Anonymous
Post 12/17/2025 18:04     Subject: DD has been sending anonymous letters to her crush

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It depends on how many notes she is leaving. I would say if he is getting one per day, that counts as harassment.

Talk to her about that, and then she can decide how to proceed. Hopefully she will just stop.

OP here, I believe she has been leaving about a note per week since the beginning of the school year


That’s too many, I think. I would tell her crushes are fine, also little secret admiring is fine, but once per week for a semester probably doesn’t feel good to him at all.
Anonymous
Post 12/17/2025 17:41     Subject: DD has been sending anonymous letters to her crush

Anonymous wrote:It depends on how many notes she is leaving. I would say if he is getting one per day, that counts as harassment.

Talk to her about that, and then she can decide how to proceed. Hopefully she will just stop.

OP here, I believe she has been leaving about a note per week since the beginning of the school year
Anonymous
Post 12/15/2025 15:08     Subject: DD has been sending anonymous letters to her crush

It's not romance if it's not reciprocated. I'd say one note is fine, a note daily is creepy.
Anonymous
Post 12/14/2025 09:29     Subject: DD has been sending anonymous letters to her crush

My kid has and uses a locker. All the high schools around us have them.
Anonymous
Post 12/14/2025 07:20     Subject: Re:DD has been sending anonymous letters to her crush

My brother ended up marrying the girl who left anonymous notes in his locker in HS. They reconnected after completing college and hit it off. So who knows, maybe it will work out in the end.
Anonymous
Post 12/14/2025 01:45     Subject: DD has been sending anonymous letters to her crush

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:BS. No one has lockers anymore.


Why is this?/ My kid said only nerds use them.


My guess is that it’s because the kids don’t have textbooks anymore. That’s what we really needed lockers for back in the 1900s.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2025 20:07     Subject: DD has been sending anonymous letters to her crush

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:BS. No one has lockers anymore.


Why is this?/ My kid said only nerds use them.


First of all your kid sounds rude and second of all at my dd middle school almost everyone uses them.
I would really teach your child about hurtful language and how to be inclusive cause your kid for sure sounds like a mean kid.


The apple doesn't fall far from the tree

Seriously who uses "nerd" anymore except for someone who was proud to have "achieved" the top of the social hierarchy during their high school days
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2025 16:29     Subject: DD has been sending anonymous letters to her crush

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:BS. No one has lockers anymore.


Why is this?/ My kid said only nerds use them.


First of all your kid sounds rude and second of all at my dd middle school almost everyone uses them.
I would really teach your child about hurtful language and how to be inclusive cause your kid for sure sounds like a mean kid.


16 year olds aren't in middle school.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2025 16:25     Subject: DD has been sending anonymous letters to her crush

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Lockers? In 2025?


Ummm yeah... Most schools have lockers


DP. My kids’ schools have lockers but the haven’t used them since pre-2020.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2025 16:22     Subject: DD has been sending anonymous letters to her crush

My teen’s HS has lockers. Catholic HS in DC area.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2025 16:03     Subject: DD has been sending anonymous letters to her crush

OP, I really don’t think this is a huge deal. I have teen boys. They might be flattered or indifferent, but they wouldn’t be freaked out. Kids tend to know who has a crush on whom; all their friends are talking about it anyway. He likely knows who it is.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2025 14:19     Subject: DD has been sending anonymous letters to her crush

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:BS. No one has lockers anymore.


Why is this?/ My kid said only nerds use them.


First of all your kid sounds rude and second of all at my dd middle school almost everyone uses them.
I would really teach your child about hurtful language and how to be inclusive cause your kid for sure sounds like a mean kid.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2025 14:18     Subject: DD has been sending anonymous letters to her crush

Anonymous wrote:Lockers? In 2025?


Ummm yeah... Most schools have lockers
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2025 14:16     Subject: DD has been sending anonymous letters to her crush

Lockers? In 2025?