Anonymous
Post 01/16/2026 15:38     Subject: how to date if working non-stop
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Anonymous wrote:You aren't going to find any quality man with this sort of schedule. If you want a FWB I'm sure men will be banging down the door for you. But for an actual relationship? Wait until you've settled down a bit. Real men who want to be with you will... want to be with you.


You don't think OP is getting older and would have a difficult time finding someone after the nursing school? I don't know if she wants FWB but looking at how she responds, sex is usually the last time since she is looking for companionship and emotional closeness. Whatever it is, you need time to spend on the relationship.

No, why would she? She will have a great career and will settle into a schedule once school is complete. I don't see the issue. Right now she has no time to weed through men. She soon will. I don't understand your post.


People are single and have tons of time have difficulty finding someone reasonable for LTR and you are saying that OP would with her limited time? It takes about 3 years to go through a nursing school and by that time, she would be 47 or so.

Ok, so? She's 47 and won't be in school anymore. She's paying to attend school. She should be focusing on that. She will have plenty of time to date once she completes school. Playing around with f*** boys who won't commit because she can't commit is just a waste of time that she could be using to further her schooling and career.



But looks like OP has sexual needs and she wants to take care of that and also handle other business in her life. With all this going on, do you think OP would be able to find someone even after 47?

Have you read the thread? PPs say that unless she wants a fwb (ie someone to take care of those sexual needs), she needs to focus on school. If she just wants sex, that's easy. It sounds like she wants an actual relationship, but of course only OP knows what she wants.
Yes, I think OP will be able to find someone after 47 if that's what she wants. Stop telling women to settle. It's gross.
Anonymous
Post 01/16/2026 14:34     Subject: how to date if working non-stop
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You aren't going to find any quality man with this sort of schedule. If you want a FWB I'm sure men will be banging down the door for you. But for an actual relationship? Wait until you've settled down a bit. Real men who want to be with you will... want to be with you.


You don't think OP is getting older and would have a difficult time finding someone after the nursing school? I don't know if she wants FWB but looking at how she responds, sex is usually the last time since she is looking for companionship and emotional closeness. Whatever it is, you need time to spend on the relationship.

No, why would she? She will have a great career and will settle into a schedule once school is complete. I don't see the issue. Right now she has no time to weed through men. She soon will. I don't understand your post.


People are single and have tons of time have difficulty finding someone reasonable for LTR and you are saying that OP would with her limited time? It takes about 3 years to go through a nursing school and by that time, she would be 47 or so.

Ok, so? She's 47 and won't be in school anymore. She's paying to attend school. She should be focusing on that. She will have plenty of time to date once she completes school. Playing around with f*** boys who won't commit because she can't commit is just a waste of time that she could be using to further her schooling and career.



But looks like OP has sexual needs and she wants to take care of that and also handle other business in her life. With all this going on, do you think OP would be able to find someone even after 47?
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2026 17:54     Subject: Re:how to date if working non-stop
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:There are low-tech strategies for squeezing more hours from the day:
- alter your sleep schedule to abide by the next time zone to your east
- do not shop (for anything) on a Tuesday, at least not before 4 pm
- if you commute by car, always travel in middle lane
- same with sofas/couches, middle seat is your friend
- watch TV on mute
- lunch hour = hour of power



what does this has to do with OP's question?


These are strategies that can help OP find more time for dating and make more use of the time OP already has. Like the saying goes, the first three letters of funeral spell fun. It's not who you know, but knowing you who.

I don't think driving in the middle lane or sitting on the middle cushion has anything to do with OPs time crunch and dating. Wtf.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2026 17:52     Subject: how to date if working non-stop
Anonymous wrote:I'm the PP. I was working full time and doing a pretty rigorous MBA program at night. On weekends I mostly saw my friends or studied. I dated one guy and he got resentful about my schedule. I was early 30's at the time. Honestly, op's age doesn't matter. It's just really hard to build something worthwhile with all these demands on her time, and if she drops a ball, it's hard to catch up. Might be easiest to take the dating pressure off.

Agreed.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2026 17:51     Subject: how to date if working non-stop
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You aren't going to find any quality man with this sort of schedule. If you want a FWB I'm sure men will be banging down the door for you. But for an actual relationship? Wait until you've settled down a bit. Real men who want to be with you will... want to be with you.


You don't think OP is getting older and would have a difficult time finding someone after the nursing school? I don't know if she wants FWB but looking at how she responds, sex is usually the last time since she is looking for companionship and emotional closeness. Whatever it is, you need time to spend on the relationship.

No, why would she? She will have a great career and will settle into a schedule once school is complete. I don't see the issue. Right now she has no time to weed through men. She soon will. I don't understand your post.


People are single and have tons of time have difficulty finding someone reasonable for LTR and you are saying that OP would with her limited time? It takes about 3 years to go through a nursing school and by that time, she would be 47 or so.

Ok, so? She's 47 and won't be in school anymore. She's paying to attend school. She should be focusing on that. She will have plenty of time to date once she completes school. Playing around with f*** boys who won't commit because she can't commit is just a waste of time that she could be using to further her schooling and career.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2026 17:29     Subject: how to date if working non-stop
Op can't win it all. Pick dating or work/life.
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2026 23:56     Subject: how to date if working non-stop
This doesn’t make sense. Everyone’s schedule changes quite frequently
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2026 21:51     Subject: Re:how to date if working non-stop
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:There are low-tech strategies for squeezing more hours from the day:
- alter your sleep schedule to abide by the next time zone to your east
- do not shop (for anything) on a Tuesday, at least not before 4 pm
- if you commute by car, always travel in middle lane
- same with sofas/couches, middle seat is your friend
- watch TV on mute
- lunch hour = hour of power



what does this has to do with OP's question?


These are strategies that can help OP find more time for dating and make more use of the time OP already has. Like the saying goes, the first three letters of funeral spell fun. It's not who you know, but knowing you who.
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2026 21:36     Subject: Re:how to date if working non-stop
Anonymous wrote:There are low-tech strategies for squeezing more hours from the day:
- alter your sleep schedule to abide by the next time zone to your east
- do not shop (for anything) on a Tuesday, at least not before 4 pm
- if you commute by car, always travel in middle lane
- same with sofas/couches, middle seat is your friend
- watch TV on mute
- lunch hour = hour of power



what does this has to do with OP's question?
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2026 19:44     Subject: Re:how to date if working non-stop
There are low-tech strategies for squeezing more hours from the day:
- alter your sleep schedule to abide by the next time zone to your east
- do not shop (for anything) on a Tuesday, at least not before 4 pm
- if you commute by car, always travel in middle lane
- same with sofas/couches, middle seat is your friend
- watch TV on mute
- lunch hour = hour of power

Anonymous
Post 01/14/2026 18:48     Subject: Re:how to date if working non-stop
Anonymous wrote:You can't do everything right now.

If your priority is working 50 hrs a week to pay down debt and going to school, you're not going to have time to date. That's fine! But that's the reality.


I agree with this but sounds like OP is desperate and can't live without a partner and that is going to bother her when she is working and going to school.

if work, paying off debt and school is her priority then she shouldn't be asking this question.
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2026 14:30     Subject: Re:how to date if working non-stop
You can't do everything right now.

If your priority is working 50 hrs a week to pay down debt and going to school, you're not going to have time to date. That's fine! But that's the reality.
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2026 13:42     Subject: how to date if working non-stop
Anonymous wrote:What do you feel you have to offer right now? What are you bringing to the table?

Sounds like you would be exhausted, tired, grumpy, have little time or energy or money.


That's what I thought about it too. Not sure why OP needs a relationship or dating right now. She wouldn't like if gets rejected or dumped due to her time constraint.

I also don't know what she brings to the table except may be occasional sex.

Op, are you attractive?
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2026 11:54     Subject: how to date if working non-stop
What do you feel you have to offer right now? What are you bringing to the table?

Sounds like you would be exhausted, tired, grumpy, have little time or energy or money.
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2026 11:05     Subject: how to date if working non-stop
Op needs to pick one - school or dating. Unless, she is looking for FWBs, dating is not going to work and would bring disappointment.