Anonymous
Post 02/12/2026 13:02     Subject: From welcoming to hostile — what explains this shift?
OP he is mentally ill. Now I believe women when they say a lot of men are mentally ill for real. I recently joined an adult soccer league and some of the guys/dads there are weird as f**k. I'm like how do women stay with these men???
Anonymous
Post 02/12/2026 12:58     Subject: From welcoming to hostile — what explains this shift?
Who cares, just ignore him and be civil.

Could be a number of things snd you’ll never get to the bottom of it.

If you have an opportunity to ask in a succinct manner, go for? But chances are he’ll deny his change of behavior or misbehavior. Even though you’re correct.
Anonymous
Post 02/12/2026 12:10     Subject: Re:From welcoming to hostile — what explains this shift?
Anonymous wrote:It definitely, definitely has something to do with him having a crush on you.

Years ago there was a renowned professional in my home town that just treated me like garbage. Rolled his eyes at me, ignored me, avoided me etc every time we were in the same place. After I moved to DC I heard from a mutual friend that he’d said, Oh Larla will get snatched up in a second in DC, she’s absolutely stunning. That’s when it all made sense.


I think this poster is right. It's so frustrating when men treat women like garbage just because they're in denial of their own emotions.

Probably explains why he's divorced, OP. He must have been a pretty emotionally clueless husband.

You can either confront him when you two are alone, or ignore it. But I wouldn't leave the group. You have the right to stay and enjoy yourself.
Anonymous
Post 02/12/2026 12:07     Subject: From welcoming to hostile — what explains this shift?
He saw you as a potential romantic partner, then realized that (accurately or not) you weren’t interested and he’s angry. This is also the type to just be angry with women for existing. It’s a proxy for his frustration and insecurity.
Anonymous
Post 02/12/2026 12:03     Subject: Re:From welcoming to hostile — what explains this shift?
Anonymous wrote:Another vote for “he looked at you up, and found something he did not like”- a social media post, your job or even your spouse’s job. Something like that. People have so many weird hang ups and biases these days.


Exactly. He does not have a crush on you. I’d bet it’s based on politics. I dealt with this type of stuff when I moved to a new town with very right wing political base.
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2026 09:44     Subject: Re:From welcoming to hostile — what explains this shift?
Another vote for “he looked at you up, and found something he did not like”- a social media post, your job or even your spouse’s job. Something like that. People have so many weird hang ups and biases these days.
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2026 09:15     Subject: From welcoming to hostile — what explains this shift?
Unsettling.
Happened to me once, different setting.
A$$hole thought I was someone he’d tangled with before.
Never met him before. Eventually this was clarified by accident. Allowed me to stay in the group, but didn’t change him from being the a$$ he was.
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2026 08:27     Subject: From welcoming to hostile — what explains this shift?
I'm gonna do a 180 from him liking you and think it's about the actual sport. Some men think they "own" the sport and are the nice mansplainers to teach you the sport. Is that him?

And then you showed that you either know more than him, play better than him, or have a pro or outside lessons?

If he went in thinking he'd be your white knight but you're actually scrappy and bonding with other mentors, that could be it.
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2026 08:27     Subject: From welcoming to hostile — what explains this shift?
MAGA
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2026 08:24     Subject: From welcoming to hostile — what explains this shift?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You park in his spot


This. I freaking hate it when people park in my spot. HATE it. Jesus Christ, find your own spot.


Oh, I thought this was a euphemism for something sexual.
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2026 07:15     Subject: From welcoming to hostile — what explains this shift?
Anonymous wrote:You park in his spot


This. I freaking hate it when people park in my spot. HATE it. Jesus Christ, find your own spot.
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2026 06:32     Subject: From welcoming to hostile — what explains this shift?
You park in his spot
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2026 02:54     Subject: From welcoming to hostile — what explains this shift?
Is he attractive?
Anonymous
Post 02/10/2026 21:21     Subject: From welcoming to hostile — what explains this shift?
He has a crush on you but has some unresolved issues that make him act weird and self-sabotage. You’re curious about him, which makes me think you are attracted to him as well. If you’re single and interested in him, I would try and break the ice with him again. Let us know what happens!