Anonymous
Post 12/11/2025 11:27     Subject: I hate being responsible for all the cooking in my house
As an empty nester and widow, I never cook a real meal. If I want a good meal, I go out to eat. I have never enjoyed cooking.
Anonymous
Post 12/11/2025 11:21     Subject: I hate being responsible for all the cooking in my house
I have read some articles lately about the extra work load married women take on whether SAH or WFT. It is what it is OP...that's what most women will deal with when they get married. Try simple things...tacos, pasta, baked meats, sheet pan meals, stir frys. I keep A fresh tub of cut up vegetables and salad so everyone can at least fix that for themselves.
Anonymous
Post 12/11/2025 00:41     Subject: I hate being responsible for all the cooking in my house
I couldn’t agree more. I don’t mean this as some kind of humble brag, truly, but I have lost like 20lbs since before I got pregnant the first time. I am just SO OVER the constant cooking and meal prep, I don’t even feel hungry anymore because I think I associate it with stress and extra chores.
Anonymous
Post 12/11/2025 00:03     Subject: I hate being responsible for all the cooking in my house
Anonymous wrote:When my kids are grown I don't think I will ever cook ever again. I hate it. I also don't really care about food. I will sometimes remember at 3pm that I haven't eaten yet for the day other than a cup of coffee. I like good food when I am eating it but I don't ever THINK about food all day. My husband is the opposite. He constantly is thinking about what is for lunch and dinner. Its so annoying. Then I have young kids who I am solely responsible for making sure they are fed healthy meals every day. I am over it. Rant over.


Funny how people are so different. I don’t think that’s ever happened to me a single day in my life…

Anyway - agree with the other posters about husband and kids pulling more weight, if it’s not your thing. We involved our kids in the kitchen as early as two or three and by seven or eight they were starting to make full meals for us. It’s more time consuming for you up front, but it’s quality time with them and also the time investment has eventual payback. Kids love doing grown up things and are super excited to make a meal for the family.
Anonymous
Post 12/10/2025 20:40     Subject: I hate being responsible for all the cooking in my house
One of the things I do to keep me sane is I go out to eat with friends a couple of times a week without my family. It feels like a luxury to have someone put food in front of me and clean it up. It makes it less tedious for me to cook dinner for the rest of the family 5 nights a week- and I never do clean up.
Anonymous
Post 12/10/2025 20:34     Subject: Re:I hate being responsible for all the cooking in my house
I am so glad the OP made this thread. Meals are literally the bane of my existence and the cause of a lot of conflict my house. No matter how hard I work or how much time I devote, no one is happy. In addition to not having my kids’ clutter thrown all around the house, not having to plan meals is probably the thing I most look forward to about being an empty nester. I didn’t realize my feelings were so common.
Anonymous
Post 12/10/2025 20:08     Subject: I hate being responsible for all the cooking in my house
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Amen sister

Its the meal plannnning that is the worst. Thinking about what four other people are going to eat 3 times a day over and over and over again.


You only have to do this once per season and then cook on a rotation. If you really hate it, use a system.


This, and it’s also a good reason to invest in a large freezer and a couple of sets of quality food storage containers that go from freezer to oven or microwave.

Spending a weekend day once a month batch cooking while consuming rom coms or something makes it much less painful. You can build multiple casseroles, lasagnas, etc. and fill the freezer which gives you at least a couple of days per week for a month or more where all you have to do is take something out to the fridge to thaw while you’re working, then warm or cook it when you get home. Nothing to do really but set the table and fill the dishwasher afterward.


Doesn't work with picky eaters, food allergies, etc. I make at least two dinners a night. Kids sports, eating at different times, endless cleaning up the kitchen, i'm so over it to OP.
I started buying the Whole Foods family meals once a week and can get a few dinners for some people out of them, and frozen TJs dreck. I'm so done.
Anonymous
Post 12/10/2025 09:11     Subject: I hate being responsible for all the cooking in my house
Anonymous wrote:When my kids are grown I don't think I will ever cook ever again. I hate it. I also don't really care about food. I will sometimes remember at 3pm that I haven't eaten yet for the day other than a cup of coffee. I like good food when I am eating it but I don't ever THINK about food all day. My husband is the opposite. He constantly is thinking about what is for lunch and dinner. Its so annoying. Then I have young kids who I am solely responsible for making sure they are fed healthy meals every day. I am over it. Rant over.


Can you afford to hire it out?
Anonymous
Post 12/09/2025 22:12     Subject: I hate being responsible for all the cooking in my house
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:When my kids are grown I don't think I will ever cook ever again. I hate it. I also don't really care about food. I will sometimes remember at 3pm that I haven't eaten yet for the day other than a cup of coffee. I like good food when I am eating it but I don't ever THINK about food all day. My husband is the opposite. He constantly is thinking about what is for lunch and dinner. Its so annoying. Then I have young kids who I am solely responsible for making sure they are fed healthy meals every day. I am over it. Rant over.


Are you the OP of this thread https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1251187.page that was on the Foods Forum?


Op here - no but seems like it’s a familiar theme!
Anonymous
Post 12/09/2025 21:40     Subject: I hate being responsible for all the cooking in my house
Anonymous wrote:When my kids are grown I don't think I will ever cook ever again. I hate it. I also don't really care about food. I will sometimes remember at 3pm that I haven't eaten yet for the day other than a cup of coffee. I like good food when I am eating it but I don't ever THINK about food all day. My husband is the opposite. He constantly is thinking about what is for lunch and dinner. Its so annoying. Then I have young kids who I am solely responsible for making sure they are fed healthy meals every day. I am over it. Rant over.


Are you the OP of this thread https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1251187.page that was on the Foods Forum?
Anonymous
Post 12/09/2025 20:48     Subject: I hate being responsible for all the cooking in my house
Anonymous wrote:I could have written this! I hate all of it. From the weekend meal planning to the grocery shopping to having to stop work to make a meal that everyone likes. I’m 2 years from having an empty nest and when that happens, if I cook at all, it will be something that I want to eat. DH doesn’t know yet he’ll be on his own….


Wait til the come back home because they can’t find a job/one that pays enough to get their own apartment!!!
Anonymous
Post 12/09/2025 20:45     Subject: I hate being responsible for all the cooking in my house
I just spent 2 or 3 hours washing, chopping, and cooking, and looks like I now have to do the dishes. Not sure why it takes me so ling. like healthy home cooking but it is so time consuming.
Anonymous
Post 12/09/2025 20:28     Subject: I hate being responsible for all the cooking in my house
SAME.

I already announced that when my younger child goes to college I am done with cooking.
Anonymous
Post 12/09/2025 16:43     Subject: I hate being responsible for all the cooking in my house
Everyone in my house got super picky and I stopped. I am not a personal short order cook for them. My kids are teens and they are welcome to eat what I make or cook for themselves. So the past 6 months they have taken me up on that and cooked for themselves. I am done with DH being the fussiest in the family and he’s on his own too.

I make dinner for me and me alone. I offer whatever I’m making to anyone else and they almost always say no. I’m happy to eat really simple now and tired of trying to make them all happy.

I do miss family meals though.
Anonymous
Post 12/09/2025 16:43     Subject: I hate being responsible for all the cooking in my house
I know right? As a gen Xer, I spent most my life avoiding food and trying to eat as little as possible to maintain a size 2.

Now I’m primarily responsible for feeding 3 other people healthy meals and snacks every day?! I’m still not used to it and never will be.