Anonymous
Post 01/02/2026 22:33     Subject: Venting- nanny share family are mess
It's typical for host family to provide food at least half time. Noodles do not sound too good to me, would not let my kid eat noodles every day. nannies in a share do not have time to cook, they just re-heat and cut fruits and veggies. Lunch needs to have 1 protein, one grain part, one veggie and 1 fruit, at the least. Ask visiting family to provide fruits for the week. Anyway, would not be a big deal for me, share saves you a lot of money
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2025 20:40     Subject: Venting- nanny share family are mess
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Frankly, the nanny should provide these things and hand their employer the receipt.


Excellent advice and next time I will be doing this


The nanny should not be out of pocket. Bring food for child or give nanny money but nanny should not be expected to use her money.


OP here, we will never do that. That's why I made food vs her having to give that kid her lunch.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2025 20:32     Subject: Venting- nanny share family are mess
Why are you cooking at all? Doesnt the nanny feee the kids? Yes I agree it’s rude not to thank you. I would tweak the arrangement though if you otherwise like these people. Just feed their kid and if you rotate they feed your kid when it’s at their house.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2025 20:09     Subject: Venting- nanny share family are mess
Anonymous wrote:Frankly, the nanny should provide these things and hand their employer the receipt.


I think this is an excellent way to handle it.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2025 19:26     Subject: Venting- nanny share family are mess
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Frankly, the nanny should provide these things and hand their employer the receipt.


Excellent advice and next time I will be doing this


The nanny should not be out of pocket. Bring food for child or give nanny money but nanny should not be expected to use her money.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2025 19:23     Subject: Venting- nanny share family are mess
Anonymous wrote:The purpose of this post is just to vent, if you have had weird experiences with your nanny share family please comment.

Overall we have an excellent arrangement and the other family is scattered and easy going. However they seem to often forget to pack their child a shawl for winter stroller rides, not enough food or forgets the water bottle. When our nanny brings this up to me I ask her she needs to let the family know. We usually would give the child food if they are still hungry.

However something ticked me off, they forgot to pack food for their child and even after the nanny followed up and offered to go to their house to pick it up they didn't reply the entire day. I felt bad and made lunch for that child.

They apologized to the nanny but had no courtesy to thank us even though the nanny informed them we provided food . I am so upset and don't know why, did they not get back assuming I will fee their child? Are so lazy?



This is intentional. It's time to find a new family for the share
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2025 18:32     Subject: Venting- nanny share family are mess
Anonymous wrote:The nanny should be taking it up with the parents, or bringing you into it.


That's how you lose a nanny. OP needs to have a discussion with the parents about this and not put the nanny in the middle.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2025 18:30     Subject: Venting- nanny share family are mess
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I don't think nanny share is the right child arrangement for you. You can't be this petty an nit picky and have it be successful.


+1
I had a nanny for my own children. She made food for them and ensured they were dressed weather appropriately- that is literally what I’m paying for.


This is not the case with us, we share the nanny and the agreement is to rotate hosting and we bring our kid ready for the day. So far I was willing to ignore their sloppiness but I am convinced they didn't get back to the nanny assuming as always we will feed their child. The fact they they had no courtesy to acknowledge and thank us validates my point. We all are busy and it's a hustle to raise kids. Going forward they are on their own. Like I said in my point I was venting and now feel better 😄


How much is it really for you to give food to a toddler? Toddlers eat very little so why not just provide the food or have them pay $20-30 a month to cover the cost.



Wow so much defending of the lazy parent, we also work and have demanding job it requires me to make time to cook for that child who by the way eats a lot. It should not be on me or may be overall parenting standards are low.

It's not in our nanny agreement to cook for the kids.

Darn DCUM likes to defend lazy parents it seems.


No, it's the same posters that love to criticize OP parents that can afford nannies. Ignore.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2025 18:09     Subject: Venting- nanny share family are mess
The nanny should be taking it up with the parents, or bringing you into it.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2025 11:29     Subject: Venting- nanny share family are mess
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I don't think nanny share is the right child arrangement for you. You can't be this petty an nit picky and have it be successful.


+1
I had a nanny for my own children. She made food for them and ensured they were dressed weather appropriately- that is literally what I’m paying for.


This is not the case with us, we share the nanny and the agreement is to rotate hosting and we bring our kid ready for the day. So far I was willing to ignore their sloppiness but I am convinced they didn't get back to the nanny assuming as always we will feed their child. The fact they they had no courtesy to acknowledge and thank us validates my point. We all are busy and it's a hustle to raise kids. Going forward they are on their own. Like I said in my point I was venting and now feel better 😄


How much is it really for you to give food to a toddler? Toddlers eat very little so why not just provide the food or have them pay $20-30 a month to cover the cost.



Wow so much defending of the lazy parent, we also work and have demanding job it requires me to make time to cook for that child who by the way eats a lot. It should not be on me or may be overall parenting standards are low.

It's not in our nanny agreement to cook for the kids.

Darn DCUM likes to defend lazy parents it seems.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2025 09:29     Subject: Venting- nanny share family are mess
Anonymous wrote:They should just keep extra “shawls”, clothes, etc at your house and also ask them to stock up on food that nanny can make for their kid in case they forget.


Or, just use one of the hosts kids extra.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2025 09:28     Subject: Venting- nanny share family are mess
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am very laid back but I would also think it was weird/annoying if a family continuously “forgot” food for their small child. Who forgets to pack their kid’s lunch? Sounds like they are taking for granted that you will provide the food.


Maybe they packed it and rushed out the door and forgot it.


Lol and had no courtesy to reply to the nanny or order Uber eats? Completely ignored it. Shitty parents.
Expecting others to feed your child when everyone works is entitlement. Same goes when they host and we remember to pack for our child and have demanding jobs.

Least they should do is thank the family to feed their child. Next time will let the nanny figure it out.


Not all parents have access to phones or email at work, my spouse doesn't. You don't need to order uber eats for a toddler. You give them a $.20 bowl of pasta and a fruit or veggie.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2025 09:27     Subject: Venting- nanny share family are mess
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I don't think nanny share is the right child arrangement for you. You can't be this petty an nit picky and have it be successful.


+1
I had a nanny for my own children. She made food for them and ensured they were dressed weather appropriately- that is literally what I’m paying for.


This is not the case with us, we share the nanny and the agreement is to rotate hosting and we bring our kid ready for the day. So far I was willing to ignore their sloppiness but I am convinced they didn't get back to the nanny assuming as always we will feed their child. The fact they they had no courtesy to acknowledge and thank us validates my point. We all are busy and it's a hustle to raise kids. Going forward they are on their own. Like I said in my point I was venting and now feel better 😄


How much is it really for you to give food to a toddler? Toddlers eat very little so why not just provide the food or have them pay $20-30 a month to cover the cost.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2025 09:26     Subject: Venting- nanny share family are mess
Anonymous wrote:Frankly, the nanny should provide these things and hand their employer the receipt.


Excellent advice and next time I will be doing this
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2025 09:25     Subject: Venting- nanny share family are mess
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I don't think nanny share is the right child arrangement for you. You can't be this petty an nit picky and have it be successful.


+1
I had a nanny for my own children. She made food for them and ensured they were dressed weather appropriately- that is literally what I’m paying for.


This is not the case with us, we share the nanny and the agreement is to rotate hosting and we bring our kid ready for the day. So far I was willing to ignore their sloppiness but I am convinced they didn't get back to the nanny assuming as always we will feed their child. The fact they they had no courtesy to acknowledge and thank us validates my point. We all are busy and it's a hustle to raise kids. Going forward they are on their own. Like I said in my point I was venting and now feel better 😄