when I was younger that menopause caused anything.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know so many women who took the VERA primarily as a result of peri symptoms making it impossible to continue working.

Ffs. Please stop with this pernicious myth that “peri” is a disability. You are not doing anyone any favors. Women can work through pregnancy, breastfeeding, caring for an infant … we can work through a decrease in estrogen.

Speak for yourself. Instead of telling women to just suck it up, maybe advocate for more treatment options. Imagine if men had to go through any of the above things. They would be whining and crying all the time.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know so many women who took the VERA primarily as a result of peri symptoms making it impossible to continue working.

I had to leave a pretty promising job bc of symptoms, in my 30s. The symptoms started around 38. Needless to say I will never return to a competitive high potential role.

The sh*** part is that my career barely had some improvements around 36 😂

Just stop. Something else was going on with you psychologically.

Anonymous wrote:I know so many women who took the VERA primarily as a result of peri symptoms making it impossible to continue working.

Ffs. Please stop with this pernicious myth that “peri” is a disability. You are not doing anyone any favors. Women can work through pregnancy, breastfeeding, caring for an infant … we can work through a decrease in estrogen.