Anonymous
01/26/2026 10:11
Subject: Would you feel bad if your kid was added late to an invitation?
I did it once. The party place has a limit of 25 but we had probably double than that in mind. Had to add people after some declined. Some never respond. You do your invite and people decide whether they will come.
Anonymous
01/26/2026 09:20
Subject: Would you feel bad if your kid was added late to an invitation?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yes, I would decline. I would not be annoyed about my child not making the “A” list, like “boo hoo,” but I would be annoyed that you, like most people, are not aware of general standards of manners that dictate that you do not do this. Or maybe you are, but you are letting your emotion for YOUR child (“Not many people are coming so Larla will be sad at her party!”) override your common sense.
We actually have a full party. All girls invited are coming except one who has a sporting event conflict.
My daughter and my friend’s daughter will probably never be good friends. They have friends in common. I believe the girl may be on the spectrum or have some sort of other special needs. I say this to explain why her personality is difficult. Most of my daughter’s friends are very calm. Friend’s daughter tends to make situations dramatic leaving people upset.
Maybe she is difficult because you and your daughter makes it obvious she isn't really welcome.
Anonymous
01/26/2026 09:19
Subject: Would you feel bad if your kid was added late to an invitation?
I wouldn't feel bad because I don't care enough. I also wouldn't bother to send my kid.
Anonymous
01/26/2026 09:15
Subject: Would you feel bad if your kid was added late to an invitation?
Anonymous wrote:Yes, I would decline. I would not be annoyed about my child not making the “A” list, like “boo hoo,” but I would be annoyed that you, like most people, are not aware of general standards of manners that dictate that you do not do this. Or maybe you are, but you are letting your emotion for YOUR child (“Not many people are coming so Larla will be sad at her party!”) override your common sense.
We actually have a full party. All girls invited are coming except one who has a sporting event conflict.
My daughter and my friend’s daughter will probably never be good friends. They have friends in common. I believe the girl may be on the spectrum or have some sort of other special needs. I say this to explain why her personality is difficult. Most of my daughter’s friends are very calm. Friend’s daughter tends to make situations dramatic leaving people upset.
Anonymous
01/26/2026 09:04
Subject: Would you feel bad if your kid was added late to an invitation?
It’s fine. People have all kinds of reasons for that. They took forever to get the last of the addresses. Mostly they forgot to add two kids who should have been on the list. No big deal.
Anonymous
01/26/2026 08:50
Subject: Would you feel bad if your kid was added late to an invitation?
Yes, I would decline. I would not be annoyed about my child not making the “A” list, like “boo hoo,” but I would be annoyed that you, like most people, are not aware of general standards of manners that dictate that you do not do this. Or maybe you are, but you are letting your emotion for YOUR child (“Not many people are coming so Larla will be sad at her party!”) override your common sense.
Anonymous
01/26/2026 08:49
Subject: Would you feel bad if your kid was added late to an invitation?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Not OP but I had to reschedule my kid's birthday party due to the storm. I didn't invite kids I knew wouldn't be available (I'd mentioned it/chatted with their parents beforehand). Would it be okay to invite them to the new date.
It's fine, but you probably should have invited them in the first place even if you knew they couldn't come.
I guess I'd casually invited them because I texted their parents first, I just didn't send them the Evite.
Anonymous
01/26/2026 08:47
Subject: Would you feel bad if your kid was added late to an invitation?
Anonymous wrote:Not OP but I had to reschedule my kid's birthday party due to the storm. I didn't invite kids I knew wouldn't be available (I'd mentioned it/chatted with their parents beforehand). Would it be okay to invite them to the new date.
It's fine, but you probably should have invited them in the first place even if you knew they couldn't come.
Anonymous
01/26/2026 08:46
Subject: Would you feel bad if your kid was added late to an invitation?
I notice this but am not offended by it, especially when it's at a venue where headcount is limited. I had to do this myself for my kid's party at an escape room place where they could only invite 10 or so kids - if someone couldn't make it, we'd add someone to the invite list.
Anonymous
01/26/2026 08:39
Subject: Would you feel bad if your kid was added late to an invitation?
I wouldn’t be offended at all. There’s not space for everyone so choices have to be made. I have boys so maybe it’s different?
Anonymous
01/26/2026 08:37
Subject: Would you feel bad if your kid was added late to an invitation?
Anonymous wrote:Not OP but I had to reschedule my kid's birthday party due to the storm. I didn't invite kids I knew wouldn't be available (I'd mentioned it/chatted with their parents beforehand). Would it be okay to invite them to the new date.
I would. Say dates changed hoping you can make the new date.
Anonymous
01/26/2026 08:37
Subject: Would you feel bad if your kid was added late to an invitation?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:No if it wasn’t a good friend, but I would take note of it. I would let my kid go if they wanted to. Of course it’s a b list op.
I don’t have to invite the new girl (not in same class) or last class girl. Both those girls are not in my child’s friend group.
My friend’s daughter has many friends who will be at the party and she will definitely hear about it. That friend has invited my daughter to her party that is after my daughter’s birthday.
You waited too late. Your friends knows about the party from her daughter's other friends. She's knows she B list.
And she already invited your daughter to her kid's party that is later.
You look bad here, op. You handled this poorly.
So it is better just to not invite my friend’s daughter?
My friend’s daughter is difficult. The mom acknowledges and knows her daughter is difficult.
My daughter still doesn’t really want to invite her. She just isn’t objecting anymore.
You knew she was "difficult" when your pressured your daughter to invite her, right. Poorly handled by you, op. Don't blame your daughter or your friend or your friend's daughter.
Anonymous
01/26/2026 08:35
Subject: Would you feel bad if your kid was added late to an invitation?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:No if it wasn’t a good friend, but I would take note of it. I would let my kid go if they wanted to. Of course it’s a b list op.
I don’t have to invite the new girl (not in same class) or last class girl. Both those girls are not in my child’s friend group.
My friend’s daughter has many friends who will be at the party and she will definitely hear about it. That friend has invited my daughter to her party that is after my daughter’s birthday.
You waited too late. Your friends knows about the party from her daughter's other friends. She's knows she B list.
And she already invited your daughter to her kid's party that is later.
You look bad here, op. You handled this poorly.
So it is better just to not invite my friend’s daughter?
My friend’s daughter is difficult. The mom acknowledges and knows her daughter is difficult.
My daughter still doesn’t really want to invite her. She just isn’t objecting anymore.
So your wore your daughter down
Anonymous
01/26/2026 08:33
Subject: Would you feel bad if your kid was added late to an invitation?
Anonymous wrote:Just send an email as if the elite didn’t exist. Problem solved!
*evite
Anonymous
01/26/2026 08:32
Subject: Would you feel bad if your kid was added late to an invitation?
Just send an email as if the elite didn’t exist. Problem solved!