Anonymous wrote:But the point remains, just ask the person what they want. If I ask a friend what she wants, and she says, “You know, I’ve really been craving Chick-fil-A,” then I’m going to drive to the nearest Chick-fil-A and get her something, no judgement. If she says, “Thanks, but I have so many casseroles already and I don’t want anymore food,” then I’m not going to show up with food. Just ask.

+1

I cannot understand the resistance toward this.

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Anonymous wrote:Do take out. District Taco or Chick-Fil-A other choice.

No, just no.

I think what the PP meant to say is: No on Sundays but Yes on every other day.

I’m the PP. I meant never. Homophobia aside, the food is vile. A recently postpartum woman should not be eating that.

A postpartum woman can eat what she wants, provided it’s been cleared by her doctor. While ideally that would be healthy food, if she wants junk food occasionally, she’s earned it. She just made a human after all.

But the point remains, just ask the person what they want. If I ask a friend what she wants, and she says, “You know, I’ve really been craving Chick-fil-A,” then I’m going to drive to the nearest Chick-fil-A and get her something, no judgement. If she says, “Thanks, but I have so many casseroles already and I don’t want anymore food,” then I’m not going to show up with food. Just ask.

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Anonymous wrote:Do take out. District Taco or Chick-Fil-A other choice.

No, just no.

I think what the PP meant to say is: No on Sundays but Yes on every other day.

I’m the PP. I meant never. Homophobia aside, the food is vile. A recently postpartum woman should not be eating that.

Anonymous wrote:Some fun snacks and a Doordash/Uber Eats gift card.

Yep, I like this idea.

Also, muffins. I remember sometimes having a muffin for breakfast while nursing the baby.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh and a bag of chicken nuggets for the kids. Universal.

what i find funny about suggestions of "must have" baby products is that there is no such thing as universal- so many things i see i've never used (or received and still never used)--

my kid was referring to her nugget couch the other day and my mil had no clue what she was talking about (fair) and asked if it was a chicken nugget and my kid had no idea what a chicken nugget was...

+1 Do not assume universal. Get specifics and context.

Anonymous wrote:Oh and a bag of chicken nuggets for the kids. Universal.

what i find funny about suggestions of "must have" baby products is that there is no such thing as universal- so many things i see i've never used (or received and still never used)--

my kid was referring to her nugget couch the other day and my mil had no clue what she was talking about (fair) and asked if it was a chicken nugget and my kid had no idea what a chicken nugget was...

Oh and a bag of chicken nuggets for the kids. Universal.

Play with or read to the older kids. Better yet, take them to the park or a museum or other outing. But even just lavishing them with attention while you’re at their house to give the parents a break. That is the best thing for visiting bigger families. But yes to fun snacks, ice cream, dessert, and healthy bag salad and fruit. When you come over, bring or cook the meal you’ll have with them. Insist upon it because they’ll say no worries. I say this as a postpartum mom with a lot of kids!

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Anonymous wrote:Do take out. District Taco or Chick-Fil-A other choice.

No, just no.

I think what the PP meant to say is: No on Sundays but Yes on every other day.

Nothing. they told you they have too much. Bring new toys for the older siblings.

Anonymous wrote:Do take out. District Taco or Chick-Fil-A other choice.

No, just no.

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Anonymous wrote:Last week we had a thread where a mom complained no one brought her food, and others agreed.

This week we have a friend offering to bring food and moms telling her it’s annoying and unwanted.

You are all pieces of work.

Did last week mom communicate that they needed food? And what specifically was needed? Did the social circle communicate with mom about what she needed?

Do you want your needs defined by you, or the crowd-sourced internet?

Don’t answer that. I’ll crowd source your answer because your answer does not matter.

I can’t believe this needs to be explained .

Yes, just talk to people. I did bring food to my friend when she was post partum but it was very much "Would chicken curry work for you on Sunday" and "Does chicken parm sound good for Friday?" Just ask people if they'd like something and when.

Sounds like they don't need food currently so give door dash for when they do

Whole fruits ..oranges. Apples bananas.
If they have freezer space, fruit popsicles. Whole Foods has good ones.
Fancy bottled water and canned seltzers.

Do take out. District Taco or Chick-Fil-A other choice.