Anonymous
02/18/2026 09:40
Subject: Nearly 17 year old son is sexually active
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Impress upon him that he MUST use condoms regardless, and always treat her with respect and consideration. Then stay out of it.
This, 100% this, every single time, even if she is on birth control. And h@ll no, you do not tell her parents.
And are there any lawyers here? If he turns 18 while she is still 17, can he be arrested for statutory rate? That would be my worry
I don’t think so. Not for a continuous relationship that started when they were both minors
Not a lawyer tho
Also not a lawyer, but my understanding is it varies by state. In Virginia, minors within a certain age of each other (and over a certain age - maybe 14?) can have sex, but there’s no “Romeo and Juliet” law once one is 18. In other words, a 16 and 17 year old can have sex (if it’s close enough in age) but an 18 year old and 17 year old cannot.
In Maryland the Romeo and Juliet law is for someone within three years and it looks like the age of consent generally is 17.
I met my husband when I was 19 and he was 17. (We didn’t sleep together for 1.5 years). It’s weird to me that multiple people asked me if that means I raped him. It just so happens that we met in Massachusetts and I looked it up and the age of consent is 16, but back then this didn’t occur to me. The Romeo and Juliet law in Mass applies if you’re within 2 years of age. I’m just over two years older but, since we waited, it didn’t matter anyway. Teenage sex is complicated for so many reasons, but laws are for sure one of them!
You people are bored idiots. Yes yes, the police are running around trying to arrest and convict a HS senior who dates a sophomore. You got it people, what a brain trust we have here on DCUM
Anonymous
02/18/2026 08:26
Subject: Nearly 17 year old son is sexually active
2 forms of birth control!!!!!
Teens are so fertile.They need birth control and back-up. I see patients as a women's health NP.
My own 18 year old son was sexually active with a girlfriend through much of senior year and this all made me very nervous because I really fear teen pregnancy. The guy has no control over the decision to terminate or not. I have girls too and the unwanted pregnancy concern was greater with my son because he wouldn't be the one making the decision.
Teens are so fertile.They need birth control and back-up. I see patients as a women's health NP.
My own 18 year old son was sexually active with a girlfriend through much of senior year and this all made me very nervous because I really fear teen pregnancy. The guy has no control over the decision to terminate or not. I have girls too and the unwanted pregnancy concern was greater with my son because he wouldn't be the one making the decision.
Anonymous
02/18/2026 08:05
Subject: Nearly 17 year old son is sexually active
Anonymous wrote:Ok, cool story.
No you shouldn't tell her parents! Wtf. You also shouldn't tell the random internet but here we are.
lol
Anonymous
02/18/2026 07:29
Subject: Re:Nearly 17 year old son is sexually active
^ yeah if it was already a relationship and one turns 18 in the midst of it ?
Anonymous
02/18/2026 07:27
Subject: Nearly 17 year old son is sexually active
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Impress upon him that he MUST use condoms regardless, and always treat her with respect and consideration. Then stay out of it.
This, 100% this, every single time, even if she is on birth control. And h@ll no, you do not tell her parents.
And are there any lawyers here? If he turns 18 while she is still 17, can he be arrested for statutory rate? That would be my worry
I don’t think so. Not for a continuous relationship that started when they were both minors
Not a lawyer tho
Also not a lawyer, but my understanding is it varies by state. In Virginia, minors within a certain age of each other (and over a certain age - maybe 14?) can have sex, but there’s no “Romeo and Juliet” law once one is 18. In other words, a 16 and 17 year old can have sex (if it’s close enough in age) but an 18 year old and 17 year old cannot.
In Maryland the Romeo and Juliet law is for someone within three years and it looks like the age of consent generally is 17.
I met my husband when I was 19 and he was 17. (We didn’t sleep together for 1.5 years). It’s weird to me that multiple people asked me if that means I raped him. It just so happens that we met in Massachusetts and I looked it up and the age of consent is 16, but back then this didn’t occur to me. The Romeo and Juliet law in Mass applies if you’re within 2 years of age. I’m just over two years older but, since we waited, it didn’t matter anyway. Teenage sex is complicated for so many reasons, but laws are for sure one of them!
I’m not sure. I was raised in NoVa so many seniors dated underclass - junior/sophomores.
My kid is a senior with a GF that is a junior. He’s still 17, but turns 18 in April.
Anonymous
02/18/2026 05:45
Subject: Nearly 17 year old son is sexually active
Anonymous wrote:Impress upon him that he MUST use condoms regardless, and always treat her with respect and consideration. Then stay out of it.
This.
Anonymous
02/17/2026 20:04
Subject: Nearly 17 year old son is sexually active
Don't tell her parents! He should use 2 forms birth control.
Anonymous
02/17/2026 19:48
Subject: Nearly 17 year old son is sexually active
Keep him busy. Nothing wrong with being sexually active at 17, but it shouldn’t be his main activity.
Anonymous
02/17/2026 19:42
Subject: Nearly 17 year old son is sexually active
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Impress upon him that he MUST use condoms regardless, and always treat her with respect and consideration. Then stay out of it.
This, 100% this, every single time, even if she is on birth control. And h@ll no, you do not tell her parents.
And are there any lawyers here? If he turns 18 while she is still 17, can he be arrested for statutory rate? That would be my worry
I don’t think so. Not for a continuous relationship that started when they were both minors
Not a lawyer tho
Also not a lawyer, but my understanding is it varies by state. In Virginia, minors within a certain age of each other (and over a certain age - maybe 14?) can have sex, but there’s no “Romeo and Juliet” law once one is 18. In other words, a 16 and 17 year old can have sex (if it’s close enough in age) but an 18 year old and 17 year old cannot.
In Maryland the Romeo and Juliet law is for someone within three years and it looks like the age of consent generally is 17.
I met my husband when I was 19 and he was 17. (We didn’t sleep together for 1.5 years). It’s weird to me that multiple people asked me if that means I raped him. It just so happens that we met in Massachusetts and I looked it up and the age of consent is 16, but back then this didn’t occur to me. The Romeo and Juliet law in Mass applies if you’re within 2 years of age. I’m just over two years older but, since we waited, it didn’t matter anyway. Teenage sex is complicated for so many reasons, but laws are for sure one of them!
Anonymous
02/17/2026 18:23
Subject: Nearly 17 year old son is sexually active
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Mom of a 17 year old girl here. No, don’t tell her parents.
Why not?
PP here and I’m trying to imagine this conversation with parents that I hardly know. I’m not sure what the point would be. To make them stop? To break them up? To make sure they’re supervised 24/7? None of that is possible when they’re 17. If you’ve laid the groundwork for a trusting relationship with your almost-adult child and you’ve taught them to make good decisions about who they spend time with and how they take care of themselves and others, that’s really all you can do at this point.
Anonymous
02/17/2026 17:17
Subject: Nearly 17 year old son is sexually active
Anonymous wrote:No, do not contact her parents. You need to buy condoms and Plan B for your son. You can buy them online. Better safe than sorry.
Well, don’t tell her dad at least.
Anonymous
02/17/2026 16:24
Subject: Nearly 17 year old son is sexually active
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Mom of a 17 year old girl here. No, don’t tell her parents.
Why not?
It's not OP's place, and it will break trust with your child.
Anonymous
02/17/2026 16:22
Subject: Nearly 17 year old son is sexually active
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Mom of a 17 year old girl here. No, don’t tell her parents.
That’s it mom. Just bury your head in the sand. Much easier that way.
It is not up to the boy's parents to tell the girl's parents. If the girl hasn't told the parents, then she doesn't have a close relationship with them. That's not on OP.
-parent of DS and DD.
Anonymous
02/17/2026 16:21
Subject: Nearly 17 year old son is sexually active
Anonymous wrote:Mom of a 17 year old girl here. No, don’t tell her parents.
+1 I have a DS and DD. I know my DS was having sex with his also 17 yr old gf (I found condoms). I have told both my kids that they should wait until they find someone whom they really love but no matter what, use condoms.
DS thought he and his gf were going to stay together forever. They stayed together for another 2.5 years, and he said he thought that they were going to get married. She broke up with him, and he was heartbroken.
Anonymous
02/17/2026 16:17
Subject: Nearly 17 year old son is sexually active
Anonymous wrote:Good for him!
+1
Better to know he is active and enjoys it
These days it’s a way bigger risk not being active