Anonymous
Post 01/10/2026 10:45     Subject: 13 year old watching porn
Anonymous wrote:What sex looks like in the vast majority of porn is NOT what sex looks like in a healthy relationship, one that is loving, kind and respectful.


In a healthy relationship, sex should not “look” anything because neither person should be looking at anything other than directly into their partner’s eyes.
Anonymous
Post 01/10/2026 00:21     Subject: Re:13 year old watching porn
Too late. Talk about the issues with porn. But don't think you can't prevent it.

I am 31. My kids dad started watching porn at 8, along with his friends. Even though he came from an upper class lifestyle and we didn't even have phones or tablets! I (F) watched it at 13 once I got a phone. I survived.
Anonymous
Post 01/04/2026 14:19     Subject: 13 year old watching porn
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Just found porn on my (just turned) 13 yo son’s device. I think this is too young. Dad will talk with him about porn (ok to explore your body, but porn isn’t real, consent, etc.). We have also blocked the sites we know he is using (screen time controls). What else should we do?


You could confiscate his device for a while, but it might not stop him. At 13, he is at the age of curiosity and that is unlikely to stop. I do not remember how we got them, but me and my friends used to look at adult magazines. There was one series of them that particularly fascinated me. We also found out of fulfilling our curiosity and one of my friends was very resourceful.

Depending on the sort of porn he is looking at, it's probably not such a bad thing.

Stop with this shit. The magazines of yore are not even 1% equivalent to today’s world. This is extremely damaging for young men and is rewiring their brains for the worse. All the men who keep saying “nbd” are raising literal porn addicts.
Anonymous
Post 01/04/2026 14:16     Subject: Re:13 year old watching porn
Anonymous wrote:Cover it’s not real, it isn’t what girls really like, it’s cartoonish, it’s designed to be addictive and negatively affect your ability to have normal sex.

This. Just like gambling, alcohol and drugs.
Anonymous
Post 01/04/2026 14:14     Subject: 13 year old watching porn
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Of course you take the device for now.

Consider switching from a system of blacklisting problematic sites to whitelisting appropriate sites. He can earn back the privilege of the broader Internet once he’s proven himself responsible.


lol. You don't seem to understand how internet protocols work.

But sure, do this, OP. It will be a good opportunity for him to learn about DNS and HTTPS-SNI.[/quote

I’ll bite! What advice to you have for OP?
Anonymous
Post 01/04/2026 14:14     Subject: 13 year old watching porn
Anonymous wrote:What a sick child!!


Agreed
Anonymous
Post 01/04/2026 14:08     Subject: 13 year old watching porn
What sex looks like in the vast majority of porn is NOT what sex looks like in a healthy relationship, one that is loving, kind and respectful.
Anonymous
Post 01/04/2026 14:01     Subject: 13 year old watching porn
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Anonymous wrote:All of what others have said. It's very important too explain that:

1. sometimes, women (and sometimes young boys) are exploited for porn

2. It's not what a real, healthy relationship looks like. Hopefully they've seen you and spouse, grandparents, aunts and uncles, friends, etc. interacting and know what a healthy relationship looks like

3. It's extremely important to be open and honest with your partner, about what they like/want, what feels good for them and about what you like/want and feels good for you, and if you cannot do that with your partner, you are not ready to be having a sexual relationship with them


Your 13 year old doesn't want to see their grandparents having sex. Gross.


Are you the 13 year old because that’s not what PP said.


Sure sounded like it. Otherwise it was a non sequitur that has nothing to do with porn.


No, idiot, it did not sure sound like it. Get a grip.


The claim was that porn doesn't reflect what sex in healthy relationships looks like. Then the pp said the grandparents should model what that looks like. That's gross.


The PP talked about grandparents modeling healthy relationships not modeling healthy sex. Work on reading comprehension. And maybe get your mind out of the gutter.


Then it was a non sequitur, because the issue (i.e., porn) is what sex looks like.
Anonymous
Post 01/04/2026 13:59     Subject: 13 year old watching porn
What a sick child!!
Anonymous
Post 01/04/2026 13:56     Subject: Re:13 year old watching porn
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Cover it’s not real, it isn’t what girls really like, it’s cartoonish, it’s designed to be addictive and negatively affect your ability to have normal sex.


But is that really being honest?

While I agree with most of what you wrote, we sometimes watch as a married couple and some of it is exactly what I really like. Depends on the person.


Are you a man or a woman?


Man
Anonymous
Post 01/04/2026 13:44     Subject: 13 year old watching porn
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:All of what others have said. It's very important too explain that:

1. sometimes, women (and sometimes young boys) are exploited for porn

2. It's not what a real, healthy relationship looks like. Hopefully they've seen you and spouse, grandparents, aunts and uncles, friends, etc. interacting and know what a healthy relationship looks like

3. It's extremely important to be open and honest with your partner, about what they like/want, what feels good for them and about what you like/want and feels good for you, and if you cannot do that with your partner, you are not ready to be having a sexual relationship with them


Your 13 year old doesn't want to see their grandparents having sex. Gross.


Are you the 13 year old because that’s not what PP said.


Sure sounded like it. Otherwise it was a non sequitur that has nothing to do with porn.


No, idiot, it did not sure sound like it. Get a grip.


The claim was that porn doesn't reflect what sex in healthy relationships looks like. Then the pp said the grandparents should model what that looks like. That's gross.


The PP talked about grandparents modeling healthy relationships not modeling healthy sex. Work on reading comprehension. And maybe get your mind out of the gutter.
Anonymous
Post 01/04/2026 13:04     Subject: Re:13 year old watching porn
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Cover it’s not real, it isn’t what girls really like, it’s cartoonish, it’s designed to be addictive and negatively affect your ability to have normal sex.


But is that really being honest?

While I agree with most of what you wrote, we sometimes watch as a married couple and some of it is exactly what I really like. Depends on the person.


So edgy and sexy!!! Yasss queen! Please go over how extensive cunnilingus scenes are important for you so that the kids know how honest you are. It’s important.


If you blatantly lie, your kids have no reason to trust anything else you say.
Anonymous
Post 01/04/2026 13:04     Subject: 13 year old watching porn
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:All of what others have said. It's very important too explain that:

1. sometimes, women (and sometimes young boys) are exploited for porn

2. It's not what a real, healthy relationship looks like. Hopefully they've seen you and spouse, grandparents, aunts and uncles, friends, etc. interacting and know what a healthy relationship looks like

3. It's extremely important to be open and honest with your partner, about what they like/want, what feels good for them and about what you like/want and feels good for you, and if you cannot do that with your partner, you are not ready to be having a sexual relationship with them


Your 13 year old doesn't want to see their grandparents having sex. Gross.


Are you the 13 year old because that’s not what PP said.


Sure sounded like it. Otherwise it was a non sequitur that has nothing to do with porn.


No, idiot, it did not sure sound like it. Get a grip.


The claim was that porn doesn't reflect what sex in healthy relationships looks like. Then the pp said the grandparents should model what that looks like. That's gross.
Anonymous
Post 01/04/2026 13:00     Subject: Re:13 year old watching porn
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Cover it’s not real, it isn’t what girls really like, it’s cartoonish, it’s designed to be addictive and negatively affect your ability to have normal sex.


But is that really being honest?

While I agree with most of what you wrote, we sometimes watch as a married couple and some of it is exactly what I really like. Depends on the person.


So edgy and sexy!!! Yasss queen! Please go over how extensive cunnilingus scenes are important for you so that the kids know how honest you are. It’s important.
Anonymous
Post 01/04/2026 12:59     Subject: 13 year old watching porn
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:All of what others have said. It's very important too explain that:

1. sometimes, women (and sometimes young boys) are exploited for porn

2. It's not what a real, healthy relationship looks like. Hopefully they've seen you and spouse, grandparents, aunts and uncles, friends, etc. interacting and know what a healthy relationship looks like

3. It's extremely important to be open and honest with your partner, about what they like/want, what feels good for them and about what you like/want and feels good for you, and if you cannot do that with your partner, you are not ready to be having a sexual relationship with them


Your 13 year old doesn't want to see their grandparents having sex. Gross.


Are you the 13 year old because that’s not what PP said.


Sure sounded like it. Otherwise it was a non sequitur that has nothing to do with porn.


No, idiot, it did not sure sound like it. Get a grip.