1) Maybe know you want to show off your house and maybe that’s offputting.
2) The RSVP deadline hasn’t even passed!!! If you wanted quicker RSVPs, you should’ve included an earlier RSVP date.
3) I think paper invites are nice, but let’s be honest. You could’ve split the difference and paid for Paperless Post. Much easier to track RSVPs and send out a reminder to people. And much more convenient for your guest to respond. They literally just have to click a link from their phone.
4) You picked an awful date but you refuse to hear that. Part of hosting is picking a date and time that makes sense to people. You wouldn’t host dinner on a work night at 11 PM would you? Similar concept.
5) Maybe you throw bad parties? Do you serve good food and drink? Have enough food and drink? Do people usually have a good time with you and your house? Do you invite offputting guests?

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Anonymous wrote:This is OP. I get that you might think this isn’t a good day for a party - fine, but in that case, why not just RSVP no? I’m not concerned about whether people are attending or not - rather, that they are not indicating which it will be.

Communication, people. This is my qualm.

It took me years to get that "didn't RSVP" meant "No, I'm not coming." Get, not accept.

Except in one case. One person RSVP'd YES on the eve of the party and then showed up. Luckily, a different rude person changed RSVP from YES to NO the morning of the party, so it worked out seamlessly.

This is OP and this is why I’m a bit irked- like, just let me know. I ordered and mailed these invites, hoping it would seem/feel more “special” than an evite.

O well.

Anonymous wrote:I’m exhausted thinking about a party between Christmas and New Year’s. That would be way too much for me. How old are you, OP? But maybe it’s not an age thing, you are likely just more social than me. I’m 49 and it’s just too much.

This is OP and it’s true, I’m very social and I love to entertain! We just bought a large house where I can finally throw parties so I was/am excited to bring everyone together. I understand that many people are introverted and the holidays are busy. I was just hoping to spread some cheer

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Anonymous wrote:I’m having a holiday party Saturday, the 27th. I sent out thirty invitations last Monday, and asked invitees to RSVP via text by the 13th. So far I have received three responses. Is this normal?

This is terrible and I’m so sorry op! People can be so mean.

BTW, are you BIPOC? Are the people who are not RSVP-ing white by chance?

Thank you! Yes I am and yes they are - how did you know? Haha.

Anonymous wrote:Luv it that in this brave new world "by" means "on."

Well if you're me, you're still working out with the family that's staying with you if they are leaving the 26th or 27th. Or maybe you're still deciding how exhausted you're going to be after Christmas. And you know you still have 3 days to make your decision. No use working yourself up over this.

Luv it that in this brave new world "by" means "on."

Anonymous wrote:This is OP. I get that you might think this isn’t a good day for a party - fine, but in that case, why not just RSVP no? I’m not concerned about whether people are attending or not - rather, that they are not indicating which it will be.

Communication, people. This is my qualm.

It took me years to get that "didn't RSVP" meant "No, I'm not coming." Get, not accept.

Except in one case. One person RSVP'd YES on the eve of the party and then showed up. Luckily, a different rude person changed RSVP from YES to NO the morning of the party, so it worked out seamlessly.

It's ok to have a party that day, but if people are in town, parents may not know their kids' or relatives' schedules and it's going to be hard to RSVP this far in advance.

I’d set a reminder on my calendar and reply on the day it’s due. RSVPs aren’t due for another 3 days.

I think it's an ok day for a party. Not everyone has kids visiting or work that weekend. Sorry for the uncertainty and hope it's a fun event, OP!

Anonymous wrote:This is OP. I get that you might think this isn’t a good day for a party - fine, but in that case, why not just RSVP no? I’m not concerned about whether people are attending or not - rather, that they are not indicating which it will be.

Communication, people. This is my qualm.

I think it’s more the people who just don’t know when their family commitments are yet. If they have kids coming home from college, they may not want to other them to check on plans while they are still in finals, for instance. Hopefully the people that will be out of town are polite enough to rsvp promptly as a no.

Anonymous wrote:I’m having a holiday party Saturday, the 27th. I sent out thirty invitations last Monday, and asked invitees to RSVP via text by the 13th. So far I have received three responses. Is this normal?

This is terrible and I’m so sorry op! People can be so mean.

BTW, are you BIPOC? Are the people who are not RSVP-ing white by chance?

I’m exhausted thinking about a party between Christmas and New Year’s. That would be way too much for me. How old are you, OP? But maybe it’s not an age thing, you are likely just more social than me. I’m 49 and it’s just too much.

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Anonymous wrote:Is this people with children, or older people? People with children are all going to be out of town by then.

People just get on here and say whatever, I swear

Do you really know multiple families who will just be home without plans over winter vacation?

Uh, yeah, it's end-of-year close for a lot of people

Most people I know work at offices that close that last week.

The finance team is probably working!

Finance and accounting ALWAYS have to work yet their work is not valued.

As someone who works adjacent to the accounting team, I appreciate you!

My lawyer spouse has a hearing that week I can't remember the last time we actually took an entire week's vacation. Maybe when we got married. In the aughts.

Sorry to hear that no one has responded yet, but like some of the previous posters mentioned, there are still some time until the last day to respond. Don't lose hope!