Anonymous wrote:Separate bedrooms = sexless marriage, in most cases.

Same bedroom = snoring keeps the perimenopause woman up, tell me how that goes after sleeping 3hr/day for month and operate in one of the most demanding career.

You sound jobless.

Anonymous wrote:My grandparents slept in the same bed (both born in the 1910s), but my DH and I have separate bedrooms (we are in our 50s).

I always had my own bedroom, since when I got married at 27.

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Anonymous wrote:I genuinely always thought the separate twin beds thing was just a product of early television and a belief it was improper to show a couple in bed together. I never thought people actually did that IRL.

(Separate rooms I totally understand. But it never occurred to me that a couple had two beds in the same room.)

Your post just reminded me that Lucy and Ricky slept in separate beds on I Love Lucy. I believe Fred and Ethel did too.

I think a lot of shows amd movies did this but it was not the norm. Houses and apartments used to be smaller with fewer rooms. Even siblings sometimes shared beds in the past and usually shared rooms.

They did this on I Love Lucy because the censors refused to show a shared bed. Which is pretty nuts.

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Anonymous wrote:I genuinely always thought the separate twin beds thing was just a product of early television and a belief it was improper to show a couple in bed together. I never thought people actually did that IRL.

(Separate rooms I totally understand. But it never occurred to me that a couple had two beds in the same room.)

Your post just reminded me that Lucy and Ricky slept in separate beds on I Love Lucy. I believe Fred and Ethel did too.

I think a lot of shows amd movies did this but it was not the norm. Houses and apartments used to be smaller with fewer rooms. Even siblings sometimes shared beds in the past and usually shared rooms.

Anonymous wrote:Separate bedrooms = sexless marriage, in most cases.

If the only type of sex you can imagine is when someone rolls over onto you after you turn off the bedside lamp, this is probably true.

I was never allowed in my grandparents' room so I have no idea what was happening with their bed(s). They did not have a big enough house for separate rooms.

My parents have a shared bed but my mom almost always sleeps in her recliner because of her health problems and my dad snoring. That's been the case since I was a teenager, if not longer.

Anonymous wrote:I saw the is asked on TikTok. It was culture specific to my ethnic background but I figure I would ask it here where there is a mixture of races/ethnicities.

No, my one set of living grandparents did not sleep in the same room nor bed. They were both born one in the 1890s and the other in early 1900s. I never thought twice about it either. The comments on the video confirmed many households had this setup.


Did yours?

One of my grandparents (Mom's dad) was deceased before I was born, so this is only for my dad's parents. They were born in the US in the early 1900s. Their parents AND grandparents were born in the US, as well (i.e., my grandparents were not immigrants). They were white folks with Scottish heritage.

In the 70s-80s, they slept in different bedrooms, even on different floors (but this was probably due to the layout of the house). I always thought it was strange. I did not ask anyone why that was the case. I just assumed someone snored. I knew my dad had been conceived somehow...

My grandparents had separate bedrooms. They were born in the early 1900s. Interestingly, my grandmother got pregnant with my aunt before they got married, so something must have clearly changed by the time I was old enough to notice their bedroom setup.

Anonymous wrote:Separate bedrooms = sexless marriage, in most cases.

Licensed marriage counselors define a sexless marriage as 11 instances of coitus or fewer, per year.

My grandparents slept in the same room but in separate beds not pushed together. My parents slept in the same bed. I’d love for my DH and I to sleep in different rooms but we’d have to wait until the kids go to college for that to happen. Buying a king bed greatly improved our co sleeping.

Paternal grandparents (born 1912ish) shared a queen bed. They were both larger people so it must have been tight quarters.
My maternal grandfather died before I was born so I have no idea, but since he died in his sleep in the “guest” room, my guess is that they at least occasionally slept separately.
My parents (born mid-1940s) shared a queen bed.
DH and I share a queen bed, though we’re planning to get a king bed next month. I usually move to the guest room when one of us is sick.

Anonymous wrote:Yes but they had two twins pushed together.

Are you ... my cousin? Wait, my mom was an only child so that's not possible. My grandparents had the same setup!

My grandparents slept in separate bedrooms.
My parents shared a bedroom.

I had no idea couples slept in two twins in the same room in real life back in the day. Apparently people thought it was unhealthy to share the same bed and exchange the same air from late 1800s to 1950s?

https://sleepreviewmag.com/sleep-health/demographics/relationship-status/twin-beds-marriage/

Both sets of grandparents born in the 1920s and my parents all slept in the same bed until one of them passes away.