Wow, a post in January about new people at the gym being annoying.

Groundbreaking.

I'm an intermittent gym goer for many years and I see bad behavior all year round. Mostly in terms of people sitting on machines, not working out but staring at their phones. Super annoying as someone who wants to get in and get out. But it's not specifically newbies or any particular demographic - elderly, teenagers, it seems like everyone has little consideration for others. I've never done a group class, though, so maybe there are better established norms there.

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Anonymous wrote:This is why people stop coming to the gym. Your disdain is loud and clear and that negativity is part of what makes people not want to come back.

Oh, bull.

We were all new once. Including myself, as a formerly obese person. Your inability to stick to going to the gym is no one's fault but your own.

Show up, have good etiquette, be considerate of others, and it'd be great to see you tomorrow.

It’s not bull. Maybe you were lucky and people didn’t treat you like garbage when you first started trying to improve yourself.

A good resolution for someone like you would be to try to be a better person.

It is bull. New things are hard. The onus is on the newcomer to try to fit in. People are welcoming to those who are trying to learn the ropes and get fit and will help if you ask. Coming in acting like you own the place, not bothering to learn the rules or follow the etiquette, make you an obnoxious boor welcome nowhere.

They've been there one day you disgusting POS. TEACH THEM. HELP THEM LEARN. YOU ARE SUCH A HORRIBLE POS WITCH.

DP. Who on earth needs to be told to put things back and clean up after themselves? Or to attend classes on time? That is independent adult 101. Or childhood 101.

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Anonymous wrote:This is why people stop coming to the gym. Your disdain is loud and clear and that negativity is part of what makes people not want to come back.

Oh, bull.

We were all new once. Including myself, as a formerly obese person. Your inability to stick to going to the gym is no one's fault but your own.

Show up, have good etiquette, be considerate of others, and it'd be great to see you tomorrow.

It’s not bull. Maybe you were lucky and people didn’t treat you like garbage when you first started trying to improve yourself.

A good resolution for someone like you would be to try to be a better person.

You're projecting. I have been regularly going to the gym for 10+ years, and I have never once seen someone treat another person like garbage.

Or, perhaps you can share a specific example?

As long as people are courteous and mindful of others, no one gives a crap about what others are doing. Certainly no one is treating others poorly.

The fact that your response in a thread started to explicitly complain about new people in the gym was this:

“Your inability to stick to going to the gym is no one's fault but your own.”

tells me everything I need to know about you. No projection required.

That was in response to you saying people suggesting to follow considerate etiquette, is why people stop coming to the gym.

And I'm right. People stop going to the gym because they lack the drive, interest, discipline, or something else within themselves. Show up (ON TIME) and be considerate, and everyone will be kind.

Grow up and stop blaming others for you not going to the gym. I was a newbie. I've been there myself. No one has ever been a deliberate ahole, nor have I ever witnesses it. I asked for specifc examples - why can't you share any?

I’ve been working out for decades and welcome anyone new who wants to improve their fitness. Yes it gets more crowded, but I have enough flexibility in my workouts so that I can make it work.

Maybe you go to a gym that’s too small?

Good Lord.

OP posts this every year.

Stop it. Exercise outside or in your home if you can't tolerate the newbies this month.

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Anonymous wrote:We all had to start somewhere. But New Years Resolutions, for the love of god:

- DON'T COME LATE TO CLASSES (GO 10+ MINS EARLY)
- clean up after yourselves!!!!
- no perfume! no cologne!
- don't take cell phone conversations more than a minute

Plus, keep your crap contained. One guy (not new) at my gym has his water bottle on one machine, phone on another. He leaves towels wherever. Move your stuff! I just ask him if he's still still using that particular machine. He isn't.

OP here and it's exactly this. There are rules, there are customs. Don't be a bull in a china shop. Don't bring your giant duffel bag into a group fitness class--free lockers for exactly this purpose.

NP. The gym is not special in this regard. Why not start a thread saying you should be quiet in a library, let people off the elevator before you enter, walk left/stand right on the Metro escalator, don’t park it in the middle of an aisle at the supermarket. I’ve been going to the gym in my current neighborhood for 12 years, and was a member at other gyms ever since I was in college. On a daily basis, I am far more likely to be inconvenienced by an inconsiderate person in a parking garage, a movie theater or Target than a gym.

And if someone is being a bit clueless or selfish at the gym, OK. I roll with it, just like I roll with it when people don’t put their carts away at the supermarket.

This deserves its own thread.

I know and dislike holier than thou ladies like OP. She thinks she owns the place and she thinks she's better than everyone else. How's that going for you OP? I bet you're incredibly lonely. Sorrynotsorry.

Anonymous wrote:Don’t worry OP, you’re still the most specialist and fittest and bestest woman of all!! How dare other people think they can do what YOU do?

(People who try to gatekeep the gym are obnoxious AHs, just to be clear)

Pretty much.

Maybe you should change gyms, OP, if yours does a special promo or whatever they do to attract new members every January.

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Anonymous wrote:This is why people stop coming to the gym. Your disdain is loud and clear and that negativity is part of what makes people not want to come back.

Oh, bull.

We were all new once. Including myself, as a formerly obese person. Your inability to stick to going to the gym is no one's fault but your own.

Show up, have good etiquette, be considerate of others, and it'd be great to see you tomorrow.

It’s not bull. Maybe you were lucky and people didn’t treat you like garbage when you first started trying to improve yourself.

A good resolution for someone like you would be to try to be a better person.

It is bull. New things are hard. The onus is on the newcomer to try to fit in. People are welcoming to those who are trying to learn the ropes and get fit and will help if you ask. Coming in acting like you own the place, not bothering to learn the rules or follow the etiquette, make you an obnoxious boor welcome nowhere.

They've been there one day you disgusting POS. TEACH THEM. HELP THEM LEARN. YOU ARE SUCH A HORRIBLE POS WITCH.

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Anonymous wrote:We all had to start somewhere. But New Years Resolutions, for the love of god:

- DON'T COME LATE TO CLASSES (GO 10+ MINS EARLY)
- clean up after yourselves!!!!
- no perfume! no cologne!
- don't take cell phone conversations more than a minute

Plus, keep your crap contained. One guy (not new) at my gym has his water bottle on one machine, phone on another. He leaves towels wherever. Move your stuff! I just ask him if he's still still using that particular machine. He isn't.

OP here and it's exactly this. There are rules, there are customs. Don't be a bull in a china shop. Don't bring your giant duffel bag into a group fitness class--free lockers for exactly this purpose.

NP. The gym is not special in this regard. Why not start a thread saying you should be quiet in a library, let people off the elevator before you enter, walk left/stand right on the Metro escalator, don’t park it in the middle of an aisle at the supermarket. I’ve been going to the gym in my current neighborhood for 12 years, and was a member at other gyms ever since I was in college. On a daily basis, I am far more likely to be inconvenienced by an inconsiderate person in a parking garage, a movie theater or Target than a gym.

And if someone is being a bit clueless or selfish at the gym, OK. I roll with it, just like I roll with it when people don’t put their carts away at the supermarket.

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Anonymous wrote:We all had to start somewhere. But New Years Resolutions, for the love of god:

- DON'T COME LATE TO CLASSES (GO 10+ MINS EARLY)
- clean up after yourselves!!!!
- no perfume! no cologne!
- don't take cell phone conversations more than a minute

Plus, keep your crap contained. One guy (not new) at my gym has his water bottle on one machine, phone on another. He leaves towels wherever. Move your stuff! I just ask him if he's still still using that particular machine. He isn't.

OP here and it's exactly this. There are rules, there are customs. Don't be a bull in a china shop. Don't bring your giant duffel bag into a group fitness class--free lockers for exactly this purpose.

How is someone new to the gym supposed to know your special rules and customs? Why not try too be helpful instead of being a nasty b___?

Wow you sound horrible. Why not be supportive of people trying to get healthier. People like YOU are the reason I choose to work out at home and not go to a gym. I don't want to deal with nasty snooty pigs like you.

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Anonymous wrote:This is why people stop coming to the gym. Your disdain is loud and clear and that negativity is part of what makes people not want to come back.

Oh, bull.

We were all new once. Including myself, as a formerly obese person. Your inability to stick to going to the gym is no one's fault but your own.

Show up, have good etiquette, be considerate of others, and it'd be great to see you tomorrow.

It’s not bull. Maybe you were lucky and people didn’t treat you like garbage when you first started trying to improve yourself.

A good resolution for someone like you would be to try to be a better person.

You're projecting. I have been regularly going to the gym for 10+ years, and I have never once seen someone treat another person like garbage.

Or, perhaps you can share a specific example?

As long as people are courteous and mindful of others, no one gives a crap about what others are doing. Certainly no one is treating others poorly.

The fact that your response in a thread started to explicitly complain about new people in the gym was this:

“Your inability to stick to going to the gym is no one's fault but your own.”

tells me everything I need to know about you. No projection required.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is why people stop coming to the gym. Your disdain is loud and clear and that negativity is part of what makes people not want to come back.

Oh, bull.

We were all new once. Including myself, as a formerly obese person. Your inability to stick to going to the gym is no one's fault but your own.

Show up, have good etiquette, be considerate of others, and it'd be great to see you tomorrow.

It’s not bull. Maybe you were lucky and people didn’t treat you like garbage when you first started trying to improve yourself.

A good resolution for someone like you would be to try to be a better person.

You're projecting. I have been regularly going to the gym for 10+ years, and I have never once seen someone treat another person like garbage.

Or, perhaps you can share a specific example?

As long as people are courteous and mindful of others, no one gives a crap about what others are doing. Certainly no one is treating others poorly.

Have you really being going to the gym regularly for more than 10 years? It’s such a predictable small blip, I’d expect it’s only amateurs who get so upset about it. Plus, you neglected to mention that many of the newbies bring good cheer and energy while they are there.