Anonymous
Post 01/09/2026 14:58     Subject: Managing teen boundaries with mentally ill grandparent?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Missing kids is Granny's cross to bear.
Block her.
She's nuts.
DH is scarred and an enabler.
Protect the kids. Or he will turn into nutty Dad and Gramps.

Teens should be able to forge their own relationships with their grandparents, especially when they had relationships growing up

And the teens don't want to. Oh well.
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2026 14:53     Subject: Managing teen boundaries with mentally ill grandparent?
Anonymous wrote:Thanks for your replies. To be clear, the kids and I have discussed blocking her for now, and they are very concerned that their dad will be upset with them for blocking her. I have assured them that I have their backs and it wouldn’t be “wrong”, but I’d love any advice you have on reassuring them.

OP

So what you actually have is a DH problem. He needs to put his children first, before his mommy. Tell him to man up and be a father.
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2026 14:51     Subject: Managing teen boundaries with mentally ill grandparent?
Block her and tell her to stop contacting children during the school day.
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2026 14:10     Subject: Managing teen boundaries with mentally ill grandparent?
I think you/DH should tell her "the kids want a relationship with you that doesn't involve texting" and then add what they're comfortable with - a once a month call, a lunch once a month, whatever. Then block her texts.