Anonymous
Post 02/14/2026 13:32     Subject: My lazy kid is doing worse and worse on math

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am the OP

I did asked my kid what else he is interested in, he couldn't find one.

Seriously speaking, games does take away quite lot enginery from him. But what can I do, now almost every kid plays more or less.

I am not serious about the math competetion. Just want to find something meaningful for him.


Plenty of my kids friends only have one activity and would spend all their time on video games if given the opportunity, it is not uncommon. I would require him to participate in 2 clubs after school each semester and find one after school activity that he wants to try. Be open to those activities changing while he looks for what he wants to do. Video games are fine but limit the time he can play. DS has a 1 hour limit per day. Some days he doesn't have time, due to other activities. We enforce that limit 85% of the time. We allowed a lot more then that during the recent snow days because the sledding hill was not in great shape, due to the conditions, and how cold it was outside. He participated in his activities that were happening, went to friends houses, and did other things but there was a lot more screen time then normal.

We will allow him pretty much unlimited after he has completed a math competition or on days like the TJ test days. Normally it is after something that we have seen him working hard for and we know that he was a bit stressed about. Most of the time we don't have the results, the extra time is a reward for the effort and work he put in not the outcome. He does an online math class through RSM every week, he gets to choose the take out we order for dinner that night. We'll pick up his favorite fast food after taking the AMCs. The idea is that we want to recognize his work and his participation, not his outcome.

He scores in the 99th percentile for his grade level on math tests and has been scoring in the 95th percentile for the AMCs that are ahead of grade level. We are excited for him and tell him that but we place the emphasis on the effort he makes to prepare. Math club at school, RSM math classes, and practice tests at home. That is what we reward. It is great that he is seeing excellent results but we point to the hard work he has put in producing results.


This is very useful info.


He does things other then math. He is active in Scouts and does some sort of rec sport/physical activity all year. Something that moves his body for 60-90 minutes a few times a week. He participates in a few clubs after school, one is Mathcounts and the other a fun one. He has free time at home, enough that he has time for video games 2-3 days a week.


That does not sound like a lazy kid. Shame on you.


That is not the OPs kid
Anonymous
Post 02/14/2026 13:14     Subject: Re:My lazy kid is doing worse and worse on math

Stop calling him lazy. Call him what you want him to be and watch him become that.
Anonymous
Post 02/14/2026 13:05     Subject: My lazy kid is doing worse and worse on math

He needs to be pulled from AAP, imo students need to earn the privilege. No drama around it. It should just be a natural consequence.
Anonymous
Post 02/14/2026 13:03     Subject: My lazy kid is doing worse and worse on math

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am the OP

I did asked my kid what else he is interested in, he couldn't find one.

Seriously speaking, games does take away quite lot enginery from him. But what can I do, now almost every kid plays more or less.

I am not serious about the math competetion. Just want to find something meaningful for him.


Plenty of my kids friends only have one activity and would spend all their time on video games if given the opportunity, it is not uncommon. I would require him to participate in 2 clubs after school each semester and find one after school activity that he wants to try. Be open to those activities changing while he looks for what he wants to do. Video games are fine but limit the time he can play. DS has a 1 hour limit per day. Some days he doesn't have time, due to other activities. We enforce that limit 85% of the time. We allowed a lot more then that during the recent snow days because the sledding hill was not in great shape, due to the conditions, and how cold it was outside. He participated in his activities that were happening, went to friends houses, and did other things but there was a lot more screen time then normal.

We will allow him pretty much unlimited after he has completed a math competition or on days like the TJ test days. Normally it is after something that we have seen him working hard for and we know that he was a bit stressed about. Most of the time we don't have the results, the extra time is a reward for the effort and work he put in not the outcome. He does an online math class through RSM every week, he gets to choose the take out we order for dinner that night. We'll pick up his favorite fast food after taking the AMCs. The idea is that we want to recognize his work and his participation, not his outcome.

He scores in the 99th percentile for his grade level on math tests and has been scoring in the 95th percentile for the AMCs that are ahead of grade level. We are excited for him and tell him that but we place the emphasis on the effort he makes to prepare. Math club at school, RSM math classes, and practice tests at home. That is what we reward. It is great that he is seeing excellent results but we point to the hard work he has put in producing results.


This is very useful info.


He does things other then math. He is active in Scouts and does some sort of rec sport/physical activity all year. Something that moves his body for 60-90 minutes a few times a week. He participates in a few clubs after school, one is Mathcounts and the other a fun one. He has free time at home, enough that he has time for video games 2-3 days a week.


That does not sound like a lazy kid. Shame on you.
Anonymous
Post 02/14/2026 13:01     Subject: My lazy kid is doing worse and worse on math

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:His most energy is consumed by games.


Remove all games and replace with math games.


Yes, because until you crush his spirit entirely, his hatred of math cannot magically become a genius level passion.