Anonymous wrote:EVERY private school has kids with ADHD. Every single school. You will not be counseled out unless your child’s needs cannot adequately be addressed by the school. No one is getting counseled out for inattention. Schools are concerned about behavior issues that impact the classroom.

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And related to that, behaviors that make the curriculum inaccessible.

We have two kids with ADHD, one almost perfect SAT score without accommodating, but med and previous executive function training. Kid at big 3. The other needed extended time, small cohort testing. Score improved with extended time testing. Both do well in their respective schools, the one needing additional time is not at a big 3 and has been helpful with accommodations. Suggest figuring out what works best for your kid by talking to subject matter experts to see what accommodations your kid will need and then talk to school and current parents about how well this is addressed at the schools you are considering.

Anonymous wrote:By “interventions” do they mean the reading specialist? Really shocked that they would say you can stay but won’t get that basic level of support, that’s so shitty. I hope your DC lands at a better place next year.

Yes, the reading specialist. Apparently only focuses on certain grade levels and DC will not be in one of the target grades next year. I hope so, too - worried about pulling DC from friends, but know (hope!) in the end the shift will be better for them.

By “interventions” do they mean the reading specialist? Really shocked that they would say you can stay but won’t get that basic level of support, that’s so shitty. I hope your DC lands at a better place next year.

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Anonymous wrote:If your schools are counseling out well behaved thriving kids diagnosed with ADHD your at the wrong school. So many kids have ADHD. We’ve have kids with ADHD at different schools and they have all been great!

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We are at a private ( not a big 3) and they have been amazing. They came up with the accommodation plan, I reviewed it, added a couple things and it’s been in place for 2 years.
Didnt even occur to me we might be asked to leave. Do whats right for your kid OP

Which school is that? We are searching for schools that treat adhd kids well for our DC.

As a family with an ADHD kid that has been bullied by their Big 3 school, I’m really happy for you PP. I truly hate our school and what they have done to my child. Counting down the days until the school year is over.

We feel the same about our school. Socially it has been a great place for our child - but the school has been more than clear with us as parents that they do not have the ability or time to educate children that are not their ideal student. [I'm talking multiple meetings only weeks apart to continue to reiterate why our child is broken]. Our child has mild dyslexia, no behavioral problems, has no problem making friends, and teachers have expressed positive feelings towards them. Our child has been making great progress with the reading specialist since they started at the beginning of the school year - yet just two months into the school year, they called us in to start counseling us out - we have been a bit blindsided. They said we could stay at the school but would not commit to continuing the intervention they're currently providing -- it pains us to pull our child out but in the end realize that children can sense how they are perceived by the adults in the school and do not want them to end up feeling bad about themselves because the administration and some teachers find them to be a burden.

In the end, some private schools want to provide support, and others do not. I wish I had known to ask about this when we were looking for a lower school.

With no comment on the conduct of the private schools, I don't think this is a situation where nondisclosure would make a difference. They are going to act mainly based on what's happening in the classroom.

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Anonymous wrote:If your schools are counseling out well behaved thriving kids diagnosed with ADHD your at the wrong school. So many kids have ADHD. We’ve have kids with ADHD at different schools and they have all been great!

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We are at a private ( not a big 3) and they have been amazing. They came up with the accommodation plan, I reviewed it, added a couple things and it’s been in place for 2 years.
Didnt even occur to me we might be asked to leave. Do whats right for your kid OP

Which school is that? We are searching for schools that treat adhd kids well for our DC.

As a family with an ADHD kid that has been bullied by their Big 3 school, I’m really happy for you PP. I truly hate our school and what they have done to my child. Counting down the days until the school year is over.

Anonymous wrote:Half the kids at our top private get extended time for testing due to ADHD inattentive type.

That is a different story. That is abusing the system. There is a recent The Atlantic article about this extension of exam time in colleges, especially elite colleges.

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Anonymous wrote:If your schools are counseling out well behaved thriving kids diagnosed with ADHD your at the wrong school. So many kids have ADHD. We’ve have kids with ADHD at different schools and they have all been great!

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We are at a private ( not a big 3) and they have been amazing. They came up with the accommodation plan, I reviewed it, added a couple things and it’s been in place for 2 years.
Didnt even occur to me we might be asked to leave. Do whats right for your kid OP

Which school is that? We are searching for schools that treat adhd kids well for our DC.

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Anonymous wrote:Half the kids at our top private get extended time for testing due to ADHD inattentive type.

There are all sorts of other useful accommodations for ADHD that may be appropriate for elementary aged children. For example, seating near the teacher and away from distractions, wiggle chairs and resistance bands on seats, noise canceling headphones, designated quiet areas for independent work, daily check-ins with teachers to boost executive function skill building, scheduled movement breaks . . . My child has a diagnosis and has rejected extended time for testing for fear of looking too different from the other children. But plenty of other accommodations have been super helpful! Partnering with the school can give your child access to those accommodations and more.

Same for my kid. School offered a bunch of accommodations after we got the diagnosis, many of which aren’t necessary right now. Diagnosis helps us and his teachers understand how his brain works and helps us often give him the benefit of the doubt. It’s been a good thing for him. I wouldn’t even bother with the diagnosis if you’re not going to share with the school.

Anonymous wrote:Half the kids at our top private get extended time for testing due to ADHD inattentive type.

There are all sorts of other useful accommodations for ADHD that may be appropriate for elementary aged children. For example, seating near the teacher and away from distractions, wiggle chairs and resistance bands on seats, noise canceling headphones, designated quiet areas for independent work, daily check-ins with teachers to boost executive function skill building, scheduled movement breaks . . . My child has a diagnosis and has rejected extended time for testing for fear of looking too different from the other children. But plenty of other accommodations have been super helpful! Partnering with the school can give your child access to those accommodations and more.

Half the kids at our top private get extended time for testing due to ADHD inattentive type.

Anonymous wrote:What counts as inattentive behavior at this age? I have an 8 year old boy who doesn’t always read all directions and his desk is a disaster, his behavior can be silly once in a while and the teacher said, “Yes, he is an 8 year old boy!”

Teachers see enough of these kids that they will let you know if what they see rises to the level of "inattentive behavior" worthy of neuropsych testing, at least for the boys (girls tend to be under-diagnosed, that's a whole other issue). We followed our 7-year old son's teacher's suggestion, started the diagnosis process ASAP, and had a diagnosis in hand by age 8. If you're concerned and your son's teacher says the behavior is standard for "an 8 year old boy," then I wouldn't worry!

I’m curious to hear why your child went through screening and got diagnosed if she isn’t having issues at school?