Anonymous
Post 12/20/2025 13:00     Subject: would you report a kid who is planning on breaking an ED for a EA school to your private high school?
People will behave unethically. There is plenty of unfairness all over the college admissions process. I would not be one to rat them out.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2025 12:59     Subject: would you report a kid who is planning on breaking an ED for a EA school to your private high school?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Depending on the timing, you don't even know yet if it will be a violation. If the student gets in to the EA first, then withdraws the ED applicaiton before a decision is made, that's fine.


That's not fine. They clearly should not apply to EA and ED at the same time. Withdrawal ED after EA acceptance is still a violation of the rules. This is clearly unethical.


Obviously not true. Why would the ED contract require you to withdraw all other pending applications if you weren't allowed to have other pending applications? Why would the ED contract allow you to withdraw your ED application at any time prior to notificaiton of the decision if they didn't anticiapte that this could be done?


You are an idiot! Dumb ass. Read your REA policy, not your ED! REA rules DO NOT allow you submitting ED application. This is unethical.

DP. While it's correct that REA does not allow applying ED elsewhere. the PP you are responding to was discussing EA, not REA.


Ok. Then there is nothing wrong with it. Of course it's allowed to ED and EA at the same time. Even encouraged.

OP, would you clarify it's EA or REA?
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2025 12:59     Subject: would you report a kid who is planning on breaking an ED for a EA school to your private high school?
There was no ED deferral. That is not this situation.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2025 12:58     Subject: would you report a kid who is planning on breaking an ED for a EA school to your private high school?
isnt EA already over?
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2025 12:58     Subject: would you report a kid who is planning on breaking an ED for a EA school to your private high school?
Anonymous wrote:To everyone saying the student is behaving unethically, what’s truly unethical is colleges misrepresenting early decision as a binding agreement and then operating as a cartel to enforce these legally unenforceable agreements. The effect is to drive up prices for higher ed across the board by preventing price competition.

Let the kid do what they want. This is all a racket anyway.

To pile on, even more irksome are deferrals from ED. Fish or cut bait.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2025 12:58     Subject: would you report a kid who is planning on breaking an ED for a EA school to your private high school?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Depending on the timing, you don't even know yet if it will be a violation. If the student gets in to the EA first, then withdraws the ED applicaiton before a decision is made, that's fine.


That's not fine. They clearly should not apply to EA and ED at the same time. Withdrawal ED after EA acceptance is still a violation of the rules. This is clearly unethical.


Of course you can apply to ED and EA. If you get into the ED, you have to pull/reject EAs.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2025 12:58     Subject: Re:would you report a kid who is planning on breaking an ED for a EA school to your private high school?
No that’s so evil.

Why would you do that to a child?
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2025 12:57     Subject: would you report a kid who is planning on breaking an ED for a EA school to your private high school?
I'd stay out of it. Kids college enrollment is always pending receipt of final transcript. If there is wrong doing, school can manage it.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2025 12:56     Subject: would you report a kid who is planning on breaking an ED for a EA school to your private high school?
I personally wouldn’t report anything that’s just second-hand info that could be inaccurate. How would you even frame your communication? It’s the high school’s counselor’s job to make sure families honor their ED agreements (as we’ve seen this year violations could impact the entire school in the future).
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2025 12:56     Subject: would you report a kid who is planning on breaking an ED for a EA school to your private high school?
Anonymous wrote:To everyone saying the student is behaving unethically, what’s truly unethical is colleges misrepresenting early decision as a binding agreement and then operating as a cartel to enforce these legally unenforceable agreements. The effect is to drive up prices for higher ed across the board by preventing price competition.

Let the kid do what they want. This is all a racket anyway.


So it’s ok for the kid to break their word?

Solid ethical foundation there.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2025 12:56     Subject: would you report a kid who is planning on breaking an ED for a EA school to your private high school?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm the OP. Kid accepted to the ED. EA is pending in Jan/Feb. Initial transcripts were sent to both schools when apps were due this fall.


Wouldn’t the private high school’s college counselor be aware and on top of this?


Depends if kid is honest with counselor about not withdrawing app. Otherwise, the counselor would not know until EA decisions come out.

Most private schools have an Honor Committee and this is among the type of thing they deal with.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2025 12:56     Subject: would you report a kid who is planning on breaking an ED for a EA school to your private high school?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Report to whom? The high school counselor?


This should be reported to the colleges.


+1. There are a few issues, though. First, who should do the reporting? The parent of a kid who is also applying to said colleges? Would this jeopardize the kid's own application being a snitcher? Second, what if there are many such violations? The parent likely doesn't have time for all these baloney phone calls/emails. Third, what if word gets back to the unethical kids and their parents? It is not difficult to identify the snitcher unless the unethical kids are telling many people. Fourth, since reporting to colleges might cause the private school to be penalized, will the school counselor be on the reporting parent's side? There appears to be many potential complications with such a deed, although I'm all for doing things the honest way.


I really don't think anyone would care if the word gets back to the unethical family.
Regardless, kids all talk in small private schools. If you want to do this you have to swear your child to absolute secrecy. People don't play when it comes to this behavior.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2025 12:55     Subject: would you report a kid who is planning on breaking an ED for a EA school to your private high school?
Mind your own business Karen.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2025 12:54     Subject: would you report a kid who is planning on breaking an ED for a EA school to your private high school?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Depending on the timing, you don't even know yet if it will be a violation. If the student gets in to the EA first, then withdraws the ED applicaiton before a decision is made, that's fine.


That's not fine. They clearly should not apply to EA and ED at the same time. Withdrawal ED after EA acceptance is still a violation of the rules. This is clearly unethical.


Obviously not true. Why would the ED contract require you to withdraw all other pending applications if you weren't allowed to have other pending applications? Why would the ED contract allow you to withdraw your ED application at any time prior to notificaiton of the decision if they didn't anticiapte that this could be done?


You are an idiot! Dumb ass. Read your REA policy, not your ED! REA rules DO NOT allow you submitting ED application. This is unethical.

DP. While it's correct that REA does not allow applying ED elsewhere. the PP you are responding to was discussing EA, not REA.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2025 12:54     Subject: would you report a kid who is planning on breaking an ED for a EA school to your private high school?
They haven't done anything wrong, yet. And, kid may not act on this in the end. If this is a private school, counselors will handle. School can refuse to send final transcript to ea school, etc. I wouldn't get involved. Also, Kids have time before they pull all apps and sometimes you do find out about a later acceptance. Some kids do it for curiosity. Not saying its right, but kids in our local public schools do it all the time. Our private is super strict about ed and engaged with families to ensure commitment - . They will handle it.