Anonymous
Post 12/16/2025 09:33     Subject: Re:Teen wants a grown up cold shoulder sweater
Get it tailored

I wouldn’t for do it for everything for a teen but that is a very specific look
Anonymous
Post 12/15/2025 15:28     Subject: Teen wants a grown up cold shoulder sweater
I don't have a teen daughter, but I've seen a lot of girls at my boy's HS wear cold shoulder with straps showing and what not. Just have her wear something under. It's in and not worth fighting about.
Anonymous
Post 12/15/2025 09:36     Subject: Teen wants a grown up cold shoulder sweater
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am unclear what you think is showing in that second picture? I was picturing large armholes on a sleeveless top.

If the part “showing” is cleavage maybe shorten the straps.


Nothing is showing in the second picture. I am saying it is so long and oversized like that on her.

But the suggestion about bandeau bra is good.


Long and oversized is how she wants to wear it. It’s not a style I would pick but there is nothing offensive about it.
Anonymous
Post 12/15/2025 09:24     Subject: Teen wants a grown up cold shoulder sweater
The top you linked is cringe inducing. I wouldn’t let my daughter wear it.
Anonymous
Post 12/15/2025 09:15     Subject: Teen wants a grown up cold shoulder sweater
I don't see the problem here OP

The one you linked is fine.

If it's too big take her to a mall and let her find one that she likes that fits.

Big whoop straps show.

This is a you problem.

Personally I think it is a horrible looking top you clearly did not teach her anything about style.

There are so many more of these on the market that are nicer.
Anonymous
Post 12/15/2025 09:12     Subject: Teen wants a grown up cold shoulder sweater
Anonymous wrote:get her a bandeau bra or shirt to wear underneath


Came here to say this. If she doesn't want straps showing (because I've seen plenty of girls who wear sports-style bras or athletic long line bras with this style sweater), then a bandeau bra will do nicely.
Anonymous
Post 12/14/2025 19:21     Subject: Teen wants a grown up cold shoulder sweater
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:“Showing everything?” Wow, shouldn’t she be wearing a bra and/or a tank top by the time she’s a teen? How and why would she “show everything” wearing any shirt? Bad parenting, OP. She should be wearing a bra by now.


OP here.

Kid is 14. She is small, wears a training bra and even with that when she bends down we can see through that bra.

This is what she wants: https://www.amazon.com/Shoulder-Sweaters-Pullover-Aesthetic-Sweater/dp/B0CLJFGHVC?

The second picture will show how it just hangs on a slim person.

I guess the suggestion to wear a cami along with sweater is fair. It won't go with the kawaii "aesthetic" she wants but its a good compromise.

Its just so huge and long on her though.



These are def not that bad
Anonymous
Post 12/14/2025 17:43     Subject: Teen wants a grown up cold shoulder sweater
Anonymous wrote:There are lots of stores that will have a style like that in smaller juniors fit. Search “off the shoulder” and look at tillys, pac sun, hollister, Brandy Melville, edikted, garage and look for their smallest sizes


I searched these places you mention but don't see anything with that kawaii thing she wants - lace or bows.

If anyone has any links to teen clothes like the one I linked, I would really appreciate it.

Anonymous
Post 12/14/2025 17:35     Subject: Teen wants a grown up cold shoulder sweater
There are lots of stores that will have a style like that in smaller juniors fit. Search “off the shoulder” and look at tillys, pac sun, hollister, Brandy Melville, edikted, garage and look for their smallest sizes