I agree 100% that parents should not knowingly take their kids to school sick. However, it is important to remember that kids may get dick with very little notice.

Once when I was young, I got to school and immediately threw up, not having given any prior evidence that I was sick. My mother, who was also the school librarian, immediately took me home and the principal was left to clean up the mess.

Worse, when my oldest child was in second grade she threw up after lunch and the first I heard about it was when I arrived to lead an afterschool class for my youngest and the other kids told me about it. I tracked down my daughter in her program and she confirmed that she had thrown up and said that smelling the vomit in her hair was making her feel sick. I found someone to cover for me and took her home. Apparently, they had her if she was feeling better and since my literal child felt that feeling sick after throwing up is better than actually throwing up, they sent her back to class, vomity hair and all. They justified their lack of notification by saying that sometimes kids faked getting sick to avoid school, even though my child had never once done anything like that in the three years she’d attended that school at that time. I instructed her that anytime she was sick she needed to call me and notified the school in no uncertain terms that she had been so instructed and they were not to prevent her or otherwise conceal from me information regarding either of my children’s health.

It is humiliating to make a child go to school if the child is legitimately sick. It’s like telling the child that you don’t love them.

It’s one thing if parent really will get fired if they don’t go to work one day. However, if parents have stable jobs, there really is not a good excuse.

Sounds like school is trying to handle it by sending kid home two out of three times mentioned by OP.

Anonymous wrote:I am very frustrated by a set of parents who always send their child to school sick. They think they are being considerate by putting a mask on their child but it doesn’t prevent spread.

1) One time the child had stomach cramps, vomiting, and diarrhea. Parents sent child to school and child told peers at school “I told my parents that I will try but I don’t think I can make it at school the whole day”. Indeed, child was sent home because he was so sick. Then, the same day child was sent home, parents sent their sick child to my place to play! The child gave his illness to my child and my child was VERY sick and missed three days of school. When I complained to parents, they made their son write an apology letter to my child! Many other children at the school got sick too.

2) They sent their child wearing a mask to school in September too. Coincidentally (not), my son got sick soon after.

3) Yesterday, they sent child to school wearing a mask and he vomited and had to be picked up. I’m just waiting for my child to get the stomach bug. The fact that parents sent child to school wearing a mask means that the parents knew their child was sick.

I’ve tried talking to the parents but they don’t want to miss their “important” jobs to stay home and care for their child.

These parents clearly value their jobs over your child or their own child.

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Anonymous wrote:I have tried to talk to them about it but they refuse to acknowledge that they are doing anything wrong.

You need mental help. Why on earth would you confront them? The correct solution is to avoid them.

If parents send their kid over to play when kid was sent home from school with stomach cramps, vomiting, and diarrhea, they should be confronted!

You a sick puppy OP

Anonymous wrote:I agree. A sick child attended the last day of school before winter break and was sneezing and coughing throughout the class. He clearly should not have been in school. As a result, our child got sick, then we got sick, which caused a lot of stress and disrupted our ski trip. Part of me wants to send that parent a bill to reimburse us for the trip. We do not send our children to school when they are sick.

Teachers should be able to send children home if they are visibly ill or if other students are affected.

Does anyone know whether it is acceptable for a child to tell a teacher that another student is sick and should be sent home? At this point, I am seriously considering teaching my children to speak up about it.

It is ridiculous and incredibly selfish when parents refuse to keep sick children home simply because they do not want to be inconvenienced. If schools actually called this behavior out and parents had to face real consequences, such as reimbursing families they caused to get sick, maybe they would be held accountable and act more responsibly.

This has to be a troll, right? Right?????

If not, I wish you well in getting the parents of a child who had a head cold to reimburse you for your ski trip. Please post all communications on the matter to this thread because I would like to follow along.

No school or daycare is cool with a kid who is throwing up at school. All kids in that condition will be sent home, which the vast majority of parents know and thus do not send vomiting kids to school. This isn't a widespread issue.

I had assumed OP was one of those parents who freak out when a child is at school with a mild cold. I have encountered a few parents like that at our school and I find them exhausting. The presumption that you can keep kids out of school for every case of the sniffles is silly -- in early elementary when kids tend to catch ever virus, this would result in some kids being home more than at school. Also some kids hold onto coughs for a long time -- they need to go a doctor to check for a bronchial infection or other issue, but they don't need to be kept home. Covid made a lot of people so freaked out mild cold symptoms, there's a lot of over-vigilance and just lack of critical thinking on these issues these days. My kid gets seasonal allergies (for which she is medicated) and I've had a parent tell me "she should really be at home" when my kid sneezed once or twice during peak hay fever season. It's ridiculous.

Because I have to work, that’s why.

I agree. A sick child attended the last day of school before winter break and was sneezing and coughing throughout the class. He clearly should not have been in school. As a result, our child got sick, then we got sick, which caused a lot of stress and disrupted our ski trip. Part of me wants to send that parent a bill to reimburse us for the trip. We do not send our children to school when they are sick.

Teachers should be able to send children home if they are visibly ill or if other students are affected.

Does anyone know whether it is acceptable for a child to tell a teacher that another student is sick and should be sent home? At this point, I am seriously considering teaching my children to speak up about it.

It is ridiculous and incredibly selfish when parents refuse to keep sick children home simply because they do not want to be inconvenienced. If schools actually called this behavior out and parents had to face real consequences, such as reimbursing families they caused to get sick, maybe they would be held accountable and act more responsibly.

Anonymous wrote:Tell the parents not to come for play date if their child is sick. For school, tell your child to stay away from sick friends if possible, there’s not much you can do. DC got very sick riding school bus sitting next to a coughing child whom wasn’t masked, had to miss nearly a week of activities and school, and finally came back to school with mask on. Some kids don’t even cough or sneeze to their shoulder or sleeves.

I tell my kids to stay away from sick kids- they know we can feel sorry they are sick, but we don't have to play with or sit with anyone who has a bad cough or uncontrollable runny nose. I tell them to get up and move and others are free to do that when they are sick.

I have no idea if this is effective and it obviously can't work for assigned seats in class. But we do what we can.

Can we make schools mask between Thanksgiving and Christmas? I think so many kids caught things over Thanksgiving, then it circulated and the ENTIRE school was sick over Christmas break. I don't think there was a family that wasn't hit. We still haven't celebrated with extended family since we were too sick.

Tell the parents not to come for play date if their child is sick. For school, tell your child to stay away from sick friends if possible, there’s not much you can do. DC got very sick riding school bus sitting next to a coughing child whom wasn’t masked, had to miss nearly a week of activities and school, and finally came back to school with mask on. Some kids don’t even cough or sneeze to their shoulder or sleeves.

Anonymous wrote:So sad. The kids feel crappy. They should be home resting but they can’t so it takes longer to get better.

I know! Then the parents wonder why their kids are snooty or disengaged for years on years.
Put your kids first.

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Anonymous wrote:I have tried to talk to them about it but they refuse to acknowledge that they are doing anything wrong.

You need mental help. Why on earth would you confront them? The correct solution is to avoid them.

Further evidence that OP is a nutjob and probably a liar.