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Anonymous wrote:I was never a tomboy growing up but I think some people view me that way now. I think as I get older, my face has a less feminine look to it. I have always dressed pretty much the same, in a lot of classics that can run unisex -- oxford shirts, straight leg jeans, crew neck tees and sweaters. I dont' look like a man but I don't go out of my way for my clothes to look feminine. Same with hair and makeup. I have longish hair and wear makeup most days but I guess it's understated.

A friend of mine says I don't look like a tomboy, I just look German. This is a good description of it.

Ha, German is a good one. When I was a kid in a homogenous Midwestern suburb, moms were always asking if I had moved with my parents from Boston. I did have a bob and wore a lot of lambswool sweaters and oxford shirts. In my mind it read “preppy girl”, but in my suburb it didn’t work with the stirrup pants-and-big-bangs crowd and instead translated as “tomboy”.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know if that word is used anymore, but in the 80s and 90s that's what I was called.

I'm in my mid-40s now and still feel like a tomboy.

I've started to get curious about other people who were tomboys growing up. Do you still feel like you are? How has it impacted your relationships?

I still wear men’s underwear briefs. I pack. If you don’t know what “packing” is, google it.

Anonymous wrote:I was a tomboy growing up too. As a middle aged woman, I am still pretty similar, don't mind getting dirty, don't wear nails or make-up, dress for comfort, like to be outdoors and active, don't wear high heels. I am still independent, free spirited, enjoy adventure, etc.

Anonymous wrote:I don't know if that word is used anymore, but in the 80s and 90s that's what I was called.

I'm in my mid-40s now and still feel like a tomboy.

I've started to get curious about other people who were tomboys growing up. Do you still feel like you are? How has it impacted your relationships?

Anonymous wrote:I have always been a tomboy and still am. My husband doesn't care, obviously, he married me. I really don't understand the gender neutral thing, because I never questioned that I was a girl. Of course I was a girl!, just a girl who liked to wear pants, have short, unfussy hair, and who didn't want to be hemmed in by expectations of femininity for girls. I didn't see why I couldn't like both of what others classified as "girl" things and "boy" things and have both girls and boys for friends. I have always found it easy to talk to both women and men. I don't think it has ever harmed me socially.

Anonymous wrote:I was never a tomboy growing up but I think some people view me that way now. I think as I get older, my face has a less feminine look to it. I have always dressed pretty much the same, in a lot of classics that can run unisex -- oxford shirts, straight leg jeans, crew neck tees and sweaters. I dont' look like a man but I don't go out of my way for my clothes to look feminine. Same with hair and makeup. I have longish hair and wear makeup most days but I guess it's understated.

A friend of mine says I don't look like a tomboy, I just look German. This is a good description of it.

Anonymous wrote:I was never a tomboy growing up but I think some people view me that way now. I think as I get older, my face has a less feminine look to it. I have always dressed pretty much the same, in a lot of classics that can run unisex -- oxford shirts, straight leg jeans, crew neck tees and sweaters. I dont' look like a man but I don't go out of my way for my clothes to look feminine. Same with hair and makeup. I have longish hair and wear makeup most days but I guess it's understated.

A friend of mine says I don't look like a tomboy, I just look German. This is a good description of it.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a tomboy. I have 7 brothers, no sisters. I still prefer men's clothes. I do buy men's sweaters/sweats/etc.

When I wear dresses, etc I feel like I'm cosplaying.

I've found ways to "dress androgenous" in a way that is "stylish" ... more so than sweats.

I did wear a dress when I married but the idea of a wedding dress was just too much cosplay.

I have a degree in Math, I'm an CS Engineer. I love sports and outdoorsy stuff.

Mostly through my life my closest friends were male. I've learned how to blend since after leaving college and males as your closest friends is just not an option.

OP here and I relate to a lot of this. I was computer programmer for years before switching to a related field.

It was actually clothes & makeup that made me think about this topic specifically.

After a long time working remotely, I'm interviewing now, and for the level I'm interviewing at, there is this expectation of looking the part. I 100% feel like I'm playing dress up and don't feel like myself at all. It's such an odd feeling and I wonder if I'll get used to it.