Anonymous wrote:I never paid for any meals in my year of post-dovotce dating. I saved so much money!

This. I am 45 and divorced. I have a massive child support and alimony bill. Thankfully I have a friend who is as horny as me and we just meet to f***k.

If I were interested in dating, probably 99% of the women I would have come across have been spoiled in the past by men who were willing to feed them and buy them anything they want. Ain't trying to compete with these men.

PP keep getting fed for free lol. S***t, I wish I could find a woman willing to feed me to so I can save money like you.

Anonymous wrote:I am 44F and financially broke with significant payments towards my bills every month. How important is my financial security for dating and being in an LTR with someone who is financial secure? For the context, I am overweight with BMI of 33-34 but look good when I dress up and put make up on. I know I can date and it is easier to do but sometimes dating also needs money if you have to buy dinners now and then.

As a woman you will be fine because men are incredibly stupid and will jeopardize their own financial health for p***y.

Now if you were a man, I would have said you are f@$&d. Women DO NOT LIKE BROKE MEN.

Broke women don't have to worry as much as broke men do.

fix the financial problem. You would need to resolve that whether you are in a relationship or not.

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Anonymous wrote:You also may save money if you eat less junk.

There are a lot of assumptions inherent in your judgmental response.

You should focus on the unattractive aspects of your personality.

Yeah, Op could have medical issues that she can't lose weight and she probably doesn't eat junk food.

Anonymous wrote:You also may save money if you eat less junk.

There are a lot of assumptions inherent in your judgmental response.

You should focus on the unattractive aspects of your personality.

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Anonymous wrote:I am 44F and financially broke with significant payments towards my bills every month. How important is my financial security for dating and being in an LTR with someone who is financial secure? For the context, I am overweight with BMI of 33-34 but look good when I dress up and put make up on. I know I can date and it is easier to do but sometimes dating also needs money if you have to buy dinners now and then.

First focus on improving your income.

That would take OP years so does it make sense to wait that long?

That’s no solely her choice - men choose., too. She can of course go online and see who’s interested. I think she can meet other broke and overweight men within her lane

the way OP is going about it, seems like she wants it all. This should not be a question when she has all these issues. Major red flag is why financialy broke at age 44.

Op could hide it for a while and see if a decent men could get sucked in otherwise she would be left with men that her of her level, either broke and fat or some other serious issues such as gambler, drug user, abusive, etc. At this age and with everything going on with OP, it is difficult to get someone decent.

I think a lot depends on why you are broke and if you have kids.

It's one thing to be broke due to an illness or something outside of your control. But if you're broke due to poor choices and a lack of planning that could be a red flag.

Also, what's your strategy to dig yourself out of your financial hole?

If you have kids that could complicate things. Who wants to take Mom out for fancy dinners knowing the kids will be left with Hamburger Helper because Mom is broke? So your SO might feel some pressure to help with the kids' expenses too. This too will give some men pause.

You can date but look for someone who is your equal. Not necessary obese and broke but who also has some aspects to who he is that many women would consider to be less desirable.

You can't look for a guy who has it all together when you don't have it all together. Find someone who is similarly struggling in their own way.

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Anonymous wrote:I am 44F and financially broke with significant payments towards my bills every month. How important is my financial security for dating and being in an LTR with someone who is financial secure? For the context, I am overweight with BMI of 33-34 but look good when I dress up and put make up on. I know I can date and it is easier to do but sometimes dating also needs money if you have to buy dinners now and then.

First focus on improving your income.

That would take OP years so does it make sense to wait that long?

That’s no solely her choice - men choose., too. She can of course go online and see who’s interested. I think she can meet other broke and overweight men within her lane

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Anonymous wrote:I am 44F and financially broke with significant payments towards my bills every month. How important is my financial security for dating and being in an LTR with someone who is financial secure? For the context, I am overweight with BMI of 33-34 but look good when I dress up and put make up on. I know I can date and it is easier to do but sometimes dating also needs money if you have to buy dinners now and then.

First focus on improving your income.

That would take OP years so does it make sense to wait that long?

Anonymous wrote:I am 44F and financially broke with significant payments towards my bills every month. How important is my financial security for dating and being in an LTR with someone who is financial secure? For the context, I am overweight with BMI of 33-34 but look good when I dress up and put make up on. I know I can date and it is easier to do but sometimes dating also needs money if you have to buy dinners now and then.

First focus on improving your income.

No way. This is going to be a lose lose situation for any guy.

Very hard for OP to date unless she is ok with trashy guys who would just use her and not even worth bringing home. No decent guy would be close to a woman with that weight and financially broke. Sorry OP, but you need to fix atleast one of them.

Anonymous wrote:Being overweight and bad with finances are symptoms, but what is the 'disease'?
It's not the symptoms that make it harder for you to date. It's what causes them, and there are more you don't mention.

I thought about it for OP too. I think it could be self-esteem and self-worth and maybe some form of entitlement her previous relationships gave her.