Anonymous wrote:We lived in separate apartments 2 minutes walk from one another. Tried to stay together, DV occured, and ended up just co parenting. 2 minute drive instead of walk now. We switch off nearly every day, sometimes multiple times a day, kids don't seem to mind it, though I would change that if they seemed deregulated over it.

Sometimes we have spent Xmas morning together (not the overnight part). For bdays we do cake/sing together, and this year doing a bday party together. Otherwise everything is separate.

Oh I see, before we broke up. Ummm yeah lots of DV. Not fun. Didn't last long especially since it was a 1 bedroom. I would go to my parents frequently, so they just bought me an apartment lol. I help pay for it now.

We lived in separate apartments 2 minutes walk from one another. Tried to stay together, DV occured, and ended up just co parenting. 2 minute drive instead of walk now. We switch off nearly every day, sometimes multiple times a day, kids don't seem to mind it, though I would change that if they seemed deregulated over it.

Sometimes we have spent Xmas morning together (not the overnight part). For bdays we do cake/sing together, and this year doing a bday party together. Otherwise everything is separate.

What is the residential plan? It seems like dad is being phased out by "he works late" or "he went to work early" to get the kids adjusted to dad not being present in their lives. I think that is an issue if dad is and intends to still be an involved parent. It shouldn't be presented as I am here and he isn't.

So what is the plan and why are you partially separated but not just moving on? Decide where you both will be living and then create a parenting plan and get the kids used to dads house and moms house. Living arrangements should be similar standards of living for both parents.

Since you are already sleeping in different houses and talking to the kids about dad no longer being around, it is time to just separate if there is no chance of reconciliation.