Anonymous
Post 02/08/2026 07:56     Subject: Did your average academic kid go to college?
Would St Joe’s be good for OP’s student?
Anonymous
Post 02/08/2026 07:44     Subject: Did your average academic kid go to college?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here. My kid is like a tag along, slow at grasping things, has 2 friends who ditch DC when they find someone else to hang out with. DC is not very outspoken or bright and charming which is what has me worried more than the being average at studies.


Maybe you should start trying to hone in on their strengths and interests, rather than seeing them in such a negative light. Even if they’ve drifted a bit as a teen, you must have some idea what their intrinsic characteristics are.

Are they artistic, crafty, good with their hands? Are they compassionate, soft-hearted, or nurturing? What do they gravitate toward? Do they like animals? Nature? Technology? Are they quietly observant? There must be something they can eventually build on, with your encouragement.

Most people aren’t going to set the world on fire, but they usually find some way to get by. Unless they’re heavily resistant or extremely apathetic, college of any type is usually a pretty good way for them to start finding their footing.



+1. Play to DCs strengths, whatever they are, and encourage those.
Anonymous
Post 02/08/2026 00:24     Subject: Did your average academic kid go to college?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here. My kid is like a tag along, slow at grasping things, has 2 friends who ditch DC when they find someone else to hang out with. DC is not very outspoken or bright and charming which is what has me worried more than the being average at studies.


Maybe you should start trying to hone in on their strengths and interests, rather than seeing them in such a negative light. Even if they’ve drifted a bit as a teen, you must have some idea what their intrinsic characteristics are.

Are they artistic, crafty, good with their hands? Are they compassionate, soft-hearted, or nurturing? What do they gravitate toward? Do they like animals? Nature? Technology? Are they quietly observant? There must be something they can eventually build on, with your encouragement.

Most people aren’t going to set the world on fire, but they usually find some way to get by. Unless they’re heavily resistant or extremely apathetic, college of any type is usually a pretty good way for them to start finding their footing.



OP. Yes, DC is very kind, soft hearted, nurturing, is quite good at drawing - DC is nor very observant though and always forgetting something. I have tried encouraging DC with the art but DC does not want to focus on that. Its just that there is no focus. But DC is happy to cruise along.

I hope DC can find their footing in college - I would be interested in knowing what kind of careers a slow learner and quiet not outspoken person can be good at. Something that will help them live off comfortably and not paycheck to paycheck.

I'm worried because both my husband and me are not in the best of health and I want to make sure DC is equipped to take care of themself. DC is very insecure and gives up very easily.





Anonymous
Post 02/08/2026 00:16     Subject: Did your average academic kid go to college?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here. I guess I want to know how kids who are kind of slow fare in life, their careers.

If any of you were not very good at academics, nor very charming and street smart, are you successful in life with a good income?

What kind of job do you do?


Hi OP, I guess I was a bit like that in HS. I came out of my shell in community college and was even an orientation leader. Earned my Masters and I am a teacher .


OP here. I am hoping my DC also gains confidence and can come out of their shell.
Anonymous
Post 02/07/2026 12:45     Subject: Did your average academic kid go to college?
Anonymous wrote:OP here. I guess I want to know how kids who are kind of slow fare in life, their careers.

If any of you were not very good at academics, nor very charming and street smart, are you successful in life with a good income?

What kind of job do you do?


My brother was like this. He has ADHD and just didn’t like school. He maxed out at one year of community college. He is a smart and really great person who matured on the later side and is now a VP at a major bank. And makes more then his double Ivy grad sibling!
Anonymous
Post 02/07/2026 12:17     Subject: Did your average academic kid go to college?
Anonymous wrote:I'm worried about my DC who is just an average student who is cruising along, takes a long time to do anything, and is not street smart either. If your kid was like mine, did they go to college? If yes, what did they major in and how are they doing in life, on the job? Do they earn well?


You might consider a school with a strong emphasis on career-development and placement. Furman University with its Pathways program is a good example. Many kids who don't show a lot of interest in school perk up and gain a sense of purpose inside a system that consistently reinforces a practical outcome for their endeavors.