Anonymous
12/16/2025 18:07
Subject: Re:FIL died
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Everyone who dies in MD will have an autopsy done unless a doctor signs an order saying they expected the death.
Liar!!! That's not true. Not even close.
You’re just like the person who can’t follow the plot!
If somebody dies, and nobody knows why or there isn’t a Doctor Who can say oh yeah, they have congestive heart failure, or there isn’t a hospice nurse that’s like yeah they’re on hospice… they go to Baltimore for an autopsy
Anonymous
12/16/2025 18:06
Subject: FIL died
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Stop OP. Go be there for your husband and leave your BIL alone.
It’s complicated. The IL family has been complicated, even my DH. I’m keeping my backseat and my sanity safe.
I came here just to know what other people usually do in this situation. That’s all.
There is absolutely nothing good that can come of your suspicions.
Why?
Anonymous
12/16/2025 18:05
Subject: FIL died
Anonymous wrote:I'm the person whose mother was bedridden at home under hospice care, and we suspect she OD'd on her pain meds. This was in MD. My father also died in MD, in the same house, 5 years later. He had been living with congestive heart failure for many years, and we were told it was a heart attack in his sleep. Neither had an autopsy.
They were under the care of doctors. I said in my original post if there is a Doctor Who will sign for the cause of death, there is no autopsy..
Hospice care!!! of course they’re not doing an autopsy OMG!
Congestive heart failure… I don’t know why you can’t follow the plot.
Anonymous
12/16/2025 17:41
Subject: FIL died
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Stop OP. Go be there for your husband and leave your BIL alone.
It’s complicated. The IL family has been complicated, even my DH. I’m keeping my backseat and my sanity safe.
I came here just to know what other people usually do in this situation. That’s all.
There is absolutely nothing good that can come of your suspicions.
Anonymous
12/16/2025 17:17
Subject: FIL died
I can tell you from very recent experience that losing a parent to cancer (or at all for that matter) is hard ... heartbreakingly, breathtakingly hard. If my DH were anything but supportive and had even dared to suggest what you are suggesting, I would have been devastated. Stop.
Anonymous
12/16/2025 17:11
Subject: FIL died
Anonymous wrote:Stop OP. Go be there for your husband and leave your BIL alone.
It’s complicated. The IL family has been complicated, even my DH. I’m keeping my backseat and my sanity safe.
I came here just to know what other people usually do in this situation. That’s all.
Anonymous
12/16/2025 16:44
Subject: FIL died
Stop OP. Go be there for your husband and leave your BIL alone.
Anonymous
12/16/2025 16:42
Subject: Re:FIL died
Anonymous wrote:Everyone who dies in MD will have an autopsy done unless a doctor signs an order saying they expected the death.
Liar!!! That's not true. Not even close.
Anonymous
12/16/2025 16:22
Subject: Re:FIL died
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Everyone who dies in MD will have an autopsy done unless a doctor signs an order saying they expected the death.
Autopsies are only done by the state if the death is mysterious or suspicious. If a 75 year old man dies in his sleep, they are going to scribble "cardiac arrest" on the death certificate and never look back. The family is welcome to pay for a private autopsy if they don't agree, but otherwise it's a done deal.
In this case, what would be the end game of making a fuss over the cause of death? FWIW, many death certificates are wildly inaccurate and frequently a best guess. It's a last gift to the family to not have something controversial (such as suicide) on the death certificate. Let this one lay while the family mourns. It is what it is.
you’re completely wrong.
Maryland law is that if a doctor is not going to sign a document saying, he knows exactly how you died then you have an autopsy.
Both my mother and my MIL died without a firm diagnosis and their death certificates literally have a 'best guess' on them for the cause of death. There simply isn't the staff to perform autopsies on every person.
Anonymous
12/16/2025 16:18
Subject: Re:FIL died
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Everyone who dies in MD will have an autopsy done unless a doctor signs an order saying they expected the death.
Autopsies are only done by the state if the death is mysterious or suspicious. If a 75 year old man dies in his sleep, they are going to scribble "cardiac arrest" on the death certificate and never look back. The family is welcome to pay for a private autopsy if they don't agree, but otherwise it's a done deal.
In this case, what would be the end game of making a fuss over the cause of death? FWIW, many death certificates are wildly inaccurate and frequently a best guess. It's a last gift to the family to not have something controversial (such as suicide) on the death certificate. Let this one lay while the family mourns. It is what it is.
you’re completely wrong.
Maryland law is that if a doctor is not going to sign a document saying, he knows exactly how you died then you have an autopsy.
Nope. You are the one who is dead wrong. Autopsies are rarely done, and there would be a months-long waiting list if every single person who died had to have one. Even if the death is unexpected, if the person was elderly they are not getting an autopsy by the state.
Anonymous
12/16/2025 16:11
Subject: FIL died
^^ Me again, there was no medical examiner at the house either time.
Anonymous
12/16/2025 16:11
Subject: FIL died
I'm the person whose mother was bedridden at home under hospice care, and we suspect she OD'd on her pain meds. This was in MD. My father also died in MD, in the same house, 5 years later. He had been living with congestive heart failure for many years, and we were told it was a heart attack in his sleep. Neither had an autopsy.
Anonymous
12/16/2025 16:06
Subject: Re:FIL died
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Everyone who dies in MD will have an autopsy done unless a doctor signs an order saying they expected the death.
What?! Since when? This didn't happen for us...
Who died. Under what circumstances?
Sometimes a medical examiner will show up to the house and sign the document. Did that happen?
Where was the person when they died?
Did the police show up?
Are you telling me that otherwise healthy person in your family died, and you just sent their body to the funeral home?
No. That’s not what happened.
Anonymous
12/16/2025 16:04
Subject: Re:FIL died
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Everyone who dies in MD will have an autopsy done unless a doctor signs an order saying they expected the death.
Autopsies are only done by the state if the death is mysterious or suspicious. If a 75 year old man dies in his sleep, they are going to scribble "cardiac arrest" on the death certificate and never look back. The family is welcome to pay for a private autopsy if they don't agree, but otherwise it's a done deal.
In this case, what would be the end game of making a fuss over the cause of death? FWIW, many death certificates are wildly inaccurate and frequently a best guess. It's a last gift to the family to not have something controversial (such as suicide) on the death certificate. Let this one lay while the family mourns. It is what it is.
you’re completely wrong.
Maryland law is that if a doctor is not going to sign a document saying, he knows exactly how you died then you have an autopsy.
Anonymous
12/16/2025 15:49
Subject: Re:FIL died
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Everyone who dies in MD will have an autopsy done unless a doctor signs an order saying they expected the death.
What?! Since when? This didn't happen for us...
+1
Autopsies are actually rarely done. The death has to be very suspicious or extremely unexpected, such as a teenager dropping dead. The family can pay for a private autopsy if they wish.