Anonymous
Post 12/21/2025 13:49     Subject: Deferral -- managing expectations
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Sounds like OP is at a private school. I would say yes it's promising.

Colleges have to yield protect. When they pull kids from the deferral to admit, they will call the private high school counselors first, and they will get a clear idea whether the deferee will attend if admitted.

I know cases this has been done before RD results come out. Good luck.


We are at a feeder private, this is a rare result. More commonly a deferral for a legacy is a soft rejection.


More common at our feeder.

It may be a soft no for a legacy, particularly a Cornell legacy. However, how is this relevant to OP? She is not a legacy.

OP is the top kid among the deferrals at her school, and it sounds like their school counselor is all in advocating for her. I wouldn't be surprised if this is a case for RD admit as long as this college remains OP's top choice.


But sounds like counselor previously and unsuccessfully lobbied for kid so not sure that future support will do much.


Maybe. But OP also mentioned that they have the typical max number of ED spots already admitted so maybe they are managing slots to RD.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2025 13:44     Subject: Deferral -- managing expectations
Anonymous wrote:Public school mom here - how does a school become a feeder school? I assume that’s just with private colleges? As others have said, our counselor is so overwhelmed, we were just happy she got the rec letter in on time! And why is this allowed ?

+1
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2025 13:25     Subject: Deferral -- managing expectations
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Sounds like OP is at a private school. I would say yes it's promising.

Colleges have to yield protect. When they pull kids from the deferral to admit, they will call the private high school counselors first, and they will get a clear idea whether the deferee will attend if admitted.

I know cases this has been done before RD results come out. Good luck.


We are at a feeder private, this is a rare result. More commonly a deferral for a legacy is a soft rejection.


More common at our feeder.

It may be a soft no for a legacy, particularly a Cornell legacy. However, how is this relevant to OP? She is not a legacy.

OP is the top kid among the deferrals at her school, and it sounds like their school counselor is all in advocating for her. I wouldn't be surprised if this is a case for RD admit as long as this college remains OP's top choice.


But sounds like counselor previously and unsuccessfully lobbied for kid so not sure that future support will do much.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2025 13:19     Subject: Deferral -- managing expectations
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Someone on another thread reported Vandy taking less ED thus year. Vandy has a strong sibling preference, not sure if they publicly acknowledge it.


They were saying 10% of the incoming class (as a whole) at Vandy comes from the deferrals.
Deferral at Vandy is huge!


If it’s Vandy, op can just buy her way in, it’s the latest trend.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2025 13:17     Subject: Deferral -- managing expectations
Public school mom here - how does a school become a feeder school? I assume that’s just with private colleges? As others have said, our counselor is so overwhelmed, we were just happy she got the rec letter in on time! And why is this allowed ?
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2025 13:15     Subject: Deferral -- managing expectations
Anonymous wrote:Someone on another thread reported Vandy taking less ED thus year. Vandy has a strong sibling preference, not sure if they publicly acknowledge it.


They were saying 10% of the incoming class (as a whole) at Vandy comes from the deferrals.
Deferral at Vandy is huge!
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2025 13:09     Subject: Deferral -- managing expectations
Anonymous wrote:Were you surprised about the others who got in over your child or were they just better applicants? Figure out why they were more appealing and see if there’s anything you can emphasize in the LOCI. For example, for ND, it might be service rather than awards. Don’t give up, but also focus on building up all of the other schools.


Thank you and I will do that! There is a recruited athlete and a double legacy (both parents). The other one has a close relative that attended, so not technically legacy. All strong students and great kids. They are super supportive of each other.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2025 13:06     Subject: Deferral -- managing expectations
Someone on another thread reported Vandy taking less ED thus year. Vandy has a strong sibling preference, not sure if they publicly acknowledge it.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2025 13:04     Subject: Deferral -- managing expectations
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Sounds like OP is at a private school. I would say yes it's promising.

Colleges have to yield protect. When they pull kids from the deferral to admit, they will call the private high school counselors first, and they will get a clear idea whether the deferee will attend if admitted.

I know cases this has been done before RD results come out. Good luck.


We are at a feeder private, this is a rare result. More commonly a deferral for a legacy is a soft rejection.


More common at our feeder.

It may be a soft no for a legacy, particularly a Cornell legacy. However, how is this relevant to OP? She is not a legacy.

OP is the top kid among the deferrals at her school, and it sounds like their school counselor is all in advocating for her. I wouldn't be surprised if this is a case for RD admit as long as this college remains OP's top choice.



There is a sibling legacy here, did you miss that?


OP here. Yes sibling legacy, although the school doesn't technically consider sibling attending as legacy status. Only parents.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2025 13:04     Subject: Deferral -- managing expectations
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Sounds like OP is at a private school. I would say yes it's promising.

Colleges have to yield protect. When they pull kids from the deferral to admit, they will call the private high school counselors first, and they will get a clear idea whether the deferee will attend if admitted.

I know cases this has been done before RD results come out. Good luck.


We are at a feeder private, this is a rare result. More commonly a deferral for a legacy is a soft rejection.


More common at our feeder.

It may be a soft no for a legacy, particularly a Cornell legacy. However, how is this relevant to OP? She is not a legacy.

OP is the top kid among the deferrals at her school, and it sounds like their school counselor is all in advocating for her. I wouldn't be surprised if this is a case for RD admit as long as this college remains OP's top choice.



There is a sibling legacy here, did you miss that?


Not every school recognize sibling legacy.

OP, which school?
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2025 12:59     Subject: Deferral -- managing expectations
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Sounds like OP is at a private school. I would say yes it's promising.

Colleges have to yield protect. When they pull kids from the deferral to admit, they will call the private high school counselors first, and they will get a clear idea whether the deferee will attend if admitted.

I know cases this has been done before RD results come out. Good luck.


We are at a feeder private, this is a rare result. More commonly a deferral for a legacy is a soft rejection.


More common at our feeder.

It may be a soft no for a legacy, particularly a Cornell legacy. However, how is this relevant to OP? She is not a legacy.

OP is the top kid among the deferrals at her school, and it sounds like their school counselor is all in advocating for her. I wouldn't be surprised if this is a case for RD admit as long as this college remains OP's top choice.



There is a sibling legacy here, did you miss that?
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2025 12:57     Subject: Deferral -- managing expectations
Were you surprised about the others who got in over your child or were they just better applicants? Figure out why they were more appealing and see if there’s anything you can emphasize in the LOCI. For example, for ND, it might be service rather than awards. Don’t give up, but also focus on building up all of the other schools.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2025 12:55     Subject: Deferral -- managing expectations
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Sounds like OP is at a private school. I would say yes it's promising.

Colleges have to yield protect. When they pull kids from the deferral to admit, they will call the private high school counselors first, and they will get a clear idea whether the deferee will attend if admitted.

I know cases this has been done before RD results come out. Good luck.


We are at a feeder private, this is a rare result. More commonly a deferral for a legacy is a soft rejection.


More common at our feeder.

It may be a soft no for a legacy, particularly a Cornell legacy. However, how is this relevant to OP? She is not a legacy.

OP is the top kid among the deferrals at her school, and it sounds like their school counselor is all in advocating for her. I wouldn't be surprised if this is a case for RD admit as long as this college remains OP's top choice.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2025 12:49     Subject: Deferral -- managing expectations
So the college took three ED already but not op’s kid? There will be inevitably more RD applicants from this high school competing with op’s kid so it really doesn’t matter where she stacks up compared to the other ED deferrals.

Agree she should now focus on other options, those she already has and those to come.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2025 12:40     Subject: Deferral -- managing expectations
One additional suggestion have your DD go to the admitted students day for the other school or schools she is admitted to while she waits for RD. She may actually end up preferring one of the others but at minimum it will get her excited and connected and will help if she is ultimately rejected (which I hope doesn't happen).