Anonymous
12/17/2025 19:45
Subject: 39 and pregnant
I would heed the doctors advice.
Anonymous
12/17/2025 19:21
Subject: 39 and pregnant
OP, YOUR KID DOES NOT WANT A CHRISTMAS EVE OR CHRISTMAS BIRTHDAY!
It distracts from their special day. It screws up birthday party timing.
It distracts from their special day. It screws up birthday party timing.
Anonymous
12/17/2025 17:59
Subject: Re:39 and pregnant
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here - I am 39 weeks just completed another ultrasound where baby has great movement, fluids and placenta were all checked and doing good as well. Will be waiting for 40weeks.
So you’re going to wait a week and have the baby on… Dec 24? That’s quite a choice. Probably not going to get the A-team for delivery…
So much this. Why push to a Christmas delivery against medical advice. That's just not a good idea.
Anonymous
12/17/2025 17:56
Subject: 39 and pregnant
Do you have high blood pressure? There are good reasons to induce. Following doctor's advice - there is a reason for the advice.
Anonymous
12/17/2025 17:53
Subject: 39 and pregnant
Obviously you can do whatever you want, but I'd expect any physician to consistently offer advice about how to reduce the risk of stillbirth.
Anonymous
12/17/2025 14:44
Subject: 39 and pregnant
What?!
Switch doctors! I just delivered at VHC at age 42 and saw MANY other older moms. MFM was wonderful
Switch doctors! I just delivered at VHC at age 42 and saw MANY other older moms. MFM was wonderful
Anonymous
12/17/2025 14:41
Subject: 39 and pregnant
Why wouldn’t you induce? Placenta gets old. Not worth the risk.
Anonymous
12/17/2025 14:35
Subject: 39 and pregnant
Anonymous wrote:I waited until 41 weeks to induce with my first, and the induction took forever and then still didn't work, and I had her by c-section at 41w4days (at almost midnight, so almost 5 days!). I remember at my PACE group people being so deeply sorry for me for having a c-section, but she was only 7 lbs at birth, the placenta was degrading, and there was meconium in the fluid. When I said that a C wasn't my worst case scenario, a stillbirth was, the reaction was still a shocked gasp that I would "scaremonger" about natural births.
A lot people are really, really deeply emotionally connected to the idea of vaginal births with no interventions. Science can't really stand a chance against emotions like those.
I hope everything goes well for you, OP. But I do think it's misleading that you started a thread about how nuts it is that they brought up induction at all of your appointments when your most recent appointment was literally for your 39th week. Of course they brought it up. It's the recommendation.
I agree with this. I was 39 when I had my last child and had to be induced. This was years ago and they let me go to 41 weeks. I can remember at that time people on this board would say it is better to induce earlier but the evidence was not there yet. Now it is. Consider it is not some effort to age shame you but them giving you best medical advice. You can choose not to follow it but they'd be bad doctors for not advising you to do it.
Anonymous
12/17/2025 14:30
Subject: 39 and pregnant
You know given you already have kids and you're at 39 weeks, maybe you consider it just for practical reasons. You don't want to be in the hospital over Christmas. If they induce now you can be home before Christmas. Maybe a bit silly but the reality is it might make your life a bit easier.
Anonymous
12/17/2025 13:31
Subject: Re:39 and pregnant
You need a new Dr./practice. I had my first at a month shy of 40 and the other a week before turning 43. I was never made to feel odd or spooked. You need to be see where other old moms are seen! I went to Foxhall and they are super supportive and accommodating. I answered a quick 'no' to VBAC with my second and she said 'Alright!' and never asked me again.
Anonymous
12/17/2025 13:28
Subject: Re:39 and pregnant
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here - I am 39 weeks just completed another ultrasound where baby has great movement, fluids and placenta were all checked and doing good as well. Will be waiting for 40weeks.
So you’re going to wait a week and have the baby on… Dec 24? That’s quite a choice. Probably not going to get the A-team for delivery…
This is a REALLY good point.
Medical errors and care are strongly related to distractions and rushing. You think you're going to get a doctor with the patience to wait out a natural birth according to your plan on 12/24? Maybe. Also, strongly maybe not.
Anonymous
12/17/2025 13:22
Subject: 39 and pregnant
Anonymous wrote:Change your providers. Being treated like that is not okay and not normal.
This - not normal!
Anonymous
12/17/2025 13:21
Subject: Re:39 and pregnant
Anonymous wrote:OP here - I am 39 weeks just completed another ultrasound where baby has great movement, fluids and placenta were all checked and doing good as well. Will be waiting for 40weeks.
So you’re going to wait a week and have the baby on… Dec 24? That’s quite a choice. Probably not going to get the A-team for delivery…
Anonymous
12/17/2025 13:18
Subject: 39 and pregnant
I waited until 41 weeks to induce with my first, and the induction took forever and then still didn't work, and I had her by c-section at 41w4days (at almost midnight, so almost 5 days!). I remember at my PACE group people being so deeply sorry for me for having a c-section, but she was only 7 lbs at birth, the placenta was degrading, and there was meconium in the fluid. When I said that a C wasn't my worst case scenario, a stillbirth was, the reaction was still a shocked gasp that I would "scaremonger" about natural births.
A lot people are really, really deeply emotionally connected to the idea of vaginal births with no interventions. Science can't really stand a chance against emotions like those.
I hope everything goes well for you, OP. But I do think it's misleading that you started a thread about how nuts it is that they brought up induction at all of your appointments when your most recent appointment was literally for your 39th week. Of course they brought it up. It's the recommendation.
A lot people are really, really deeply emotionally connected to the idea of vaginal births with no interventions. Science can't really stand a chance against emotions like those.
I hope everything goes well for you, OP. But I do think it's misleading that you started a thread about how nuts it is that they brought up induction at all of your appointments when your most recent appointment was literally for your 39th week. Of course they brought it up. It's the recommendation.
Anonymous
12/17/2025 13:16
Subject: 39 and pregnant
Anonymous wrote:Change your providers. Being treated like that is not okay and not normal.
I was going to say this, too, but it sounds like she is very near the end maybe. I was 35 and 37 when I had my kids and my OB assured me I was not the least bit old to be having a baby. I am really sorry your experienced this.