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Anonymous wrote:I'm a man, but judging from what I've heard from women, it would be easy to find a man to agree to be their FWB. The hard part would be:
1. Finding such a man that they are attracted to.
2. Finding such a man who will agree to whatever parameters they set (e.g., not sleeping with other people).
3. Finding such a man who provides satisfying sex.

How is demanding exclusivity even compatible with a FWB arrangement?

I just listed that as an example. Some people might prefer a casual relationship that is exclusive. Or the boundary might be not to hit on her friends. Or that he pay for dates, etc.

FWBs don't pay for dates. You don't even go out with them. They quietly come to your house or you go to theirs, do the deed and leave at the same night or early next morning. Expecting FWB to pay for dates is silly.

Yes they always do, or they will be replaced. Sounds like you don't know your power as a woman.

LOL! You must be dating some men with low elf-esteem. Been in a lot of FWB relationships in last 15 years and may be I have paid once for dates. It is shared or she can also go and find someone else.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a man, but judging from what I've heard from women, it would be easy to find a man to agree to be their FWB. The hard part would be:
1. Finding such a man that they are attracted to.
2. Finding such a man who will agree to whatever parameters they set (e.g., not sleeping with other people).
3. Finding such a man who provides satisfying sex.

How is demanding exclusivity even compatible with a FWB arrangement?

I just listed that as an example. Some people might prefer a casual relationship that is exclusive. Or the boundary might be not to hit on her friends. Or that he pay for dates, etc.

FWBs don't pay for dates. You don't even go out with them. They quietly come to your house or you go to theirs, do the deed and leave at the same night or early next morning. Expecting FWB to pay for dates is silly.

Yes they always do, or they will be replaced. Sounds like you don't know your power as a woman.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a man, but judging from what I've heard from women, it would be easy to find a man to agree to be their FWB. The hard part would be:
1. Finding such a man that they are attracted to.
2. Finding such a man who will agree to whatever parameters they set (e.g., not sleeping with other people).
3. Finding such a man who provides satisfying sex.

How is demanding exclusivity even compatible with a FWB arrangement?

I just listed that as an example. Some people might prefer a casual relationship that is exclusive. Or the boundary might be not to hit on her friends. Or that he pay for dates, etc.

FWBs don't pay for dates. You don't even go out with them. They quietly come to your house or you go to theirs, do the deed and leave at the same night or early next morning. Expecting FWB to pay for dates is silly.

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Anonymous wrote:A man to have free sex with you? Of course.

A man who will also follow rules about protection and not seeing other people and respecting your boundaries? Seems unlikely.

I'm a woman who has had multiple FWB and this seems kind of ridiculous.

Protection: I always insist on condoms, if they won't, then we don't have sex. But most men will, I've only known one guy who absolutely refused, so we parted ways.

Not seeing other people: you have no right to insist a FWB not see other people. Even when I have one, I am dating and seeing other people. Am I sleeping with them? Usually not; usually once I start dating someone, I end the FWB relationship. But yea, once in awhile when I have a FWB, I meet a hot guy I want to sleep with and I do. I'd be absolutely furious if a FWB tried to control what I did and tell me what I can/can't do. If he doesn't like it, he can leave.

Respecting boundaries: exactly what boundaries? The boundaries that they have to be committed to you while you're free to do whatever you want? Stupid. If you're going to ban each other from seeing others, that's not FWB, that's a relationship.

No clue why there's been so many weird posts here like "my FWB is cheating!" The very definition of a FWB is that you hookup and nothing else. It's not cheating, it's not disrespecting boundaries.

I thought boundaries were respecting which holes are agreeable and stuff like that

Anonymous wrote:Depends on your expectations and standards. If you are a curvier white woman, it may be easier to find AA men for FWB.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a man, but judging from what I've heard from women, it would be easy to find a man to agree to be their FWB. The hard part would be:
1. Finding such a man that they are attracted to.
2. Finding such a man who will agree to whatever parameters they set (e.g., not sleeping with other people).
3. Finding such a man who provides satisfying sex.

How is demanding exclusivity even compatible with a FWB arrangement?

I just listed that as an example. Some people might prefer a casual relationship that is exclusive. Or the boundary might be not to hit on her friends. Or that he pay for dates, etc.

Anonymous wrote:Incredibly easy. Men are easy. Many women don’t feel comfortable with that arrangement though. Just because women *can* doesn’t mean they *are*. Men seem to believe all women are swapping beds nightly, because it’s what *they* would do if they had access. I don’t personally know any of my single friends who have a fwb.

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Anonymous wrote:A man to have free sex with you? Of course.

A man who will also follow rules about protection and not seeing other people and respecting your boundaries? Seems unlikely.

I'm a woman who has had multiple FWB and this seems kind of ridiculous.

Protection: I always insist on condoms, if they won't, then we don't have sex. But most men will, I've only known one guy who absolutely refused, so we parted ways.

Not seeing other people: you have no right to insist a FWB not see other people. Even when I have one, I am dating and seeing other people. Am I sleeping with them? Usually not; usually once I start dating someone, I end the FWB relationship. But yea, once in awhile when I have a FWB, I meet a hot guy I want to sleep with and I do. I'd be absolutely furious if a FWB tried to control what I did and tell me what I can/can't do. If he doesn't like it, he can leave.

Respecting boundaries: exactly what boundaries? The boundaries that they have to be committed to you while you're free to do whatever you want? Stupid. If you're going to ban each other from seeing others, that's not FWB, that's a relationship.

No clue why there's been so many weird posts here like "my FWB is cheating!" The very definition of a FWB is that you hookup and nothing else. It's not cheating, it's not disrespecting boundaries.

I thought boundaries were respecting which holes are agreeable and stuff like that

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a man, but judging from what I've heard from women, it would be easy to find a man to agree to be their FWB. The hard part would be:
1. Finding such a man that they are attracted to.
2. Finding such a man who will agree to whatever parameters they set (e.g., not sleeping with other people).
3. Finding such a man who provides satisfying sex.

How is demanding exclusivity even compatible with a FWB arrangement?

I just listed that as an example. Some people might prefer a casual relationship that is exclusive. Or the boundary might be not to hit on her friends. Or that he pay for dates, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:A man to have free sex with you? Of course.

A man who will also follow rules about protection and not seeing other people and respecting your boundaries? Seems unlikely.

I'm a woman who has had multiple FWB and this seems kind of ridiculous.

Protection: I always insist on condoms, if they won't, then we don't have sex. But most men will, I've only known one guy who absolutely refused, so we parted ways.

Not seeing other people: you have no right to insist a FWB not see other people. Even when I have one, I am dating and seeing other people. Am I sleeping with them? Usually not; usually once I start dating someone, I end the FWB relationship. But yea, once in awhile when I have a FWB, I meet a hot guy I want to sleep with and I do. I'd be absolutely furious if a FWB tried to control what I did and tell me what I can/can't do. If he doesn't like it, he can leave.

Respecting boundaries: exactly what boundaries? The boundaries that they have to be committed to you while you're free to do whatever you want? Stupid. If you're going to ban each other from seeing others, that's not FWB, that's a relationship.

No clue why there's been so many weird posts here like "my FWB is cheating!" The very definition of a FWB is that you hookup and nothing else. It's not cheating, it's not disrespecting boundaries.

Anonymous wrote:I'm a man, but judging from what I've heard from women, it would be easy to find a man to agree to be their FWB. The hard part would be:
1. Finding such a man that they are attracted to.
2. Finding such a man who will agree to whatever parameters they set (e.g., not sleeping with other people).
3. Finding such a man who provides satisfying sex.

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Anonymous wrote:A man to have free sex with you? Of course.

A man who will also follow rules about protection and not seeing other people and respecting your boundaries? Seems unlikely.

I'm a woman who has had multiple FWB and this seems kind of ridiculous.

Protection: I always insist on condoms, if they won't, then we don't have sex. But most men will, I've only known one guy who absolutely refused, so we parted ways.

Not seeing other people: you have no right to insist a FWB not see other people. Even when I have one, I am dating and seeing other people. Am I sleeping with them? Usually not; usually once I start dating someone, I end the FWB relationship. But yea, once in awhile when I have a FWB, I meet a hot guy I want to sleep with and I do. I'd be absolutely furious if a FWB tried to control what I did and tell me what I can/can't do. If he doesn't like it, he can leave.

Respecting boundaries: exactly what boundaries? The boundaries that they have to be committed to you while you're free to do whatever you want? Stupid. If you're going to ban each other from seeing others, that's not FWB, that's a relationship.

No clue why there's been so many weird posts here like "my FWB is cheating!" The very definition of a FWB is that you hookup and nothing else. It's not cheating, it's not disrespecting boundaries.

You are probably my favorite DCUM poster. A lot of people find you upsetting or threatening. I think you make sense. (I'm pretty sure you are the late forties woman who says she's still attractive, though not as attractive as when she was younger, and had two boyfriends for a while, one good in bed, the other good at conversation.)

These answer is puzzling as I’m not sure how the lady makes it work and safe to her.
Condoms don’t protect from everything. It’s would take regular STD testing and being sexually exclusive to be 100% protected for me. And what about oral sex?

If you want exclusivity, then you’re looking for a relationship, not a FWB.

I would totally be interested in a hot FWB with exclusivity condition. But men would lie and still sleep around which is why I never had a FwB

If you’ve never had a FWB this isn’t really relevant for you.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A man to have free sex with you? Of course.

A man who will also follow rules about protection and not seeing other people and respecting your boundaries? Seems unlikely.

I'm a woman who has had multiple FWB and this seems kind of ridiculous.

Protection: I always insist on condoms, if they won't, then we don't have sex. But most men will, I've only known one guy who absolutely refused, so we parted ways.

Not seeing other people: you have no right to insist a FWB not see other people. Even when I have one, I am dating and seeing other people. Am I sleeping with them? Usually not; usually once I start dating someone, I end the FWB relationship. But yea, once in awhile when I have a FWB, I meet a hot guy I want to sleep with and I do. I'd be absolutely furious if a FWB tried to control what I did and tell me what I can/can't do. If he doesn't like it, he can leave.

Respecting boundaries: exactly what boundaries? The boundaries that they have to be committed to you while you're free to do whatever you want? Stupid. If you're going to ban each other from seeing others, that's not FWB, that's a relationship.

No clue why there's been so many weird posts here like "my FWB is cheating!" The very definition of a FWB is that you hookup and nothing else. It's not cheating, it's not disrespecting boundaries.

You are probably my favorite DCUM poster. A lot of people find you upsetting or threatening. I think you make sense. (I'm pretty sure you are the late forties woman who says she's still attractive, though not as attractive as when she was younger, and had two boyfriends for a while, one good in bed, the other good at conversation.)

These answer is puzzling as I’m not sure how the lady makes it work and safe to her.
Condoms don’t protect from everything. It’s would take regular STD testing and being sexually exclusive to be 100% protected for me. And what about oral sex?

If you want exclusivity, then you’re looking for a relationship, not a FWB.

I would totally be interested in a hot FWB with exclusivity condition. But men would lie and still sleep around which is why I never had a FwB